If my wife chats and is in Yahoo groups but has in the past got an online relationship with some one else am I wrong to tell her that I don't want her in any of the goups that he is in?
2006-07-17 16:44:20 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
no ur not wrong.. she has a past with this person and you find it detrimental to your relationship.. Your spouse should always come first, before anyone else.. so if you have a problem with it, then she should not do it.. you have concern about this one person.. and she should understand that.. im sure if the shoe were on the other foot she'd be concerned as well.. good luck
2006-07-17 16:49:45 · answer #1 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not by any means.
You obviously have some reason to be concerned about your wifes online activities because of what's happend in the past.
You as an individual have the right to voice your concern. If she has any respect for you she'd head to your concerns and cut out the activites that bother you.
This is'nt just a boyfriend/girlfriend thing. You two are married. In order for marriage to suceed there needs to be honesty, trust, communication, respect, clearly identified boudries, openess and respect.
Talk to your wife. Ask her what it is that she's getting out of these chat rooms that she's not getting from the marriage. I'm not saying that you're doing anything wrong by no means but there's something that's being missed unintentionally.
After she's let you in on her needs you can let her in on yours. Then you two can work on trying to fulfill each other's needs together. As a team working towards a common goal.
Be the hero in the marriage. Don't engage in confrontation because it's not what this is about. Just let her talk, let her say what she wants to say and have her allow you to do the same. Try to see where she's comming from and when it's your turn be clear and consice. Let her know where you're comming from. Find a common ground to build a foudation of a new start with your wife.
I know things are hard with work and kids if you have them but I feel like your marriage is worth the extra effort.
I do hope I've helped you some. I wish you both the best.
2006-07-18 00:13:26 · answer #2 · answered by ilah23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds reasonable to me. The question I would be asking is why she is into chatting anyway? Plan something fun for you two to do together; sounds like she may be bored.
2006-07-17 23:49:26 · answer #3 · answered by mab5096 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are never wrong to tell someone how u feel..But will the other person (your wife) listen or respect you enough not to go behind your back? Explain to her why it bothers you.
2006-07-17 23:50:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are only asking her for some common respect from your wife, being you guys are married.
2006-07-17 23:48:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are absolutely right and she should have no problem doing whatever it is that will make you comfortable and trust her again. This is the price she has to pay.
2006-07-17 23:49:41 · answer #6 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can try. But a cheating partner will do it even if your suspicions are high. They don't care.
2006-07-18 02:27:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her how you feel about it if you bottle it up it will get worse, ask why she continue's to have strings attatched to an ex
2006-07-18 00:11:56 · answer #8 · answered by hezzy_9805 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no you're not wrong.
If she can't respect your wishes, send her packing!
2006-07-18 00:06:45 · answer #9 · answered by GottaGo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not wrong at all... if you guys don't trust each other.
2006-07-17 23:48:35 · answer #10 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋