I have these really hot dreams, and they make me really horny.
In my sleep sometimes Iinitiate sex while my man is sleeping and then he wakes up and we finish...., this happened a while ago and one day he told me that he felt violated and I do not do it any more I guess because he said something, has any done/had this happen to them, and do you think it is violation?
2006-07-17 14:55:08 · 24 answers · asked by T agent 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well I have those kinds of dreams myself I do not know why ur man feels violated lol my man enjoys it says it gives him a break from forplay lol slapped him 4 that one lmao.
2006-07-17 14:58:38 · answer #1 · answered by Lady Geo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't IMAGINE whay any man would object to that. No it's not a violation. If you stuck something in him while he was sleeping THAT would be a violation. Initiating sex, by definition, cannot be violation. He may need a little help cause he's got issues other than violation.
2006-07-17 22:05:38 · answer #2 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter whether or not I or anyone, except your husband, thinks it's OK or not. If he doesn't like it..sneak up on him when he's awake and attack him. This really shouldn't come between you two.
If the roles were reversed, wouldn't you expect him to abide by your request???
Just talk with him, if it's not OK to "violate" him..ask if it would be OK to just wake him up and attack him...maybe he really likes the foreplay or something. He might just feel a little cheated that he didn't get to savor every moment of your lovemaking....stealing that, might be what he considers a "violation".
2006-07-17 22:08:41 · answer #3 · answered by Kenneth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't like being accosted without his consent, then don't do it...he has a right to be in a position to say yes or no to sex...getting him aroused while he's sleeping and then starting sex before he awakens is taking away his right to choose to have it at that time...
I've had guys wake me in the middle of the night by touching me or going down on me, or by penetrating me but if I wasn't in the mood or interested at the time, I put a stop to it...sometimes ya just don't want to be pulled from a blissful slumber by someone having sex with you without your consent...even if you consented earlier in the evening...
2006-07-17 22:00:05 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the dreams are not of him then yes he will feel used and violated, and cheated on. If they are always of him then there could be a deeper issue going on, his problem, not yours. Also some men want to be the aggresser always, and feel controlled when the woman is aggressive.. It could very well be that he feels raped. You should discuss it with him.
2006-07-17 22:06:47 · answer #5 · answered by arvecar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He didn't exactly ask you to stop, did he? I mean, he said he felt violated, but he didn't say "don't do it anymore". Maybe he likes the violated feeling. Ask him if you can keep doing it, then the problem is solved.
2006-07-17 22:08:35 · answer #6 · answered by fuhreezing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you r hot dreams involve him he should be flattered that he is in your conscious and subconscious mind. I understand the waking up thing but its not like he wont fall back to sleep. most guys would give their left nut to have something like that happen to them. your man needs to chill and appreciate that you are so into him that you want him even in your sleep.
2006-07-17 22:07:07 · answer #7 · answered by Lisa J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your man is insane! Trade him in. Seriously, though, some people are really into sleeping. Go figure.
2006-07-17 21:59:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What dumb *** kind of guy R U with...most men would love sex at any time or place...especially from UR mate unsolicited and initiated by HER...damn his hide...he gives ALL MEN a bad name...we crave it and he's turning it down and making his lady feel bad for asking for it...if he doesn't want it...there R PLENTY of men out there who would LOVE it darlin'...just ask around and U'll have UR dance card filled nightly...Michael SLOGOODATIT@yahoo.com
2006-07-17 22:12:05 · answer #9 · answered by MICHAEL 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He must not feel THAT violated if he's able to have s*x with you! haha..I just asked my husband and he said he'd like to have a wife like that...haha..Are you sure your husband was serious?
2006-07-17 22:03:32 · answer #10 · answered by julesl68 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋