I stated datin this guy when i was 15 (John) he went in the navy about 8 months into our relationship well right after he left i found out i was preg. well when i was 17 i was tired of being alone i never got to see John. I met this guy (Roy) we dated for a lil over a year i thought things were great well one day Roy came home from work and told me to get out, so i left for about a year i just dated differant guys well i thought it was time to settle down. I waited a year for Roy but he made it clear he didnt want me back . well i married John we have been married 2 years but a couple days ago i talked to Roy and he told me he regreted letting me go we have been talkin alot the past week. Now i want Roy back so bad but im married and i dont want to hurt John we have 2 kids together. the past 3 years since Roy and i broke up there isnt a day that goes by that i dont think of him i dream of him alot.should i go w/ my heart and leave my husband for Roy the man i think i truly love??
2006-07-17 16:53:38 · 10 answers · asked by country_girl23 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Girl, Love your hubby and your kids while you can you never know when their time will be up. I lost my dear hubby so unexpectedly that I didn't even get to say goodbye!! Cherish every moment you have with the one you love!!
2006-07-17 17:21:09 · answer #1 · answered by swtbbygurl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Believe me, I know from lots of experience, (I'm 48) that we women usually want the one that got away. Not because he was so great, but the challenge is so enticing! Once you had him, you'd see all of his faults and wish for a real man by your side. John has been there for you (I hope) and Roy has not. He made a mistake, oh well, I guess he'll have to move on. You have. Count your blessings and include all of John's redeeming qualities. Not in the least, the children you have together. If he's a good father and good to you, try to think with your head this time. Good luck. The easiest way to do this is to stop talking to him. It won't help.
2006-07-17 17:05:54 · answer #2 · answered by mab5096 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made a commitment when you married. You have two children with him. What of them? Does Roy want to be a Father to them? If not, are you going to leave them with their Dad? Do you truly love Roy? You are young and have done some stupid things in the past. It is time that you took a hard look at what you are doing. You are a mother now. It is not just about what you want for you but what is best for your children. I would encourage you to get counseling for yourself for it sounds like you are not sure of what you want out of your marriage but out of life. Find a counselor that you are comfortable with and get to the bottom of what you want out of life and how to get it. Until you do, you will be going from one relationship to another and you and your children will pay a huge price.
2006-07-17 17:09:38 · answer #3 · answered by Professor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may truly love Roy, but Roy may not truly love you. Roy chased you out once and he can do the second time. You must think of the worst outcome. Can you take it? My adivce is to stay with your husband and love him more than you ever did.
2006-07-17 17:00:38 · answer #4 · answered by Love is the only thing you need! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well who do you love more? i mean you have two kids with john but if you really want to leave him for roy. then do what your heart tells you. Just remember that you have to go through alot for divorce. Is john worth going through all that stress for? if not, then dont leave john. Think about what would be best for your kids also.
2006-07-17 17:26:29 · answer #5 · answered by alicia b. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I WAS IN YOUR PLACE ONCE AND IT'S HARD BUT IF YOU TRULY LOVE ROY AND IT'S DESTINED FOR THE TWO OF YOU TO BE TOGETHER IT WILL BE BUT ON ANOTHER NOTE YOU STOOD IN FRONT OF GOD AND WITNESSES TO LOVE JOHN UNTIL DEATH. FOCUS ON YOUR MARRAIGE. IF ROY LEFT YOU ONCE HE'S SURE TO DO IT AGAIN. JUST THINK YOU FELT THAT WAY ABOUT JOHN TOO AND NOW HE'S YOUR HUSBAND. THANK GOD FOR HIS BLESSINGS AND STOP CHASING A DREAM BEFOR YOU ARE LEFT WITH JUST THAT (A DREAM)
2006-07-17 17:07:04 · answer #6 · answered by Cuddles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What if after you and Roy are together one day he'll tell you to get out again? You're dreamin', wake up...you're married.
2006-07-17 17:00:00 · answer #7 · answered by Nevwe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell Roy your not sure and make him wait a few more years
2006-07-17 17:00:10 · answer #8 · answered by hezzy_9805 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He left you once so he sure does not have a good track record.I'd stay put and put this guy out of my mind.
2006-07-17 16:56:09 · answer #9 · answered by cin_ann_43 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should just stay with john i mean you've got kids with him think of how your kids would feel the only reason you two should get divorced is adultery i dunno thats just what i think
2006-07-18 18:43:14 · answer #10 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋