My friend is dying of cancer, even if her chances of survival are slim, how do I make her last days worth it, by showing her love and caree? By the way she is bedridden!
2006-07-17 22:53:14 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
She may want to talk about it, do not be afraid to ask if, she wants to share her feelings with you! Many times people and family will not allow the person to share! Is she still able to communicate? If you are close to her, just being with her can be helpful. Remember, though she is dying, you being present will be healing for her. Let her know how important she is in your life and has been. Maybe she does not want to talk, hold her hand, ask if she wants you to read, have music played, see if there is something special she can eat. Share memories, let her share, let her be quite, are there things you can do to help her meet her last wishes? People are often unsure to say anything, because of their being uncomfortable, this will be a wonderful oppourtunity for you to learn, and to be able to grieve when that time comes. Fear not the pain of grief, it will help you get through this. This is her time just be you . I am so sorry, for your comming loss, but again you will gain something from this experience! Soon my son will be gone two years, and I have days that the tears keep on running down my face, and my heart breaks for life will never be the same. (LEADBELLY) WHAT IN THE WORLD DO YOU MEAN, SOUNDS LIKE A VERY UNCARING PERSON, I FEEL SORRY FOR YOU (LEADBELLY),WISE MOUTH)!
2006-07-17 23:53:07 · answer #1 · answered by my4dogs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats too sad..................I guess the best u can help a person in sickness is to spend quality time with person. U shud try and spend time with her so that she doesn't feel lonely but don't make her feel restless.
Try and show her some kind of nice positive movie where ever she is......................if u and she believes in God then read out passages from ur respective Holy Book
All the Best
2006-07-17 23:02:41 · answer #2 · answered by Mellesa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, never show her your tears. Secondly, make her believe she'll get better. Cancer can be cured if she just changes her diet and really stuff herself with vitamins and stuff. Thirdly, don't pity her, treat her as you would before she got cancer. Lastly, help her pray. Prayer is a good source of inner peace and who knows, miracles still happen.
2006-07-17 23:13:55 · answer #3 · answered by Equinox 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to here about your friend. All u can do is really be there for her and comfort her and show u do care and love her.Also help around with her house or apt. or other matters that need to be taken care of. God bless.
2006-07-17 23:11:59 · answer #4 · answered by jerryhmusic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out what she enjoys music, books, magazines, flowers gooooood food but most important make sure all he friends and loved ones spend lots of time there.....
2006-07-17 22:58:28 · answer #5 · answered by jen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you still need to prove yourself by showing your love.
what I would do is just be there, talk about the things she like,..
don't try , just do .. if you know her a long time you'll found it just goes without thinking 'what do I have to do know?'
2006-07-17 23:00:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her what are her dying wishes and help them to come true before she passes....
2006-07-17 23:05:59 · answer #7 · answered by Rock N Roll Saved My Soul 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's ok, just ride her in bed.
2006-07-17 22:57:12 · answer #8 · answered by leadbelly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋