Are men really intimidated or turned off by a woman who doesn't really need them?

Question

Or is this just a common misconception put out there for friends to comfort their friend when she asks "why am I alone". I am curious to know if the natural instinct of hunter gatherer stands true to the test of time. Is there such a thing as a too independent woman?

Interesting feedback. I want to emphasize that it's NOT about caring if someone is around or not, it's being able to care for yourself, inviting that other person in to compliment not complete.

ok, so I've had some really interesting feedback, probably the most interesting is this assumption that just because you don't NEED someone people assume that you don't really WANT them around. There is a difference between those two words. It's the difference of "you complete me" and "you compliment me"
So I guess I got my answer, Thanks to everyone!

Answer 1

I was treated this way one time and loved it. If I expected the wild thing, she would give me a hand and I was always satisfied.

Answer 2

Hell, I'd like an answer to this question too. But personally, I feel that all men are intimidated by overly independant women to a certain extent.

Would men want a partner that is independant and more financially sound than them? I think somehow they'd prefer women who are more dependant and would allow them to lend their shoulders to them to cry on instead of an 'Iron Lady'. Of cos, there'll be a few oddballs here and there, men who are attracted to successful and independant women and all. Which is good I say!

But I believe there are times when women use this particluar 'excuse' to console themselves that the reason they're single is because they are successful. It might be that their character sucks but they attribute the reason of their permanent singlehood to their success and independance. So go figure.

Answer 3

I'm sure that there are women out there who THINK they dont really need a man....but I think that is the big misconception out there in the militant feminist movement.

I'm also sure that there are women who dont "require" having a man to provide them with the basic necessities of life...food, clothing and a roof over their head.

What women need...just as much as men need....is the emotional support that we can provide each other. A shoulder to cry on....the pat on the back...the safety and comfort of a warm pair of arms when things get tough.

It doesnt matter how succesful you become. All victories become hollow and empty events, when there is no one their to smile and say..."good job".

It doesnt have to be a man that provides that support role, as you are right that a lot of men cant handle a strong, independent, and self sustaining woman. Its a shame that independent women feel they have to hide behind their success to keep a man happy.

Answer 4

Every living creature needs to feel worthy and important.

If your friend is truly blaming this on her "Independence" ... well, she's scapegoating. Usually people who are overly independent make others feel unimportant so they can raise their own importance level. Well, this does chase everyone away ... Guys do it so much more than women ... guess that's why so many women are finding pleasure in this isolation.

In short, show someone you love them by trusting them enough to be dependent once and a while ...

Answer 5

I'd be put off by a woman who couldn't care less if I were there or not. Whole purpose of a relationship is to grow to be mutually reliant and dependent on the other person. If I wanted something that was completely independent, I'd get a cat.

Answer 6

There is not a thing like an independent woman. Whenever a man pursues, a woman would say No, which actually means YES.

Answer 7

I think their no such thing as being too independent. It's good to be independent because that's shows ur a strong women.
But sometimes you should let people do things for you sometimes.

Answer 8

No way. Men like to pursue and an independent woman is a mysterious creature indeed.

Answer 9

Some independent women over do it trying to prove that they do not need a man. This just seem like insecurity problems to most men, and men really don't want to deal with that. Lighten up, if you don't need them to survive, that's fine, that is the way it should be, but you should try to show them that you welcome companionship.

Answer 10

If a woman wants to be independent no man will stop her or give he serious consideration. That is wht she will be alone