is it bad to have a sexual relationship with someone with no strings attached?

Question

if both people are honestly not wanting a relationship is it ok or is it just too much trouble?

i dont care if it is a mortal sin and i am going to be sent to hell - what i care about is will it cause me too much hassle to have a no strings sex

Answer 1

What could possibly be wrong with that?

Die to the past, quit worrying about the future. Do what feels good and let everything else fall away.

live it, baby!

Answer 2

That totally depends on the people.

We're socialized to believe that sexual relations must always be accompanied by love or a desire for something more out of a relationship, when in reality, sex is a biological need that is often tied to love, but not always. There is nothing wrong with having a no strings attached sexual relationship.

That being said, you're right...both people need to be totally on the same page regarding what to expect from the relationship, otherwise it could end with one or both parties feeling hurt and end badly. Because of that, I think I lot of people don't recommend it because it's difficult to be in 100% agreement about what the sexual relationship is without having those conversations...which some people would rather avoid since it takes the fun out of having something strictly sexual and nothing more...

Answer 3

Tricky question!

First, you MUST be sure that both of you know what "NSA" means. If there's a chance that either one of you is hoping for "something more" down the road, don't do it. The worst thing that could happen is one of you develops feelings for the other that aren't reciprocated. Then, you have one person's feelings hurt and the other is left feeling guilty and/or upset because the other knew the terms ahead of time.

Second, is safety. Is this going to me a monogamous "NSA" relationship, or are either of you going to be having "relations" with a third party? STD's get spread everyday and most of them are little more than a nuisance. A few of them are far more serious. Ask yourself, are you willing to risk giving your fuc* buddy a disease .. and are you also willing to get one in return?

Third, if one of you finds another partner and decide to have a monogamous relationship, is the other going to get jealous? The last thing you want, is your fuc* buddy calling you new significant other and spilling the bean, in scorned-lover/absolutely insane fashion

All that aside, if you really trust this person and your friendship is something that you're willing to lose if things go sour, go for it. Meaningless sex with someone you know and trust is far better than with some random skank at the bar (who you probably wouldn't have slept with if you were sober).

Answer 4

Engaging in sexual relationships with no strings attached is not nearly as safe as sexual relationships with the tie that binds. When not attached to others, one becomes tied up in themselves and that can leave a lot of loose ends. It also means that relationships are likely to be just a series of stringing others along like a fishing stringer on which to display ones catch.
Without ties that bind it's just recreational sex, which is dangerous.
Do you know the difference between love and AIDS; AIDS is forever.

Answer 5

as long as you dont spread any STDs, there really isn't anything wrong with it. animals have it built into our genes to satisfy the need to reproduce. unfortunately, humans have an over-developed conciousness which some people use to create morals and chastise people for having sex just for the pure fun of it.

but anyway it's pretty much impossible to have a purely sexual relationship because feelings naturally develop over time and pretty soon it would be too much trouble to keep it simple mainly because you'll end up liking the person too much to not be in a relationship with them

Answer 6

as long as both parties are acully honest with each other and use the proper cotraceptive items. with the understaning that they are not 100% effectve and there is a chance that you are willing to take of catching a veneral disease that one or the other ma not know you have. no it is not bad as in a sin.been happing sinch we where escortted out of the garden of eden.
if anyone will feel a strain it will most likely be the female hoping she did not get pregenant and some lingering attraction if the male was any good at his part of the job.

Answer 7

dont be offended but this makes people no better than animals. Dogs dont care who they have sex with nor do cats or etc. We are intelligent beings. I dont personally see how anyone can just go have sex with some tra la la la and not care or be emotionally attached. Some would say this is like prostitution.

Answer 8

It's not a question of trouble. It is a mortal sin that will send you to hell. It is never okay. Sexual relations are a sacred part of marriage. If you are not married, you have no right to them.

Answer 9

I think if both people really and truly understand the situation and are open and honest with one another then go ahead. The thing is most of the time one person starts to develop feelings and can get hurt.

Answer 10

It never caused me much hassle, I enjoyed myself and made some good friends. One or two people got clingy, but I was firm in not caving in to that and if it got to be too much drama, I told them so and ended it. As with many things in life, it is as simple or as hard as you make it.

Answer 11

I think it's Ok as long as the two of you are clear on what you want. But, I must warn you...I did it for a while and I started to develop feelings and the other person felt differently.