How would u deal with this?

Question

How would u deal with fear of something which might or might not happen?The incident is almost a year back.But the memory sometimes haunts me.Cant share with people bcoz the issue is too old now n people would laugh at me.I am also aware tht i've given n still giving it too much importance. So, the two options that i see are 1. Treat it as a perceptional problem (lack of trust in people and self confidence). 2.Handle it with proper advice(which as i've said too old to share). Plz suggest me.

Answer 1

I think you should talk with psychiatrists (or psychotherapist).
And calm down, I'm sure that everything will be OK.
Best regards from Belgrade!

Answer 2

First, ignore any smart *** answers here. Know that we ALL have fears.
If something bad has happened in the past, we fear that history will repeat itself, too. I read a book called "How to Stop Worrying and Start Living" by Dale Carnegie. I think it was written YEARS ago, but the advice still rings true. Most things that we worry about do NOT happen. You most likely ARE giving your past problem more importance than it deserves, and knowing that helps you put it in thepast where it belongs. Begin building your self confidence with positive self talk, and don't worry about others for now. There are great people in the world and jackasses (just look at the answers people give here...examples of both!) If you need therapy, fine. If reading a book, such as I did helps, that is great too. Just know you are not alone, and take it one day at a time. A year seems to be a long time, but more time will help heal more as well. Best wishes.

Answer 3

Difficult to suggest anything without particulars. But most people "start at shadows" - forming scripts in their head. There's a place for anticipation and forward planning - but vague fear is useless, and usually simply a means of avoiding confronting issues, dealing with them, and getting on with life. It is debilitating, disempowering. I've learned, at sea and everywhere else, including relationships, to "stand on quietly and all will be revealed" ... in other words respond to reality as it emerges. Who cares how others react? Laughter cannot hurt you - but it might tell you who are worth keeping as friends and who are not. No issue is ever too old to confront and deal with. If it is worrying you, dealing with it is not giving it too much importance, it is giving it the importance it warrants. It's better to get it out in the open than living with what I call "a snake under the bed". Hope that helps. Can't make any suggestions on the "perceptional problem" view without knowing more - but you, and the problem, are never too old to share proper advice!

Answer 4

You are not giving enough information to answer this properly. I am concerned about your first option however. Lack of trust and low self esteem are not perceptional problems. Lack of trust is usually a symptom of unjustified heartache or putting ones faith in something that was not what they thought it was or wanted it to be. A lack of self confidence is most often the result of 2 things. Immaturity or being made to feel lacking in some personallity charactoristic.
This does not help you much though I am afraid.

Answer 5

heres a thought, when trauma happens in our life the soul can become fragmented, you may never truly leave this behind you until you reclaim that lost part of you.there are many books on this subject. i highly recommend Alberto villoldo mending the past healing the future with soul retrieval, you may find it simpler to find a shamanic practitioner to do this for you. but i would suggest reading the book to understand the process. I've had this procedure done and it truly helped me. just make sure you trust the person who does it for you. feel free to contact me if you have any questions.

Answer 6

You recognize the issue, I dont believe someone or something is too old to have value, any previous experience can change the life of the person and other´s, if is "haunting" you is because was and is relevant in your life.

You said that "cant share with people bcoz the issue is too old now n people would laugh at me..." please don´t include me in that sentence, I wouldnt laugh...if you want to share something and chat sometimes please write me frankomty(a)yahoo.com

Answer 7

This could very likely be not a philosophical but a psychological/medical problem. If these things are haunting you after a year/s time and you could not overcvome by yourself, I think it is time to search professional help!especially because this could be just the first "symptom", and you could stop development of some pathological diseases early enough!

Answer 8

It is impossible to change the past. Life is too short to live in fear. If you think people will laugh then this isn't a matter of life and death. Move on and hopefully you have learned a lesson from this unfortunate event in your life.

Answer 9

2. Handle it with proper advice. Whatever you are hiding from in your waking hours will appear and haunt you in your dreams. As with facing ALL your fears, you need to face up to the situation and get it over with. Then your feelings may be resolved.

Answer 10

Put on some Rob Zombie, Metallica (the harder stuff) or something similar, and get in touch with your anger. Then face the fear and smash it in the face. Don't do it half way. Give er all ya got.

Answer 11

just knowing ur 2 choices is more than some ppl have...ur able to make ur own mind up hun...u almost have...just go with the gut feeling...if the problem still haunts u is BETTER to seek medical or psychological advice....its no laughing matter...the mind and body is ur whole reason u live...so dont neglect either... no problem should be left that long...seek help and do it for u no one else ...tc hun... : )