Does anyone have any ides how to tell a really good mate they need a really good wash....REGULARLY!!??
One of my best friends' personal hygene is really bad... He doesnt wash or wash his clothes very often, he doesn't brush his teeth & he smells sooo bad. I love him dearly & I'd never hurt him but all of my other friends know he needs to be told & it looks like its gunna be up to me to do it. He still thinks he's totally hot & wonders why he aint doing so well with the ladies lately!
I know if it was me, I'd want someone to tell me but how can I let him know that I'm doing it for his own good & not just to be a b****?
Please help, I really wanna help him.
Thanks & no cruel comments please!
2006-07-17 21:07:27 · 33 answers · asked by Jen A 1 in Beauty & Style ➔ Skin & Body
Im afraid your just gonna have 2 tell him the truth.I think he would appreciate it more if you said something rather than let ppl talk behind his back.If your really gd mates then he will realise this.
2006-07-17 21:12:13 · answer #1 · answered by woody 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be straight he would feel a lot better if he heard it from someone close to him and that loved him. Some kids make fun of people for that. You're not trying to hurt him you just want him to be happy and healthy. Because that is not healthy. Let him know that you are not trying to be mean but that he should probably think about taking a shower and getting cleaned up. Buy him some AXE body wash and spray or tag and tell him you saw and smelled it and it reminded you of him. And the girl he likes loves this smell. You'll do fine whatever you decide to say to him. Better you then someone he does not know. Good Luck Hun.
2006-07-17 21:55:29 · answer #2 · answered by littlepussycat_05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you've noticed recently (even if it's been going on for months) that he's letting his personal hygiene slip - and you're concerned that it might indicate that he's depressed or unhappy.
If you imply that it's only a recent thing then he'll take comfort from the fact that you consider his mingingness to be out of character.
Don't whatever you do let on that anyone else has noticed - that would be very humiliating for him. Just say that he doesn't look as good as usual - is there a problem?
Good luck (you sound like a great friend).
2006-07-17 21:16:50 · answer #3 · answered by Hello Dave 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you have to be honest yourself with the person who is close to you. I was in college when I observed that my roommate had terrible eating manners. He slurped his food, talked with his mouth full, didn't wipe his mouth, and anything else you can imagine. I finally decided to tell him his manners were terrible! He refused to talk to me for the best part of a week then, after looking around at all our peers, and realizing that he was really out of step with the rest, he came to me and apologized and thanked me for pointing his problems out, and we are still best friends, and it's been some 42 years since that event happened.
You can just try showing this answer, or some other answer you happen to receive from your question, or perhaps an answer from an "Ann Landers" newspaper column that better makes your point, to your boyfriend. If he doesn't get the point and responds to you politely immediately, or within a few days, then perhaps you don't need him after all. Oh well, or so it seems to me.
2006-07-17 21:19:56 · answer #4 · answered by jcorcor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally know what you feel. Because my best friend, she had the same problem. And to tell you the truth, I never had a word about that. I do agree that friendship must be based in sincerity but for me, that would go against all my principles.
I think everyone has to reach the conclusion that we live in a society, therefore we have to take care of our hygiene... Do as your heart tells you to do, best wishes!
2006-07-17 21:35:24 · answer #5 · answered by tuga 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just pull him to one side and have a heart to heart with him, sit him down and say something like 'you know how much you mean to me as a friend and i want to tell you this as a friend so please understand that i'm telling you as a friend , the thing is everyone including myself have noticed your hygiene is quite bad' if he is a real mate he will understand you telling him this afterwards if he decides he wants to spruce up kindly offer beauty products he can buy that you would recommend. Good luck I hope this helps
2006-07-17 21:28:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Poor you. What a position to be in. I think you're going to have to just tell him straight off Maybe you could put it in a letter so you don't have to face him and he doesn't have to look you in the eye when probably all he wants to do is cry. You may lose him for a while, but he'll eventually come round.
Good luck honey
2006-07-17 21:13:36 · answer #7 · answered by Patchouli Pammy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just pull him to one side and say that you don't want to hurt his feelings but in i kind voice tell him how you feel about him and explain to him about his personal hygiene. If he is a true friend he should understand and probably thank you. Hope you choose to do the right thing.
2006-07-17 21:17:01 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to be subtle, you could try pointing out similar faults in other people to him, just things like "I wouldn't go out with him, he smells, probably only washes once a week", or something like that... He may get the hint that way.
2006-07-17 21:13:01 · answer #9 · answered by edwin_ambrose 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
okay sweetie i had a problem like this one i brought my friend( a chick) a goodie bag from walmart. it consists of cologne, bodywash, loofah and lotion. then i bought some deodorant and put it in the bag and the next day i said you are a very good friend and i wanted to get you a gift for being a awesome friend. try that !
2006-07-17 21:35:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋