how does a man explain his feelings?

Question

can anyone tell me how a man can talk about his feelings when he is taught to never express those type of things for fear of showing weakness, and how to stop himself from lying to the ones he loves

Answer 1

let it go bro. i was raized to be a MAN i was brainwashed that you dont cry, i was turned away from mushy lovey stuff i was forced into competitive sports and led to belive that your soul pourpouse in life is a monitary supporter.
ill let you know now thats all a bunch of b.s. do some of the stuff your not sopposed to do, its akward at first but the more you do it the more you realise its not male or female its human. it feels good you will end up happier in the end
i started to change when i was introduced to my girlfriends child. i had no idea how to be a role moddle, i had no idea how to talk to a kid because i was never taught, and i had no clue cuz thats not how society raises us to act, naturally everyone has an underlieing maternal instinct its just that the spacifics are taught to girls. i have made it a point to learn as much as i could, you should too. its not the only instance i have had to relearn what i really didnt know it can be done though.

Answer 2

Since you are aware of the fact of man being conditioned for fear of showing weakness, then you've got half the solution to the problem. Here is my suggestions to put the other half of the solution in place.
First, tell oneself that it takes a lot of courage to recognise that one has weakness, and inability to express ones feeling is certainly a weakness.
Second, tell one's loved ones, start with one who has the maturity to work with your temporary inadequacy (in expressing ones feeling, not explaining ones feeling), that one feels inadequate in this ability to express.
Third, ask this mature loved one to help by providing a trusting and safe environment to express ones feeling recalling what went on that day.
Fourth, keep practicing until one feels confidant to do so with the other loved ones.
After that, one would find one not lying to the ones he loves.
One will get there. And, it is worth it. Trust me.

Answer 3

I am teaching my son that it's ok to show emotion. It takes a real man to show his emotions and not be ashamed. I think that society puts way to much pressure on men to hide their emotions and true feelings. All you need to do is to forget about showing weakness and see it as a form of showing strength. You are strong enough to forget what others say and show and tell what you are really feeling. Just be honest and true to yourself and let go of whatever.

Answer 4

Well, I guess it is good that you are asking the question. I guess you have to think about what do you have to lose or what are you losing by not sharing your feelings and lying. You might try talking to a therapist. A therapist can help you.

Answer 5

Just speak. Don't be afraid of what other people think, don't be afraid of your surroundings, just let go. Speak from your heart and if your speaking to someone directly look them in their eyes to let them know how much you mean what your saying. If you think you need to practice begin by looking at yourself in the mirror and look yourself in the eyes... If you cant look at yourself and express you own feelings to yourself, then you should keep practicing. But when your doing it foreal, remember to be open and honest and speak from your heart and soul.

Answer 6

Just speak your heart out.Not speaking is more of a sign of weakness and ignorrance than speaking.

EDIT:And you need serious help about the lying part.

Answer 7

It sounds like you could use some therapy to unlearn some harmful behavior. There are counselors who can help you if you sincerely want to change.