my b-day is 6/28 is there any one with some good advice 4 me he left me because (he says i called the police on himi didn't) i believe he is using drugs, his friend just broke up with his girl friend and is a drug dealer any ideas on getting him home he really is a good man and i love him very much im also pregnut do i tell him, i just found this out. help me please
2006-07-17 15:11:40 · 6 answers · asked by cisnerosdeanna 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If he is on drugs, he is going to quite when he feels like it. If you are pregnant, you need to tell him right away. Knowing that he is bringing another person into this world might help him change his mind. My husband did the same thing years ago. If you keep bugging him about it, he will do it more. All you can do is try to support him. I know it is very hard, but you will get through this.
My husband has been clean now for 6 years.
2006-07-17 15:18:49 · answer #1 · answered by mj 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not tell him about the Child. If he cannot come home to you, then you should not want him home.
A man is a man all by himself.
How to get him back? Your the only one that can truly answer that question. But i really think you should use this time you have by yourself, with yourself and your unborn child.
Stop preparing. Its not good to stress over things like that, even though stress will always be there. Let him calm down while you learn to live again.
If he is doing drugs, and he has left you, why would you want him in your childs life?
He was doing drugs when he was with you. He was doing drugs. He was doing drugs. He was and probably still is doing drugs.
What makes you think that a child will make something happen? Life isnt a Fairy tale nor is it a nightmare.
Let him go, and if he cant see the wrong in what hes doing, you should learn to see it and learn to live without it.
Learn to be a mother and to teach your child the rights and wrongs. Be there and done blame. Dont judge. Leave. Grow. Succeed.
Its not easy, but nothing worth it is. Go on with life.
2006-07-17 15:21:55 · answer #2 · answered by King 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"GOOD"??????
let's pretend I told you that my brother left his wife on her birthday and his best friend is a drug dealer and he might be using and/or
dealing himself. What would you think???
Don't let your emotions rule you on this one, sweet heart.
I know it hurts right now; but, COUNT IT AS ONE OF YOUR BLESSINGS!!! The mind should always listen to the heart; but, the mind should always make the decision.
Cut your losses and move on. Make sure and get child support so that you can raise the child, well.
Raise your standards, way up, your going to be a MOM!
The way you choose a man should be substantially different now.
You will have a little one's best interest to think about now, not just your own desires. Your worth more than this...even without the pregnancy. If I was a woman, I wouldn't give a wretch like that the time of day, not until he COMPLETELY cleaned up his act, I'd want hard evidence to support his "reformation", too.
2006-07-17 15:26:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry but he is not a good man, he may not know you are going to have his child, but that is no reason for him to stay because then he will just feel traped and use that to get back at you, and cheat behind your back, let him go, there are lots of us men left out here that will treat you right, and alot of us like me that can't have kids anymore would love to raise that baby the right way, good luck to you, and may you find someone right for you and the baby.
2006-07-17 15:21:12 · answer #4 · answered by citisat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but he is looking for an excuse to leave you, and any man that would leave a pregnant woman is NOT a good man. I'm so sorry for your situation. Gather yourself together as soon as you can and figure out what's best for you and your baby. Right now, it is not this man.
2006-07-17 15:15:48 · answer #5 · answered by julesl68 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he wants out, honey let him go
2006-07-17 15:16:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋