Look around u and think about all have happened, isn't everything all based on conditions, no exception?
U are loving a person? If she does not have the look that u like, would u like her? Ok, u don't mind her, but if she does not have the character u appreciate, would u stil like her? Even if u do not mind her look and character, if she does not care for u and love u, would u love her? That's why i concluded that everything is condition-based.
2006-07-17 21:42:04 · 15 answers · asked by a V a 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
A mother loves a child is based on condition.. The mother loves the child because it is her child with her blood.
2006-07-17 22:05:32 · update #1
Very good observation. It's true that everything comes with a condition. But I think the whole phrase of loving someone unconditionally really means "how much can you forgive." Because, as you stated, we attach ourselves to people on certain conditions--looks, similar likes/dislikes, character, etc. But how many of those conditions can you forgive or let go of to make that relationship work?
Funny thing about relationships is that we all do what we say we don't. For instance, we're not supposed to "judge a book by it's cover," but we all do. When a girl sees a guy that she likes (or vice versa) her like is based on how he looks...because she doesn't know him yet. Right? When two people get to know each other, in order to make the relationship work, they forgive certain things/quirks--bad habits, personality traits, character flaws and so on.
So to answer your question, I don't think there is true "unconditional love." Everything anybody ever does is based on a set of conditions, whether good or bad.
2006-07-17 21:52:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
False. Not everything is based on conditions. A mother loves her child unconditionally. Even before the child is born or the childs face is seen. (well most mothers) Now if that's possible, then anything is possible. I love someone unconditionally. We're both with someone else and we can never be with each other but we know the feelings we have for each other and we know that those feelings will be there no matter what.
So it all ends up being the person. Some poeple put conditions on everything others just take life for all its joys and sorrows. :)
2006-07-17 21:51:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that’s exactly the love is. If you take away the things that make you love the person well of course you wont love him/her.
That’s like saying if I took orange out of the color red would it be red? No ...you took a primary color out of it...it be..I dunno ..green whatever.
So if you took what you fell in love with out the person its a different person...therefore of course you wont love that person anymore.
Now if your asking...can you love someone based on those things, then they changed...or did something to sooo radically alter the way you saw him, that you end up hating him. Its a matter of...knowing if the person is still the same. Or whatever is wrong can change.
Unconditional love means that you don’t have special expectations attached to that love. When you love someone..its beyond how the look..or what they might do..because you know who they really are. I love my mother....I don’t care if she losses all her hair and...blows up to 1000lbs...id still love her.
With that said...not a lot can say they truly love. Its a powerful emotion...and is often confused with great affection. Love is something you see in a person that connects with you in a...higher way. Love is separate from sex, though they are intertwined. Its a deep caring for a persons well being...take a friend whom you love...you don’t have sex with her..or him, but god you’d do anything for them. That’s love, it may not be love with the passion you have with a mate. But its unconditional.
When you love someone..its usually forever..the bond is pretty strong. But again I mean real love, not great affection. Or lust, or infatuation.
When you say, she doesn’t have the look you like, that’s frivolous. Her character? You mean..is she smart? Or witty? That again relates to color analogy above. And yes sometimes the things we love hate us. Its why so many love poems have been written, and songs.
Love isn’t something you can put a condition on, if you do..then it isn’t love. Its just great affection.
People have killed for great affection. They have killed for less. Just shows how great and rare love is.
2006-07-17 22:06:44 · answer #3 · answered by Darkmaven 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dun agree with you. I believe that when you love someone it should be unconditional like your love for your family members. When you love someone,even they do not care for u or love u, u will still wish them happiness. Am I right to say that? This type of love is also unconditional.
If your love on someone is conditional, it looks like a business deal coz you dun really love that person. You only love him/her based on the fact there maybe somebody gaining more than the other party.
2006-07-18 00:27:41 · answer #4 · answered by Clown & Joker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you can love close family unconditionally but the people you meet as you get older the more conditions you place on them and of course you will be let down at some point. So the answer is either dont place conditions on people but you will be messed around or place conditions and potentially be let down!
2006-07-17 21:50:18 · answer #5 · answered by PJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-08 01:15:45 · answer #6 · answered by grumney 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are so right.
Even God's love is not unconditional. The only exception could be people who love their amphibians and reptilian pets - those newts or snakes have no looks and no personality, but the owners love them just the same!
2006-07-17 21:53:18 · answer #7 · answered by Lee S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I agree almost every relationship is conditional. And I don't see what's wrong with "loving your girlfriend because she is charming and smart," or "mother loves her babies because they are her treasures." I cannot imagine what would unconditional love feel like, wouldn't it feel like nothing? Would it be like the same love to the dog on the street and to you? Or the same love to her ex and to you? My point is : human love is conditional and there is nothing wrong with it.
2006-07-17 23:18:31 · answer #8 · answered by Lune 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your wrong you only thinking in situations where you have something to gain i.e a partner ."if i love you, you have to love me". in this case you are 99% right. but what of a fathers love for a daughter can this not be unconditional? mind you i know it's not 100% buy it's a lot higher than 1%.
2006-07-17 22:02:48 · answer #9 · answered by Orselo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A person would fall in love only after he knows everuthing about the gal and liking her the way she is. and then the love is unconditional. if there are conditions, its not love. its a kind of business.
2006-07-17 21:47:25 · answer #10 · answered by fayaz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋