goodnight/goodbye?

Question

everytime i say goodnight or goodbye to my bf i always cry...y would this b? is this normal?

Answer 1

You question got my attention. And I'm bored so here's the long answer. Hope it's worth something.

Could this be a button on loss or disconnecting from someone you care about?

A button is something that makes a person get upset. Everyone has different buttons. They come from past incidents that involved pain, unconsciousness, heavy loss (like death of a loved one) or heavy painful emotion.

The person cannot remember such painful past incidents. There's too much pain in them. They're too hard to look at and they become forgotten. (They're not really forgotten, just pushed away because it's too hard to look at. Any "forgotten memory" can be retreived using the correct techniques.)

The past effects the present. When the present approximates a past, "forgotten" painful incident (i.e. seeing a dog almost get hit by a car and getting horribly upset because you have a painful past forgotten incident of seeing a dog get run over by a car), the person is launched into some or all of the pain and upset of that past incident. The person is totally unaware of why it's happening. They're unaware because the source of the upset is from these painful past incidents that the person has "forgotten." And then the person is confused about their unexplainable or odd behavior.

Maybe your situation is somehow approximating a painful past incident you're not aware of. I guess I can't convince you of this. TIR (Tramatic Incident Reduction) is one way to reveal and remove the pain from such painful past incidents that negatvely impact a person's behavior in the present.

If you can accept this, then just know that when you say goodbye, an unseen and unknown buried memory or memories are causing this upset because saying goodbye to your bf in some way approximates the memory or memories. The mind is trying to protect itself - whatever the bad thing was that happened in the past memory or memories, the mind is bringing that pain into the present to make the person avoid the situation or remove themselves from the situation because the present is approximating the past painful memory, i.e. the mind is saying "warning - danger - something like this happened in the past and it was a horrible experience so this present experience must be avoided."

So it is normal? Yes. Only a few people on earth have cleaned up their minds and gotten control over these memories that are secretly and negatively effecting them. They are happy and free people. But you are not your memories, so when the upset comes when you say goodnight, you are free to decide not to get upset. Recognize IT'S NOT YOU, it's something else, and you can choose to ignore or silence this something else. The way to truly be free of things like this is doing TIR or the body of knowledge it derives from, which I won't mention here.

Answer 2

Goodbyes are hard for some people. There is the implication that you may not see each other again. In some cases, you don't. There is something that sounds so final about goodbye, the end, you are leaving, not knowing what will come next. I dislike them myself. It is pretty normal though, for some people. Try to think happier thoughts, don't dwell on it as being the last time you are seeing someone, but on the possibility of it just being a temporary thing.

Answer 3

you're probably afraid of losin him..u think it will be your last goodbye or goodnight...its okay..just think more positive...

Answer 4

You are a very tenderhearted, sensitive, and emotional girl.

Answer 5

you seriously need to get a grip on life

Answer 6

It means your in love with him

Answer 7

yes sweetie it's normal

Answer 8

hahah thnx for the good laff.

Answer 9

that mean that you are very sensitive , rare to find in this time.