i 'm an adult who has moral and scruples and don't want to hurt my family. i try very hard to stay away from her. she's the one always trying to get me to go out in public places with her. she calls me home at undecent hrs of the morning, invites me to visit with her talk and take a swim in her pool. i know i'm attracted to her but i don't want a scandal in the family.
2006-07-17 15:11:52 · 14 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
wow...
Respectfully tell her that you are not interested in a relationship and respects your cousin and their marriage.
If she continues, tell your cousin about what your wife is doing.
2006-07-17 15:17:15 · answer #1 · answered by yadedyah_dc 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
On this side of any potential relationship it all looks attractive. Think about the worse relationship you've ever had, and how you felt BEFORE you both got together. Remember those feelings? They probably felt similar to what you feel now. Just know that the anticipation of getting with someone is always strong and can cloud your better judgment. There are 6 billion people on the planet, surely you can find someone else that isn't a potential time bomb-because I can assure you if you do this and get caught (and you will), you will be the villain. No one will fault her, she's not technically family. Not only that, if your cousin loves her, he'll take her back, but never forgive you and all of your family will side with him.
Tell this woman that if she doesn't stop you will tell her cousin-start documenting her late night phone calls and follow through on your threat if she persists.
Black I
2006-07-17 22:23:00 · answer #2 · answered by Black I 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are a few things going on here. first u being a lesbian. second this being ur cousin's wife. u say u have morals and scruples, then u dont really need an answer to this question, do u? u know right from wrong. or at least u say u do. do fall for ur cousin's wife.
2006-07-17 22:16:27 · answer #3 · answered by the_kid_doesnt_care 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, this person doesn't believe in her marriage vows. Maybe remind her of them, let her know that you would like to be friends, (if that is what you want), and also, let her know how you feel and stand. She should honor that. From what I understand some people just like to test the waters and see how far they can go. Not really any different that another guy hitting on another guys woman. Men think nothing of it!!! Good Luck!!!
2006-07-17 22:17:36 · answer #4 · answered by winona e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then stay away. she is married.. go find someone that isnt attached... keep your dealings with her to a minimum... i would even go so far as to be busy unless your cousin is there too... after a while she will get the feeling that you arent interested in her and turn her attentions elsewhere... then there wont be any scandel that you were involved with...
2006-07-17 22:16:00 · answer #5 · answered by Resasour 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does your cousin feel about it? Some people are okay with this situation!
2006-07-17 22:15:45 · answer #6 · answered by Janine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the three of us should get together and discuss all our options?
2006-07-17 22:18:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW...
YOU SHOULD TRY TALKING TO HER ABOUT WHAT YOU ARE FEELING...
IF THAT DOESNT WORK TRY TALKING TO YOUR COUSIN...
FAMILY IS THE MOST IMPORTANT THING IN LIFE...
2006-07-17 22:14:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell ya cousin.. you dont wanna be a home wrecker right??
2006-07-17 22:15:01 · answer #9 · answered by KryssyBeyondBeauty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away...don't be a home wrecker.
2006-07-17 22:13:33 · answer #10 · answered by qtpie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋