I hear some of women say that they want to wait until they're older to get married so that they can "get established in their career". That sounds bass ackwards to me, since it's harder to take time off from work at a point when your career is more demanding. Having kids also takes more out of you when you’re older, and the kids aren’t always as healthy. Finally, you have to consider the fact that older women are less desirable to most men than younger women are. Basically, men fall in love with young women. There's middle aged men who love their middle aged wives, but that's only because they fell in love with them back when they were young. I've actually heard of women getting married for their FIRST time when they're in their 40's, and having kids ... their kids will be born right around the time that they should be getting out of college.
And for God's sake, you're women, not "wymyn". Get that (feminist) chip off of your shoulder (those of you that are feminist, that is).
2006-07-17 19:20:58 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
i dont know where you went to hear that??
2006-07-17 19:25:45 · answer #1 · answered by rekha c 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
In this time, wymyn (lol) have alot more choices than their grandmother did. That generation were expected to marry right away, be a housewife, live for their family and husband with no thoughts of their own dreams. Today's generation now have a wide range of choices that wasn't available back then. The best thing about this is that it also freed up the men from their expectations to be the sole breadwinners. Now, they are allowed to be a caretaker also for their family.. it works both ways. The good news is that everyone now have a choice. It's not about all feminism or anti. If you want to stay home, you can. If you want a career, do it. If I had children when I was younger, then my inexperience and impatience would have damaged my kids. Being older, I have more patience. Sometimes!
2006-07-17 19:30:31 · answer #2 · answered by sacredmud 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think that just because a woman wants to establish herself makes her a feminist. I commend women who want to educate themselves and progress further whether it be focusing on school or a career. Plus why is it so damn important to get married all of a sudden? Is it a social requirement? Are women who get married younger winning a race? No. You get married when you are ready to, anything else before that is simply a sham marriage. And I don't agree with men falling in love with younger women, obviously you don't see very many couples walking down the street of 50 year old men with 20 year old wives. You are never to old to fall in love or have someone fall in love with you. Plus, I should think that a well-established and educated woman would be a desirable trait.
If all you believe is that life for women is one big race to see who gets married and has kids first, then I am sorry but you are missing part of the big picture here.
2006-07-17 20:20:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
They're told this lie that they can easily wait to have children...problem with that is, a woman's most fertile time, I've read, is age 18-25.
I was married at 20. I'm still married to him--13th anniversary next month. My husband wanted to wait to have children and I gave birth at 28.
Personally, I believe women should stay at home unless the family's economic situation demand that she work. Children are much better off with their mothers than in daycare.
These people saying that 18 or 20 is too young need to realize that people treat the college age as an extended adolescence. Parents need to train up their children to become responsible adults. Childhood should be mostly a time of learning--not say children shouldn't play, but play shouldn't dominate childhood quite so much.
2006-07-19 12:19:41 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm not a feminist and I am not into premarital sex. I am 45, female, single, and perfectly happy that way.
Women in general, are not as "sex" minded as men, so their intellects are freed up to pursue other things, if nesting is not their first instinct.
I went into teaching right out of college. I am the kind of person who is devoted to the people I serve, whether in an employment capacity or in a volunteer capacity.
I have been in love...had my heart broken once or twice...but life is too full of opportunities to waste a moment of it pining for a husband.
I have plans...if I meet someone along the way who shares my vision and can handle the fact that at 45, I'm pretty much set in my ways...I'm open to consider marriage.
I am sure that I am not the only woman who feels "complete and whole" without being married. I suspect that might be some of the reasoning.
2006-07-18 14:47:19 · answer #5 · answered by scruffycat 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Getting a career is a load of bollocks.. However, women don't have a lot going for themselves so the only thing they look forward to is a carreer, whilst most of us men go to the pub, or go fishing, hunting and play sports,..... Because life is about living and not some craphouse job.. This explains why so many women are so up tight.
Me.. I'm 47. Played until I was 40, when I set up my own company, and 42 when I chose a wife 20 years younger than me and we're both really happy together with our lovely boys..
Sounds good to me..... LOL
2006-07-17 19:35:49 · answer #6 · answered by simsjk 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Women want to make sure that they can support their children financially before they have children, so their kids have better lives.
If a woman asks for time off from an entry level position, she could just get fired instead. If a woman has a good reputation at her job, shes less likely to lose her job or feel stressed out about work then if shes trying to deal with a newer job and a child.
Men DON'T always fall for young women. (You know some WEIRD guys)
My parents got married at 25, waited 10 years then had my brother and me. Just because youre married dosen't mean you HAVE to have kids. My parents said they just wanted to enjoy each other for the time.
2006-07-17 19:29:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anne 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
"And for God's sake, you're women, not "wymyn". Get that (feminist) chip off of your shoulder."
I like that quote. As for women getting married when their older, I agree that this makes no sense to me. Theyre less desireable to men, and career, children could be an issue. Its cool to find a girl 24 yrs old who isnt panicing about getting married soon though.
2006-07-17 19:26:44 · answer #8 · answered by cmil8 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
1st of all, it's not called feminism. It's called choice. Women are better educated now compared to 60 years ago. Marriage is not mandatory. It has become one of the option. Just like if one decides to be come a homosexual. During our grandmother's period, it is a life cycle. Grow up, get married, have kids, have grandkids, have great grandkids and die. At that time, their concern is just who will marry them. Now, women choose who they want to marry and when. Some choose to establish career 1st, some choose to establish it later.
2006-07-17 22:11:14 · answer #9 · answered by delusionale 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't know.
Personally, I don't want to wait until I'm older, if I could I'd get married now, some say I'm to young (I'm 17)
but my best friend is married and she seems happy and yet she's only a month younger then I..
I guess everyone is different from each other though, so each their own.
2006-07-17 19:25:42 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Butterfly Kisses♥ 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I live in the UK and young marriage (under 30) has a massive divorce rate. when I went to all of my friends weddings I wondering how long til the divorce. I went to 6 weddings of people under 30 and 5 divorce within 10 years
2013-12-11 23:50:25 · answer #11 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋