2006-07-17 20:38:22 · 20 answers · asked by Xena 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oh, I forgot to mention that we have a great sex life and we have been married for 23 years!
2006-07-17 20:45:55 · update #1
My husband is fixed....so no spreading of his seed thank God, oh, and we have 4 kids.
2006-07-17 20:51:34 · update #2
This is happening right now while I'm online. I came home from work today, and noticed his truck at the pub. I let it go. Then I had to go and pick up my daughter from work and his truck was gone, but, I found it at another pub/motel in town. I stopped and put a note on his truck asking why he was there and not home...signed HIS WIFE!! I went home and changed (cuz I was in my pj's), came back and he was gone. So, he got my note, but, when I got home, he wasn't here. It was the 6th sense or gut feeling that told me this!!
2006-07-17 20:56:54 · update #3
there are no excuseses for that type of behaviour it is the weakest thing any man could do to a trusting loving woman.Some men and yes I am man but some men just try to get out of a rut and turn to other women for sex it is not the answer the answer is right under thier noses and they don't even realize it.Unfortunately some men can't see it and therefore go and destroy a perfectly happy relationship all for the pleasure of sex
2006-07-17 20:43:15 · answer #1 · answered by flying_eagle_72 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Real answer: Men's natural urge is to spread their seed as much as possible in order to survive. They want their genes to live on. You see it in nature, with alpha males having multiple partners in their herd. I'm not saying this is an excuse, by no means does this make it ok. I'm just answering the question at hand. Unfortunately for humans, it's the act of making heirs now what men are into. Evolution, huh?
This contributes to the thought that men want what they can't have. It's really just that they want more, and always will. No matter what any guy says, he will always other women and wonder what it would be like to be with her at multiple points in a relationship. That's just how men are. It just depends on whether or not he is strong enough to resist the urge and cheat on theoir partner. In your case, I'm afraid he wasn't and it's a shame.
2006-07-17 20:48:44 · answer #2 · answered by NF 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wouldn't go off if he didn't think there were problems in the marriage. It would have been best if he had told you about the problems first. I can't explain better than it happened to me after 20 years of marriage. I didn't realize anything until he left me for someone else. Turns out they had been together for two years. She broke up her family and he broke up ours. Years later she had used him and made of fool of him so much that he nearly had a break-down. He even apologized to me. He couldn't explain why he did it. It was something about not being happy. He couldn't even tell me why he was unhappy. I hope your hubby will talk to you. If you can get together for a long discussion of why he is acting this way you could save your marriage.
2006-07-17 21:05:04 · answer #3 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Monogamy is a social learned behavior that goes against the primal male instinct to mate with as many partners as possible.
2006-07-17 20:43:14 · answer #4 · answered by Bad-Bird 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did you fall in love with him because of his honesty, care ness or charm, cool, money etc ? if you chose him other than honesty and care ness then you should accept it. many girls don't even waste their time to check out honest man and can't resist a so called cool-guy. so later blame men instead of own choice. a cool-guy must go for many girls as he put effort to be a cool guy. i believe a serious, preservative girl can find a real guy by recognise instinctly own nature.
2006-07-17 21:05:14 · answer #5 · answered by Ray 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may think you weren't having troubles, he might not have told you....men aren't too good at that, it's the little ones that creep up behind you and become the big ones without you even knowing it.
2006-07-17 20:43:36 · answer #6 · answered by dude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure there are not troubles? Do you come on to him or does he always come onto you? My wife stopped coming on to me and it makes me feel like she doesnt want sex.
I could never cheat on her!
He is taking you for granted and it must stop!
2006-07-17 20:55:13 · answer #7 · answered by donc5150 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its like tat. when a man encounters something, the 1st thingy tat comes to mind is sex and sex with no strings attached. very often we will regret it after the intercourse and we know but stil the tempation is stil 2 strong.
2006-07-17 20:43:03 · answer #8 · answered by he 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because imature men think with the head in their pants rather then the head on their shoulders..
2006-07-17 20:41:10 · answer #9 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he may have seen faults in the realtionship when you didnt... communication is key. he could be some sort of antisocial guy with a hint of apathy
2006-07-17 20:42:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋