Me and my boyfriend been together for 2.5 years. I yealled at him maybe tree times. No cursing, no name calling.
It is the end of the world for him.
2006-07-17 16:33:52 · 19 answers · asked by bagyra 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
The problem is that he is an American and I am from Europe. And I have never had a problem where man would complain about me rising my voice. I did try to solve it peacfully and raised my voice only when my message was not reaching him...
Plus, his mom used to scream at him when he was a child...
2006-07-17 16:42:33 · update #1
oh boy do i know the feeling, i've been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years and i yell at him too...but only when he doesn't get what im trying to say and i get frustrated...i guess its not necessarily a good thing, but when you need to get your point across and they're just not getting it...there's no other way other than ending the argument completely or just stop talking to eachother for a little while
2006-07-17 16:39:48 · answer #1 · answered by PrYncEsSa 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
When you scream it's a sign that you are losing control. You don't feel heard, your upset whatever. Some may say that he's oversensitive but finding someone that you can fight well with is really key. Fighting/discussing is a part of communicating and do that effectively both parties need to be in control and on the same page with the rules. Sit down with him and see what's off limits and what's not, what both of you are comfortable with. This might be an opportunity for both of you to work out unresolved issues and become better communicators.
2006-07-18 00:07:07 · answer #2 · answered by peacein 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yelling during an argument usually means you are either in a weak position and cannot win the argument using logic, or you lack the intelligence to reason out the issues so you go for volume instead.
Either way, yelling is something that needs to be addressed.
2006-07-17 23:39:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why~ does he like to yell?
Yes it's always bad to raise your voice during a argument, it helps escilade the fight. Keeping your cool is the way to go.
However when the kids flood the bathroom, then it's ok to yell!
2006-07-17 23:39:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been told that it's not good to raise your voice when in an argument becasue when you yell people tend to tune you out. Sadly, I raise my voice a bit everytime.
2006-07-17 23:38:27 · answer #5 · answered by Jessie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Certainly. If you had any differences, you both could have talked it out. Any how you are together for two and half years and it is a long time to understand each other.
2006-07-17 23:38:32 · answer #6 · answered by Electric 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Calm down, talk it out. When you're not fighting explain your style of confrontation and he might be able to take it less personally in the future. I wish my girl would yell.
2006-07-18 00:14:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
raising your voice can raise your stress levels which can raise your blood pressure. Unless he is hard of hearing then tone it down a bit. He might get your point.
2006-07-17 23:37:25 · answer #8 · answered by itsme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time try dating a man.
2006-07-17 23:37:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the person who raises their voice first usually is the one who is wrong and generally losses the argument
2006-07-17 23:37:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋