I work in a small organization as a marketer/sales officer, i joined the company about 9months ago, and i share an office with a colleague who has been with the company for about 4yrs.
Initially she was very helpful but i have since learnt the basics of the business and i can go out marketing on my own, lately she has been acting very cold towards me, sometimes when i ask her questions, she can hardly hide her comtempt for me, when she answers. For a while now i have been pretending not to notice but i dont know how much longer i can take it. How do i approach it without making enemies, she is older and i respect her, so i want to be very mature in my approach.
2006-07-17 21:35:32 · 12 answers · asked by lady p 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Seems like I am having a same situation like you. For me, since she is reacting in that way, just be it. You are not going to give in all the time despite we also don't want to end up in an ugly situation. Just talk to her when there is a need to. To be honest, sometime I feel like quiting my job but think back, I don't see the need to...I did tried to have a good talk with her but she still behave in that way, so, forget it....
2006-07-17 21:45:27 · answer #1 · answered by pn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know its a small company but is there anyone else you can ask for advise instead of having to go to her?
Sounds like you are doing well, have learnt the job and are out there making your mark. Do you think she is jealous or even fearfull you will 'out do' her?
omg you share an office with her too. my condolences. dont' you wish you could just tell her to act her age, not her shoe size?!
I guess you either pretend not to notice or have it out with her the next time she treats you like that. Sorry, thats a very tricky one. Why should your happiness at work be held to ransome by HER.
People that do this at work really piss me off!
2006-07-18 04:47:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
would just straight out confront her and ask her. Say something like.... Recently, I've noticed you've been acting different towards me, is there something I said or did to upset you? When you come out straight out like that, you ope the door to clear the air. If she denies, evades, then you know to just ignore her. Maybe you did nothing but she's just jealous. Just let her know that you want the both of you to work in harmony, and then let it go.
Personal issues like jealousy, should not interfere with work ethics. Good Luck.
2006-07-18 04:40:36 · answer #3 · answered by grldragon101 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just leave it alone because she will not tell you what the problem is anyways try to just be overly nice invite her to lunch or out for dinner after work. Pay her some compliments to just boost her ego. She probably feels threatened by you and does not even realize it yet her self.
2006-07-18 04:39:46 · answer #4 · answered by smooches986 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
simple my friend, i would ask her what is the problem and ask her why is she all of a sudden being like this to you, maybe you did something to upset her, and you don't realize, or maybe she is just a little b i t c h, either way confront her so you can find out where you stand.
2006-07-18 04:39:35 · answer #5 · answered by pebblesandkara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she may be getting a bit jealous now that you cannot use her expertise huh? Fake it around her, make her think she is still important.And that you could not have done it without her.
2006-07-18 04:42:31 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her u respect her but by acting like tha she is making a fool
out of her self.
2006-07-18 04:39:11 · answer #7 · answered by Carly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her for her advise on how you can improve at the job. That is so open ended that she is bound to tell you what is wrong
2006-07-18 04:38:26 · answer #8 · answered by researchtissue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Discuss with her,know the reason,measure it,evaluate it then solve it
2006-07-18 04:39:22 · answer #9 · answered by Mohammad G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi pal she wants u to be successful in ur life.so she predents to be upset
2006-07-18 04:45:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋