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Hello. I am trying to get some responce and enouragement. Please help!!
My sister got married just a little while back. She called a few weeks ago telling all of my family that she was pregnant. Hopes and dreams were just opening. She would be about 6 to 10 weeks along. She lost her baby last night.
What I am looking for is if anyone who may have a word of encourgement. I would like to send her a letter posted by other people who have been in the same situation, a word of encouragement, and so on. When I get enough answers I will mail this too her asap. Please write down a few notes for my broken hearted sister to show her that love does go on.
THANK YOU SO VERY MUCH!!!

I just wanted to say that this was her first child she would have had and she and her husband have been upset. I called her today and when we started talking about it I could tell she was upset and crying.

Answer 1

I JUST GOT CHILLS READING YOUR POST!HOW HORRIBLE.
I PRAYED EVERYDAY I WOULDN'T LOSE MINE-IT HAD ALWAYS BEEN A FEAR MY PRAYER WAS ANSWERED - I HAD A BEAUTIFUL BABY BOY- ONLY THING IS WE ALMOST LOST HIM. WE HAD NO IDEA HE WOULD BE BORN W/ DOWN'S SYNDROME.THINGS TRULY DO HAVE A REASON IF ONLY TO BE SURE THAT THE NEXT BABY WILL RECIEVE TWICE AS MUCH LOVE.I'M SURE YOUR SISTER WOULD OF LOVED THIS ONE SO MUCH & NOTHING CAN MAKE THE HURT STOP, BUT ONE DAY IT MAY MAKE SENSE- MY 2ND CHILD WAS @ HIGH RISK FOR TRISOMY 18.WE WERE VERY FORTUNATE TO MISS THAT BULLET AFTER ALREADY HAVING A BABY W/ CHROMOSOMAL ABNORMALITIES. EVEN THOUGH I WOULD NOT TRADE MY SON FOR ANYTHING I GUESS MAYBE SOMETIMES GOD SPARES US OR THE CHILD IF SOMETHING COULD OF BEEN WRONG W/ IT. &IT WAS NOTHING SHE DID & NOTHING SHE COULD OF DONE TO PREVENT IT . LET HER KNOW STRANGERS WEEP 4 HER TOO-SHE'S LUCKY TO HAVE SUCH A LOVING FAMILY!!

Answer 2

I am so sorry to hear that. I suffered a miscarriage a few months ago as well. Tell her that it is OK to cry and be sad for awhile. She just lost a baby!! We told everyone in our family and then that night I lost the baby. It is a painful and very emotional thing to go through. It is totally normal for her to be withdrawn for a while. My happened 3 months ago and I am just now starting to feel like myself again. Just remember that, it will happen when the time is right. Everything happens for a reason. And 90% of the time it means there was something wrong with the baby, she did NOTHING wrong. She will feel guilty, I still do. It will never leave her. But she will feel better in time. That is the only thing you can do, is be there for her and her husband. Time will heal.

Tell her to keep her head up. Good Luck

Answer 3

I'm sorry to hear about her loss. I know how hard it is. I have had 3 miscarriages. The first one was at 5 weeks. It was really hard on me. I was afraid I would never have a baby. A year later I got pregnant again and was really excited because I was told the chance of having another miscarriage was slim. At 13 weeks I miscarried. I had to have a D&C. My Dr. gave me meds for depression after that. On the date I was due with that pregnancy I found out I was pregnant again. My Dr. put me on progesterone and baby asprin. I guess that did the trick because now I have a wild 3 year old son. When my son was 2 I had another miscarriage at 6 weeks. After that miscarriage I stopped ovulating and after 8 months of trying to get pregnant and nothing happening my Dr. put me on Clomid. 3 months later I was pregnant again. I took progesterone and asprin again. My daughter is almost 6 months old now. I know its hard having a miscarriage and you probably want to blame yourself, but I am sure that you will get your baby. There was nothing you could have done or not done to keep from miscarrying. I know its hard now, but try to cheer up. At least you know you are able to get pregnant. Talk to your Dr. about what steps you can take to hepl you maintain a pregnancy. Ask about the progesterone and baby asprin. Even if he thinks you won't need it it won't hurt you or the baby if you take it anyway. Good luck!

Answer 4

I am so sorry for your sister's loss. Nothing could describe the heartbreak of losing a child ( born or unborn ).
I've been through this 3 years ago and i know that pain like that never really goes away, but - as cruel as it may sound - time goes by and heals our wounds.
Please, please, tell your sister that one miscarriage doesn't mean anything- one day she's going to have beautiful babies and make a wonderful mother.
Tell her also that she's not alone- this happens to lots of women and we all feel with her right now.
I will pray for your sister,God bless and good luck !!!

Answer 5

i have had two miscarriages and i have four beautiful children. the last miscarriage i had i ended up getting pregnant two weeks later with our only daughter. these happen for a reason and as sad as it is things get better. just be there to listen to her. my friend just had a miscarriage a few weeks ago and she said it really helped her to be able to talk to someone who has been through it and understands the emotions that go along with a miscarriage. just be there to listen and let her know that it is alright to cry as much as she wants. but don't let her sit around and do nothing as she will get into a really bad depression. tell her husband to listen and hold her as much as possible and make her get out and do things till she gets over the initial shock. things will get better. hope this helps.

Answer 6

My mother had a miscarriage about three months before she became pregnant with me. She was devastated of course. But she knows that, in a way, it was for the best. Otherwise she wouldn't have given birth to me!
Tell your sister that this may be a terrible time for her, but let her know that it will get better. She'll become pregnant again and give birth to a healthy and beautiful baby and she'll be so thankful that she got another chance. These bad experiences shape us and make us better people. I know she'll make it through. :)

Answer 7

Human nature may make you pick to look. Kinda like once you're utilising down the line and also you be conscious a dull animal on the line, no remember how a lot you tell your self "do not look" purely once you get upon it you look.

Answer 8

well my sister had an abortion and my other half sister had a tubal pregnancy0 now she can never have kids again it is hard, but you are her sister make it come from your heart.
allthough we all do feel fer her, and honestly i cant imagine losing an unborn. it will take time, and no that child cant be replaced but she can have another one, someday , let her know it wasnt hurt fault she had a misscariage.

Answer 9

aww im so sorry to hear that i dont like when a baby pass away and me im tryin to have one and i knew if it happen to me i will be very upset

Answer 10

i m sorry to hear please pass my sorrow to ur sister