2006-07-17 16:39:20 · 10 answers · asked by Lynda B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think the wording of your question might bring about some negative posts, like the one above. I would dismiss people who don't understand exactly what you are saying.
It is completely natural for anyone, man or woman, to want to know that he or she is attractive, married or not. I think the word "desire" might confuse people. If I am correct, what you are saying is that, even though you are married, you still want to turn heads, catch eyes and be recognized as attractive. I think all self-respecting people, who were lucky enough to be born with the tools to do this, feel the same way.
Furthermore, as a man who dates girl like this, I take pride in having a girl that cares enough about herself that she maintains herself during a relationship. The biggest compliment to me is seeing fellas take double takes, rubberneck, etc. I mean, I keep myself in good shape, look nice and so on, why shouldn't she?
People should take pride in how they look. Part of taking pride in your health is the opposite sex noticing. High self-esteem goes along way in marital happiness. Spouses with low self-esteem are insecure, controlling, hateful, jelous and etc. No one wants that.
I say turn heads for life. As long as your intentions are positive and you are faithful, you will only make yourself and your spouse happier by staying healthy, happy and as attractive as you can be.
2006-07-17 17:21:21 · answer #1 · answered by Cing 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are in love, I assume that you have resolved the trust issues in your relationship. This being the assumed case, your man would love to have a woman that is admired and desired by other men in most cases... I speak this as a man married to a beautiful and desirable woman. The real issue is what you do with the attention. Women, in general, crave... no, need.. love. Guys crave respect. Just be sure in your pursuit to be desired that you do not let it affect the love, trust and repect you have for your partner.
n.b. The most desirable thing to most men in regarding a woman is found on the inside.... inner passion and beauty will dwarf looks in a minute... even better is a woman who knows who she is and really loves who she is regardless of anyone elses' thoughts or opinions. Open up your soul and let the glory out. You go, flygirl.
2006-07-17 23:56:19 · answer #2 · answered by mqfarmboy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really has nothing to do with being married...it has everything to do with getting older and feeling unsure about whether or not you're still attractive. My husband tells me all the time how beautiful he thinks I am, but they say that love is blind! hehe! I do like validation from other men, but that doesn't mean I want to sleep with them. Just to know that I can still make heads turn makes me feel good about myself and makes me feel more desirable to my husband. He'll even take me to a bar, sit me down and go outside to have a cigarette and let other men approach me. It's an ego boost for me AND for him...and I'm leaving with my hubby everytime, so where's the harm? Society puts too much emphasis on how women look, so when we get older, we feel like less of a woman. To be desired by other men lifts our spirits.
2006-07-18 08:02:28 · answer #3 · answered by auntcookie84 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very natural, and don't feel ashamed for it either. Im very happily married to my husband which I have 2 kids with, and it makes me feel good when other men besides him show interest in me, or check me out.
I just know where to draw the line because personally even though it is very flattering, I have a good man and would never hurt him in that way.
I just like to know that I still have what it takes even though im married and have had children.
2006-07-17 23:47:10 · answer #4 · answered by barrys_lil_cowgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is very natural. When someone is in love, others can see it, the glow we get (a lot like a pregnant women's glow, but this is one of being in love) and the opposite sex is attracted to that. I find it flattering that other guys would be willing to check me ut, but it is totally up to me if I choose to have it go any further, which I would NEVER do, even if I don't love the guy I am with as I don't believe in adultery, even if we aren't married. I was with a guy for 20 years, and even though he treated me very badly and I was very unhappy, I never cheated, unlike him.
2006-07-17 23:53:18 · answer #5 · answered by honey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not married yet, but i love being noticed by men other than my fiancee. It's not only natural, I'd be worried if you didn't want to be desired by other men. it's in our DNA. if you weren't wanting attention from men then something (subconsciously) would be wrong. it's like saying that a man doesn't want to have sex. he knows (subconsciously) that he was put on the earth to procreate. (NO IT'S NOT JUST THE DESIRE TO GET OFF. THEY'RE "PROGRAMMED" TO WANT SEX). women are emotional beings. and just as men are programmed to want sex, we are programmed to want to be loved/desired. even if your husband if showing you all the attention that he should, it's also nice to know that we are wanted by another man.
2006-07-17 23:58:24 · answer #6 · answered by lovable_one_2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there something missing from your relationship?I would not want to be desired by any man other than my husband.But I think all women like to think they are attractive to not just men but people in general.If you are craving attention,go to your husband and talk to him.Sometimes they need little hints.They think that just because they love and desire us we automatically know this and we don't need be shown or told.I asked my husband the other day,"Honey do you adore me?"And he says "you know I do!"I said so tell me.And he did.Then we laughed and hugged.I just wanted to hear it so I asked.Tell him that you would like to feel like he still desires you and would he show you.He might suprise you.
2006-07-18 16:17:02 · answer #7 · answered by Flaming40s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very natural its just that she shouldnt act on any of that attention. Its great to know we are still desired,
2006-07-17 23:42:22 · answer #8 · answered by babygirl_k2001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Our ego wants that. We should not be greedy. Once we have someone to love, we should be contented.
2006-07-18 02:28:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, it's not normal. When you're in "LOVE" you don't want nor need anyone else desiring you.
2006-07-17 23:44:10 · answer #10 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋