I'm gonna go out with this guy i met in myspace.com ....is it safe?... i'm not too sure about it... i still have time to say no... but i'm not sure... i'm not the type that goes out and stuff ...i am a little bored ...and tired of being home ...cause i really don't have friends to go out...so i want to go out... is it safe to go out with this guy?....
2006-07-17 18:24:18 · 15 answers · asked by Lizzeth 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
First, identify what kind of age difference there is between the two of you. This would depend on your believing what he says. If you do believe in your gut that he's telling the truth, you can take steps to meet him in person, which are safe.
1) Talk to him on the phone once or twice before meeting in person. Get his phone number and call him. Do not give out your phone number. Be honest and tell him that you are not comfortable giving it out to someone you don't know. If he still presses the issue, cease all contact immediately.
2) Meet in a public place, like a coffee shop or mall food court where there are lots of other people around.
3) Bring a cell phone with you and arrange for a friend to call you at a specified time DURING the date.
4) Make sure someone else knows where you're going and how long you plan to be. Have a plan in place to call this person at a specific time after the date.
5) DO NOT give him your full name, address, home phone number, or tell him your place of work or school, until you have met him in person several times and are sure that he is completely genuine. If you have any feeling at all that he is not genuine or if he is pressuring you for this information DO NOT give it to him. He should respect your decision. If he continues to press, leave and cease all contact with him.
6) Pay for your own coffee or food if you have something. Don't allow him to pay in case he might expect something in return.
7) Don't allow physical contact on this initial meeting. That can wait until you are comfortable that he is genuine.
8) Don't allow him to follow you home or even walk you to your car. Let him leave first. Tell him you have to go to the washroom or do some errands or pick something up first, but "it was really nice to meet you, have a good night!" This is a firm but polite way of ending the meeting.
9) Don't be dishonest and lead him on if you are uninterested. If you meet and you are not interested in meeting again, e-mail him at home (don't confront face to face, this could be dangerous) and let him know that while it was nice to meet him, you don't see it going anywhere and you don't want to waste his time or yours pursuing it, and wish him luck in his continued quest.
I met my husband online and I followed all of the above guidelines. I dated many men I met online and following all of these rules kept me safe. My husband didn't get my home phone number for a couple of weeks after we first met!
The most important thing is to be safe. It can be safe as long as you are smart about it.
2006-07-17 18:42:09 · answer #1 · answered by LindaLou 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
This depends on how old you are. If you are 18, I would advise meeting in a very public place, for an informal meeting no strings attached.
If you are under 18 I would avoid contact with anyone you met online. You wouldn't want to get this other person in trouble unduly, and more importantly you wouldn't want to get into trouble yourself.
Meeting someone on myspace.com is completely different from meeting them in person. I would advise spending more time with real people, in the real world. School and Church are both great places to meet people with which to develope meaningful and fulfilling relationships. While this is not impossible through the internet, it is very unlikely, and a certain degree more dangerous.
Either way, if you do go, make sure the place is public, and that you have a way to leave if you want to. Always take a cell phone, and let others know where you are going to be.
Tiger Striped Dog MD
2006-07-17 18:30:12 · answer #2 · answered by tigerstripeddogmd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Meet the person in a public place. Do lunch first and not dinner. Much safer that way. Stay away from liquor and go dutch. Do not give out any personal information even if he is pressing for it. Treat it like a blind date. Most of all, use common sense. If you have a bad feeling, make some excuse and leave. I have met several women and some of them are still friends.
2006-07-17 18:32:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about these things-you can do like they do when you want to see an apartment-get a copy of his license. Also, take a picture of him when you first meet and give the camera to your friend. Fingerprint him. Check his name on the sex offender website. Have your cell phone ready to call 911 in case of emergency. If you think this is extreme read the newspaper and see what is happening to people every day. Don't be naive and end up a victim. Bottom line, if he makes you nervous maybe you need to bail. Wait for someone who you are comfortable with.
2006-07-17 18:42:57 · answer #4 · answered by Type3Thinker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say no. It is soooo easy to be lied to on-line, or even send someone pics that are not even their own. It is a bad idea. It is cases like this that you end up hearing on America's Most Wanted. If you are set on meeting this guy, then tell him you will only meet in front of a police station and see what reaction you get!
2006-07-17 18:32:24 · answer #5 · answered by teashy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be VERY careful... Despite precautions, there are a lot of predators and deviants out there. Meet first in a very public place where you will be safe, and from where you can get away if you need too.
2006-07-17 18:28:38 · answer #6 · answered by Paul P 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way is it safe to do that, because according to the CIA and FBI EVERYONE on the internet is a homicidal axewielding mentally insane child mollester.
2006-07-17 18:29:22 · answer #7 · answered by coleridge49 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You lied about your age. Already a foul start up. in case you do not pick your mum and dad to get the incorrect concept... then ask to satisfy him at an section you AND your mum and dad will agree on... in the journey that they agree in any respect. you could't start up even a friendship with lies and sneaking round. Your mum and dad will lose believe in you in case you try this at the back of their backs. no longer an effective thanks to bypass. the guy himself ought to under no circumstances believe you in case you keep the lie about your age.
2016-12-01 19:57:17 · answer #8 · answered by jacka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeh, well, have someone watch from afar on first date. Always good to play it safe :)
Met my fiancee online.
2006-07-17 18:28:48 · answer #9 · answered by WhiteHat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Meet at a busy mall location. Stay in the mall with him. Get it?
2006-07-17 18:28:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋