i have many reasons for not wanting kids. im not into parenting. the world is overpopulated. my faith in humanity dwindles each day.not a good environment for bringing up baby. men seem to want kids but leave the responsibilities up to the women for the most part. its a team effort. my current BF wants to leave me even though weve been together four years because i dont want kids. he loves my uterus more than me!?! i need some feedback.
2006-07-17 17:34:44 · 13 answers · asked by scantron 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Neither one of you is the bad guy, neither one of you is wrong. What he wants is right for him and what you want is right for you. The problem is you both can't have what's right with each other. He shouldn't live without kids if he wants them and you shouldn't have kids if you don't want them. Love other enough to find other partners who want the same things you each want. This is sad but it would be even sadder if one of you gave in. Sometimes love just isn't enough.
2006-07-17 17:45:01 · answer #1 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all men and women want to have children. It is their own choice to become parents or not and if the choice is not then they need to take the proper precautions to prevent unwanted pregnancies. You say you do not want children, well that is your choice and if you hook up with someone let him know straight-up how, and why, you feel this way. If he truly loves you he will respect your wishes and not try to change your mind, and if he doesn't agree with your point of view that is the time to move on, NOT after four years of commitment. There are web sites for people who feel the same as you and they explain all about birth control methods, but since you are 28 they would probably not recommend sterilization because who knows if you might meet a guy who you might want to have a child with, for this method they recommend you be 35 or older.
Don't worry, try the "web" or do what you feel you must to meet that "special someone".
God Bless you.
2006-07-17 17:57:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your body, your decision. Obviously, you and your BF are not meant to be...I guess. I am assuming that in all 4 years you have brought up the fact that you don't want to have kids. So it isn't a surprise. Does he think he can change your mind? Maybe you need to find someone who feels the same way as you. It is a personal choice. People have kids for different reasons. Personally, I want to have kids. (at some point). I want my parents to have grandkids and I want to be a father. (not any time soon). I hope I have a partner that feels the same way.
2006-07-17 17:39:49 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. Bickels 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a women and I say **** what they talking about. I agree w/u. They make it sound good now until the day the baby arives or u get pregnant then ur *** will be on Maury cuz he said it's not his.. Keep up the good wk and I have 2 kids.
My male friend said just stay focus on ur career and that's understandable and if ur doing it because u feel like ur still gonna go out and have fun like a kid of course ur not gonna want kids u have 2 reconize what u really want.
2006-07-17 17:47:01 · answer #4 · answered by shortyb5 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am female but from what I understand - men do want to have kids also. This is not a question of loving your uterus more than you. For married couples - kids are product of 2 people in love.
It is also their way keeping the bloodline going specially if the kids are boys.
2006-07-17 17:41:57 · answer #5 · answered by Zail-Em 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Amen sista, excellent points, and I wish more people knew what you know. I think that there are lots of other people who don't want kids but feel "pressured", like society expects them to. The biggest scumbags in the world to me are people with lousy DNA and poor parenting skills who are not financially suited to have kids, but have them and shove them off on society (Jerry Springer trash types). Meanwhile, it seems that it is the smart people who choose not to reproduce, or at least hold off and have fewer children. No wonder the world is going to pot.
2006-07-17 17:51:23 · answer #6 · answered by NA 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's your life and you have the right to decide whether or not you want to have children. There are plenty of men out there that don't want to have children either. In all reality though, it would be fair to let your boyfriend go so he could find someone else. I know that's not what you want to hear, but it's not fair to him stay in the relationship knowing he wants kids and you don't.
2006-07-17 17:47:30 · answer #7 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how to answer this. i am a career woman but I can't imagine not having kids. I have a son and I'm dying to have another one. Some people just wanna have family.Actually, I am thinking about adopting little girl. I think life in US is too lonely and having a family will just fill that gap.
2006-07-17 17:44:36 · answer #8 · answered by Donna M 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well they all have their own idea of family and what they want out of life. I know that most guys appreciate not having kids right away unless they want to tie you down but to me it's hard to find someone who will except me and my kids I have already. Anyways how the hell do you know what you want for the future? Believe it or not,guys can change your mind, brainwash you,trick you,lie to you, sabotage you just to get you where they want you.
2006-07-17 17:47:16 · answer #9 · answered by blondearies123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's very responsible of you to admit that and know that it's true to how you feel. If he would leave you because of something like that, then I think it just wasn't meant to be.
2006-07-17 17:43:53 · answer #10 · answered by n0love 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋