i NEED to tell my friend she has BO how do i tell her?

Question

I need to tell my freind she has BO how do i tell her?

Answer 1

First ask if you can be straight with her about something personal (better to warn her you're about to make a harsh observation).

Then tell her you have a keen sense of smell and you've noticed something smells a little off on or around her lately.

First just let her react and hopefully take it as a hint to make some personal hygiene adjustments.

If the problem continues, ask her if she could be one of those people that sweats more than most and could use extra showers.

If that fails, recommend she see a doctor. There actually may be a medical condition involved.

Final note: Sometimes poor hygiene habits are a symptom of depression. The person has let themselves go and lacks motivation to do basic chores, including washing up. If she seems depressed, show your concern and recommend she see her doc. Hope this helps.

Answer 2

I gave an answer to another question earlier, where my answer to that question included an example that may help you.......

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As said by others, it depends on the situation. The intent of the person doing the telling is probably the best indicator.

I recall a friend in high school that did not use deodorant because he did not believe that he had BO. I could tolerate the smell, but just barely, but the rest of the class talked about him behind his back. I also know that he lost out on a few dates because of it. During a school trip, he shared a motel room with me and two other guys. While we dressed for a dinner event during the trip, I casually tossed him my can of Right Guard and said, "Here, try this new scent. The one you have been using is the one my granddad uses." He made use of the spray and later, when we were alone, he asked why I did that. He went on to say he knew that some people made fun of him, but that he did not believe them because he could not smell himself. I told him that the use of the deodorant was not for himself, but for everyone else. During the discussion, I did not make fun, and I did not turn it into something personal. I did my best at being detached and clinical about the topic. The only lighthearted part was when I tossed him the can of deodorant. I tried to do that in a way that avoided causing him any embarrassment.

Hmm... is this where I say that this kid grew up to own some fortune 500 company and now I live off of the stock he gave me when the company went public? I wish!! :) It is a true story, nonetheless. (The deodorant part is true, not the fortune 500 company part.)

Some busybodies that think they have the right to impose their values on everyone around them. Most find unsolicited personal advice from busybodies to be rude. Who wants someone that you do not like to tell you that you wear your pants too tight? That type of advice has no constructive intent, only destructive intent. I have no problem telling busybodies to “mind their own business” when they overstep good manners.

I hope that helps….

Will D
Enterprise AL

Answer 3

Most people with BO are very clean and shower every day. They have a condition and sometimes it need something stronger than a regular deodorant. You could start by giving her that little snippet of information and then subtly suggesting that she should get herself checked out.

She's going to be hurt however you tell her, but she needs to know. It would be best coming from a good friend that a stranger in the street!

Answer 4

Just give her a good stick of deodorant and tell her to go to town with it.

Some people do not smell as good as others, by laws of nature.

Maybe she wears deodorant, but it isn't an anitiperspirant. That itself makes a world of difference.

Is she Indian? I've noticed (no offense) that people from India have way bad BO. My wife had a friend in college that she nicknamed "stinky" due to this problem.

Answer 5

You could always forget to put you deodorant on and wait till you start to smell then hint that you forgot to put your deodorant on and apologise for the smell and maybe this could bring up the conversation about what deodorant your mate uses then get them to change to the one you use, or even better they may admit that they don't use one so you can ask but doesn't your body produce bo if you don't use it.............. something along these lines would be good....
Or you could always just pretend to all of a sudden smell bo and smell yourself to see if you mate smells them self then admits that its them>>>>>

Answer 6

How about buying her a can of your favourite body spray / deodorant and saying 'This was 2 for 1 in the shop, have my spare can....' something like that. YOU STINK is a bit harsh, will probably lose a good friend saying that! But def dont stop the conversation until youre sure she understands where youre coming from. Good luck! :O) x

Answer 7

Tell her that you are doing a test on new antiperspirant and ask her to participate. Give her the brand you use. Make up a survey about it asking her to rate it. To make it a "real" survey, give the deodorants to a few more friends along with the survey. This way, she will use the anti-perspritant without being insulted and your friends might have fun with it too!

Answer 8

secretly buy her a nice brand of deodorant and pull it out ur bag infront of her and ask her if she has tried it before, she'll say 'no'..then explain to her that YOU had a little problem with BO, if you admit to it yourself, then she'll probably admit to it too...but explain to her how good the deodorant worked for you and now you don't have BO at all..give it to her as a little present, I'm sure she'll appreciate it...good luck..xxxx

Answer 9

Will D really wants those points eh!

Well you start like this "Hey girlfriend! some o' those be-atches last night were sayin' dat you had really bad BO and you know what I tend too agree!", whilst handing her a bar of soap and a bottle of deodorant!! GOOD LUCK!!

Answer 10

Tell her gently that you have noticed something different about her hygiene. But tell her when she is alone with you otherwise other people might start poking fun at her. If she is a true friend she will thank you for telling her.