The Guy that Takes Your Virginity...?

Question

My mother always told me the one thats takes your virginity will be the one for forever..Is that true..because i know ive been with this guy for 13 months and we've had sex for the first time last month..and he took my virginity i felt good because i knew he wasnt with me for sex obviously because he waited for a year but i was so inlove with him and im not sayin the sex was bad i mean i loved it for it being my first i guess i wouldnt know any better anyways but i still love him but im not in love with him i was happy he decieded we could wait but now i lost all respect for him and i dont understand why and i wont have sex with him anymore and im ready to leave him for another that i dont even feel will wait that long..im kinda confused so can yall answer me that question are you supposed to be in lve and cant never forget the person that took your virginity..

Answer 1

Don't worry about it. Every relationship is a learning experience.
You've learned something, don't stop learning, but don't pay so much to learn your lessons next time either (Although.. not that you can exactly, but you get my point).

Answer 2

I don't really know why you've lost respect for him. That doesn't make much sense to me. Maybe you actually lost respect for yourself and are taking it out on him. Either way, you are are realizing that you made a mistake by losing virginity to him because even though you love him, you aren't IN love with him and now you want to move on.
Move on, most people don't end up being with the one who took their virginity. I wanted to save myself until marriage and when I didn't, I thought I wanted to be with the guy I lost my virginity to forever...Well thank God that didn't happen.
I won't ever forget him, but that doesn't mean that's a good thing.
Just learn from this and try not to make the same mistakes again and take the good things with you.

Answer 3

Yes it's true what ur mom said u usually do fall 4 the 1 who takes the virginity, maybe u thought u were in love w/ him and instead u love his ways. There r all different type of ways 2 love a person. Maybe u love him 4 him. Maybe also ur friendship means more 2 u w/him and that wuz something u guys shared.

Answer 4

Apparently something happened when you had sex that gave you second thoughts about your relationship with this person. If he hasn't changed, but you now feel different you should examine these new feelings you have and figure out why they exist before you make any changes. You may not be able to, but you should try to understand why you feel the way you do, before you make any drastic changes. No real reason to be in a hurry. It would probably help if you had a close friend to jab about this with. Do what you feel is right, but think it out first. If you have to break up with him, try to be nice about it.

Answer 5

No, it isn't always true. I was with this guy for 3 years, and after two and a half years of dating, I finally gave him my virginity. Well, as soon as he got what he wanted, he became a sex addict, always wanting it everywhere, anytime he wanted it. I wouldn't give it to him when he wanted it, and so...a couple of months later, he cheated on me with my best friend. No, I suppose you can't forget the one who 'popped your cherry', and for some people, it's lust, not love. So perhaps this one isn't the One. Just be patient; you'll have plenty of time to find the right one for you, and it isn't always going to be the first guy that you had sex with.

Answer 6

I lost mine to a no-good girl. Regretted it. Would I have married her? Only if she were the last girl in the solar system, she was a billionaire, her father owned a distillery and she got some serious corrective surgery.

Your reaction is neither normal nor surprising. wait a bit. Popping can be an emotionally tumultous time. Don't do anything brash.

Answer 7

I think being in love is replaced by loving. My first love and I lost our virginity together with each other. Yes, I still love her but realize it wouldn't do for us to actually be together. I think your mom may have been more accurate to say your first true love will be the one you love forever, even if at some point you both move on.

Answer 8

Sex isn't everything. Its important in a stable mature relationship but it isn't everything and its not for every relationship. Honestly, you shouldn't be having sex with guys unless you plan to have their babies. Sex is fun but you have to deal with the consequences if anything happens. Now that your not a virgin anymore, don't use that as an excuse to have alot of sex. I doubt your mother ment that you would spend the rest of your life with the man you lost your virginity to. She probably ment that the man you loose your virginity to should be the man you plan to spend the rest of your life with. Sex can drasticly change the rest of your life in one night. Be careful.

Answer 9

Well, by the look of your English skills, I would have to say that it was very bad of your English teacher to take advantage of you like that. But considering that if you stop having sex with him, you are going to fail your English class. Just remember, next year you will have to get used to sleeping with a different English teacher, so don't get too used to Mr. Williams.

Answer 10

its a path that you will regret be true to you heart and if you don't want to be with him just let him know but don't go bounce back in and get with someone else because its a pattern that Will be very hard to break.... GOOD LUCK HUN

PS your still young sex is the last thing that should be on your mind find someone that you will love and that will love you back and everything will work out.

Answer 11

So how old are you sweetie??? The guy you give your cherry to usually isn't the guy who will be with you for very long. What you like in a guy at 13,14,15,16,17, or even 20 isn't the guy who you will want as a husband 5 years from now. And, he didn't TAKE your virginity honey, you GAVE it to him, let's be really clear on that one......