2006-07-17 23:00:23 · 31 answers · asked by sure 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is incredible how many people seem to be attracted to those who are already attached. It is almost because they are attached that many people are interested in them in the first place!
However dating someone who is attached is bad news and something that you should not do. Here's why:
If you really like them, then you will get frustrated that they can never commit too much time to you
They are clearly unethical as it is not fair to date someone else when you have a partner
A leopard doesn't change its spots: even if by some miracle they do move on to you then you know what they are capable of and therefore trust will always be an issue to you.
Too many people spend time fulfilling the fantasies of someone else who thinks it is great to have two or more partners in the hopeless thought that they can change them, when really that person is just having their cake and eating it.
Dating someone who is married or going out with someone else also shows a lack of respect for yourself - you should deserve and feel you deserve someone who can commit all their time to you and is only interested in you.
Remember this if you ever get tempted to get involved in a complicated relationship like this!
Hope this helps~
2006-07-21 08:12:46 · answer #1 · answered by Bon Bon 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The age difference is going to be a problem and will end up destroying you.
I assume the man has a settled life with his wife whom he vowed to love forever. He may have feelings of a mid life crisis, his needs are not being met, or he just wants to have some fun.
You provide relief for him. Maybe you have fun together and he enjoys the feeling of making someone new happy. And I'm sure you look good on his arm too. I'm sure he teaches you things about life because he is older and knows more about things. I'm sure the sex is amazing because you enjoy the feeling of a man desiring you and I'm sure you enjoy pleasing him.
This man will continue to use you as long as you let him. You will fall deeper in love than he will although he will promise you the world. He may say he will marry you and will divorce his wife, but there will always be something stopping him.
One day, this man is going to sit there and evaluate his life. If he has any heart, he will wonder how he could do this to his wife. He will look at you and see how young you are. Maybe he will think that you have your whole life ahead of you and you will be able to move on. Of course, he will feel a little insecure because you are so much younger. He will wonder if you will leave him in a few years because he can't keep up with you any more. Maybe he will get sick of teaching you new things, or will think that some of your funny antics are not so funny.
He will decide that he wants the stable home life and will walk away from you without looking back. He can do this because he has a wife at home. You will be heart broken and will wonder how he could do this to you. You'll have to pick up the pieces and move on alone...knowing that you wasted part of your life with him.
So, age may not matter in a relationship but it does matter when the man is married. He is not looking to leave his wife, he is looking for some fun.
If you can do this without getting attached, knowing that he will leave then by all means have fun with it. But if you can't take the heart ache then leave now while you have a chance.
2006-07-18 00:30:05 · answer #2 · answered by torn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal to date to whom you are attracted. The Age matters only when you are too young and do not understand what you are doing.
If u like a person, 15 Years older to you and you think you are matured.. just go ahead.. but makes sure that he also think
like you and not taking you for just fun.. Check his problems.. if he is honest and have guts to accept you ther is nothing wrong..
Marriage is a committment but have apurpose also.. If both of them are not happy and have a way out to handle the marraige responsibilties nothing wrong in dating with such a guy
2006-07-17 23:07:49 · answer #3 · answered by kiran_421501 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the age is not the problem hes married and do you honestly think your his first affair you know the saying once a cheeter always a cheeter and how do you know the wife already doesnt know about you and she may not give a crap like some women that stay for other reasons other than love like $ and lifestyle ,children you are like a flavor of the month besides why would you want a disloyal man he can marry you and do the same thing dont get excited fat chance...good luck move on dont get hurt and think of others feelings.
2006-07-18 01:13:23 · answer #4 · answered by nicole l 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm dating a girl 38 yrs younger and I'm married, she's single, so your situation is not that unusual. Divorce is pretty common in many countries, you should consider how common in yours. Men like younger women and generally have better judgement the older they get and therefor are more experienced in choosing their mates.
We don't have enough info to blow him off yet. There may be a future for you.
2006-07-17 23:06:27 · answer #5 · answered by hellbent 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you shouldn't be dating him if he is married. This breaks the laws of God. Second of all, why do you have to settle for a broken down old man or woman anyway? They are too old for you as you will find that you have no common interest. if you do have common interest it probably shows that that person will never grow up and 10 years down the road you will have no common interest. Dump them now! And get yourself into a relationship with God before its too late.
2006-07-17 23:10:32 · answer #6 · answered by Godb4me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess u shudn't be doing all this intil and unless u r sure bout the fact that he will really look forward to u in his life and lead to some important decision keeping u in mind.
U shud be carefull and understand that he is still married.
Maybe ur heart is clean and u truely love him but u need to make sure that he is also serious bout u and not playin any kind of games with u .
2006-07-17 23:07:30 · answer #7 · answered by Mellesa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the 15 years older does not bother me any....unless you are under 18.....but why would you want to be it with a married man, leave ,married men alone....even if you were ever to win them over....who would the next girl that would come along, and take him from you
2006-07-17 23:11:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, it's a wonderful affair!
...for the guy!
He's getting the young touch while his wife is at home thinking he's out working late.
He will bang that young thing and use her for a while before she gets dumped.
OR...
maybe he'll fall in love with her and leave his wife and kids to run away and the two of them will live happily ever after.
ya think?
2006-07-17 23:05:07 · answer #9 · answered by bogart_that 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think its right, but if that was me dating the older married guy then I'm not sure, its difficult to do whats right when you fall in love, but if he loved me and was genuine then I would expect him to leave his marriage!
2006-07-17 23:05:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋