I'm thinking about becoming married. Is it OK to be friends with past ex-lovers/girlfriends/boyfriends after we marry? Right, wrong, risky, impossible, OK, moral, immoral? What is the norm, or acceptable in our society?
2006-07-17 20:29:32 · 9 answers · asked by runninfool 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I argued too many times about this with my husband standing up for the right to be friends with an ex , I finally came to realize its not worth it , they are just like poison to a commitment , who's more important ? My husband is .
2006-07-17 21:21:49 · answer #1 · answered by insertstrawhere 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I dont at all think its a bad thing, as long as everyone gets along. They dont have to be friends, but they have to be able to get along, for you. Who cares what society thinks? There not living your life, you are. I am 24, married and have been for 6 yrs. Happily married. We met in High Sch. We have been together for 7 yrs. He is 23. I talk to an ex here and there, and do have a couple that are friends. My husband isnt friends with them, but he is totally secure with himself!
2006-07-17 20:35:43 · answer #2 · answered by lil_carebear2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the situation. My husband is still friends with his ex b/c they have a son together. He isn't friends with any other ex's and neither am I. I also have a son and his father and I barely speak. I don't think its ok b/c it might make your soon to be husband/wife feel uncomfortable, and its not worth it. Don't do it behind her back either b/c if she finds out...it will be really bad!
2006-07-17 20:35:34 · answer #3 · answered by JustMe! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
risky very risky
in marrige u will deal with great times and bad onse
maybe the bad day u will find an ex who is still in love with u there to give u a hug things goes emotional........
thats just a small examble belive me its better not to stay in touch with them its to risky!!
2006-07-17 20:36:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you don't have a problem with it and you mate doesn't mind then go for it! It's only inviting trouble if you ask me. they are ex's for a reason. Why keep them around. You may not be ready for marriage. Give it some time.
2006-07-17 20:33:26 · answer #5 · answered by itsmeee2006 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you love your spouse and there is no temptations with the ex and your spouse is ok with it then I would say it is ok.
2006-07-17 20:34:30 · answer #6 · answered by wisegal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
long as u do cross the line and you soon to be life long mate doesn't have a problem
2006-07-17 20:33:47 · answer #7 · answered by Clara S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how your mate feels about it. If he doesn't like the idea, don't do it, and don't do it behind his back
2006-07-17 20:33:02 · answer #8 · answered by Velociraptor 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes
2006-07-17 20:35:56 · answer #9 · answered by ang 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋