Are the parents dysfunctional or is it something else?

Question

I have a good friend who is in her 20's and she has a younger sister who is in her 20's as well. They have two parents the dad is a judge and the mother stays at home and doesn't work because she has diabeties. The sisters live at home.The mother was adopted, the father was not but, his parents passed a few years ago. The mother takes the older sister who is my good friend everywhere because she does not drive. She takes her to work, Jenny Craig, and the bar. The mother takes her to the bar and picks her up. She goes to the bar once or twice a week. Problem is she 215 pounds and drinks heavily there and picks up old men in their 50-60's. She does not follow her Jenny Craig diet at all. She has astma. And, she asked her mom if she could date one guy in his 50-60's and the mother said yes as long as you meet at a coffee shop. The younger sister cusses at the mother usually when it is her month she does not take meds for her PMS. Are the parents dysfunctional or is something else?

Answer 1

it sounds to me the family has a habit of just sweeping things under the rug and putting on the image everything is okay. Where's the dad? BUSY working? Where's the mom? Living through her kids, and their problems have rubbed off onto the girls. Communication IS Desperately needed here.