I'm 19 and my boyfriend is 22. We arn't planning on getting hitched any time soon. We're currently looking for apartments in order to move in together.
Right? Wrong? What's your take on this? Give explenations please.
And honestly, we're going to do it no matter what ya'll say, I'm just curious what others think about two people "living in sin," as it were, in this day and age.
(Yes, we have sex. I just know it'll come up.)
2006-07-17 21:14:51 · 19 answers · asked by Girl Wonder 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Additional info: We've been together about a year now. We practicly live at eachother's houses anyway; I've got a toothbrush at his place along with several changes of clothes, sleep over there about 3 nights out of 5...
And to the "wait till marriage" people... I'd rather learn if my guy has any weird habits or is completly impossible to live with before I make such a huge commitment, ok? :)
2006-07-17 21:40:02 · update #1
I think that whenever you know that the two of you are financially ready for it than hit it up. We live in a different era now than our parents or grandparents did. It is accepted now because of how many people do it. Don't even listen to the people that tell you all the bad things that can come of it, because like anything else in this world there are always "chances" that something could happen. Good Luck!
2006-07-17 21:20:04 · answer #1 · answered by stinkybeardedclams 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you are going to do it no matter what anyone says then why ask the question.
I would think the wise thing to do is to see what people have to say and then make your decision. I am tired of hearing people say and think that we are living in modern times so therefore the Bible and God's rules are out of date. I can only look at the divorce rates and broken homes and broken hearts see that us people today can't even make it on their own without God.
If you do a little homework you will find that the chances of couples who live together staying together is very slim.
Plus living together isn't a real commitment like marriage. From a man's point of view , if the woman gets a little annoying or becomes a nag - then we can go our separate ways. Love grows into sex. Sex never grows into love. Anyone can do sex. It doesn't take a rocket scientist. But to love is so much better . Marriage is the right way to do things. It is a total commitment and when the man says he loves you and wants to marry you - that is the most he can give. Living together is why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free.
What happens if you get pregnant ? Marriage provides security for the child. But in this day and age- marriage has lost it's meaning. It is unfortunate. People get into and out of marriage changing spouses like changing clothes. That is sad. But there are those out there that take it seriously.
2006-07-18 06:40:10 · answer #2 · answered by mrgogee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right.... you will be living in sin. But since you plan to go ahead and live together without the benefit of marriage, nothing can stop you but yourself.
I don't know why people want to live together when they have not decided to stick it out for good. The good thing about marriage is it encourages you to work it out and smooth the edges.
What would others think? People nowadays do not give it much thought.... if they did, they can end up being disgusted with todays morals.
Listen, it's difficult enough trying to live an upright life, and the polluted air that you breathe around you does not help much, does it?
To answer your question categorically, it is wrong and being convinced that there is nothing wrong will not make it less wrong. I think people should move in when they get married. That's how we did 38 years ago.
Good luck.
2006-07-18 04:29:15 · answer #3 · answered by vercast 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm Christian, I'm sure you can guess pretty accurately what I think from that angle. Yes- I think it's a sin, no- I didn't have sex before I was married, yes- we sort of lived together while we were engaged, no- I don't think it's a good idea.... 'Nuf Sed.
Research shows the average life-expectancy of the relationship of a couple that lives together without being married to be 2 years, so don't be too surprised if you break up within the next 1-3 years...
2006-07-18 04:29:47 · answer #4 · answered by Yoda's Duck 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
From experience, DON'T DO IT!!! I've tried twice and have not been successful. You're too young and life's too short. Take your time and get to know each other. A client of mine gave me some good advice. She said to go through the 4 seasons before even thinking about moving in, let alone marriage. That way you get to see them under different stages of stress and how they work/deal with it. But this is from my experience. You have to come to your own conclusion. My best advice is to follow what your heart and gut tell you. It's usually right. And I wish you the best of Luck=)
2006-07-18 04:29:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget the word "sin." If you two are happy w/ your decision and you aren't hurting anyone, then go for it. Life is short....do what makes ya happy! Sidenote tho: You are so young, why would you want to complicate your young, carefree lives w/ a commitment of that type?? Stay young and carefee AS LONG AS YOU CAN! There will be many years ahead of you to play house and deal w/ the "big people stuff."
2006-07-18 04:25:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but it depends how long you have been together. If you have been together less than a year I would say no. But over a year, yes. If you have maintained a strong relationship for at least a year, living together is a great step. I have lived with my girlfriend for 4 years now. We still have not planned a wedding but we have a great relationship. So good luck.
2006-07-18 04:21:24 · answer #7 · answered by Jon H 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should move in with each other after the wedding. Why the wait to do the proper thing. Why are you willing to sell yourself short of the full relationship?
Show yourself some respect and get married.
2006-07-18 04:21:34 · answer #8 · answered by answer annie 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
move in if you like but just make sure that u realy wamnt it because it would be useless to break up just after a few days after moving in. and make it clear that u divide the work 50 don't do all the work urself in order to please him nor make him do all the work. try to work together best do laundry alternativly and make clear who watches tv when and u two will be great!
2006-07-18 04:22:02 · answer #9 · answered by Raveesh 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
These days definitely do it before marridge....
"TRY BEFORE YOU BUY", no what I mean.
You wouldn't go and buy a pair of jeans without trying them on first.
The whole living in sin thing came from a million years ago, it doesn't apply to our modern way of life
2006-07-18 04:25:35 · answer #10 · answered by Ichi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋