a friend of mine is the father of a beautiful child. He also is unemployed, without a car and lives in the country, has old fines still to pay, has recently lost his apartment is living now with family that barely makes rent let alone food and such, and is getting so far in debt he owes thousands of dollars and the mother constantly hounds him about money and thier bad past. Is their anyway to get any relief from the debt increasing while he gets back on his feet? He can't pay the adequate amount right now and afford the luxuries of food and toliet paper. Is this a "legal" legal situation to be put in?
2006-07-17 15:57:01 · 14 answers · asked by lightingbug 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
here's some footnotes. he was with the mom for 4 years total, two year into the relationship she became pregnanant and hid it ( really i'm not lying or stretching it). He found out he was a dad with her calling from the hospital to let him know (alright i didn't believe the lil jerry springer fact first off either but, it's fact) so they reconciled and that worked for two years. Then she decided to have sex with his or what he thought was his best friend at the time
2006-07-17 16:19:24 · update #1
a detail about child support, the state gets a cut the more it builds against the dad the Less the child actually recieves because the state that wants best takes their cut first
2006-07-17 16:22:24 · update #2
I work for child support in New Jersey and my best advise would be to get a job as soon as possible. Get yourself together before you can take care of other business. Eventually once you're set and ready to support yourself then you can go ahead and take care of the child. Regardless of your situation the child needs to have support. We all have different circumstances and the courts will have some understanding only if you make attempts that you do care. Feeling sorry for yourself is not going to help trust me. Remember, the government feels that if you made the decision to have a child you have the obligation to support that child and not them. They will go after you using every legal way they can. Stay strong and get back on your feet, good luck.
2006-07-20 05:30:09 · answer #1 · answered by DON 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First of all, women we have to understanf that he has to live too. What is more important? The relationship of the child and father or $$$$$$.
Now in this situatuon, she needs to cut him some slack. If she can fiancially carry until she gets on his feet then she should see that right now she isnt benefiting, the child is ( if the father is strong in the childs life) and later she will reap her benefits when he is on his feet ( he will appreciate her better and the child emotionally doesnt suffer)
If he is a good father and real man, he will do right in the end.
She needs to stop and think about what is better
2006-07-17 16:15:08 · answer #2 · answered by !@#$$ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to get a job and start paying his obligations. He will never get ahead until he starts paying some of the debt off. The child support will continue to accrue and he will just owe more and more. He needs to use his paycheck to pay his debt and use the homeless shelters and food pantries for his own needs until he starts making more. As far as that goes, he probably should be working more than one job.
2006-07-17 16:09:07 · answer #3 · answered by daddysnurse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
rawwwwwrrrrr we all got catty on that one. As a single mom I can feel yall on the not getting her prego thing. Now I am not sure where your friend is from but there is a program through Child support enfforcement that MAKES (yes makes) the day get his *** back on his feet. They take his dl away and all. Then they train him (yes we are talking school) so that he can get a job and handle paying his child support. Now yes the child will have to go a few more months no support but I am sure once again based on where she is from that she to can get assistance with the bills and yada yada
2006-07-17 16:15:23 · answer #4 · answered by Dreamy J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His child will not stop growing/eating/playing while he gets back on his feet. When you are a father, you are responsible for life, not just when it's convenient. Your friend's situation is very unfortunate. He should do everything to get back on his feet asap and start helping out to provide for this beautiful child of his, as much as he can. Good luck to him.
2006-07-17 16:02:22 · answer #5 · answered by Shaana 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he really needs legal help. There should be agencies you could call and discuss this issue. Check the local listings for your area. Some type of Family Services.
2006-07-17 16:01:40 · answer #6 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Child support is determined by his income.......... NOTHING ELSE! He should have thought about that before ******* someone and getting them pregnant. By the way, noone feels sorry for a dead beat. Also, the courts don't care if he is living in a friggin ditch as long as that child is taken care of. That's all that matters.
2006-07-17 16:07:06 · answer #7 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he should of thought about that before he had unprotected sex.
i have a friend that went through the same thing but that is the first bill he pd every month... there is no relief from your debt to a child
2006-07-17 16:01:39 · answer #8 · answered by Emily 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
is his responsability, he shouldn't got her pregnant on the first place, but if he is unemployed he can get a job, and make arragements on the fines he needs to pay, and if he can't afford the montly child support then it can be taken out of the incometax, but his kid is his responsability job or no job
2006-07-17 19:38:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He made the baby,, the responsibility isn't up for grabs legally.
He has a responsibility and needs to be working somewhere and getting his act together.
2006-07-17 16:01:11 · answer #10 · answered by yeller 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋