i mean something bad and it has stayed with you but you never told anyone,my question is could it really affect how you feel about yourself.
2006-07-17 14:43:44 · 10 answers · asked by dede2772 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
When you are a little child, sometimes adults who have severe problems and no conscience take advantage of the fact that they are older, and think they can get away with it...molesting, abuse, even if it was just one time and it was just a quick incident. If something is staying with you and you have a feeling that it was wrong and is affecting the way you feel about yourself, then you should know that you are not alone and there a people who can help you face what happened. It may seem easier to just keep pushing it in the back of your head, and wishing you would forget it, but the fact is, as you probably have already noticed, you cannot get rid of the memory. What you need to do is TELL SOMEONE......what you did here was a first step! That is great, and I hope it made you feel a little better. Now you must tell someone you can trust in person. I would recommend a Pastor or counselor. Don't put it off, because if you just muster up the courage to sit down and say what happened to you, you will feel better, and then you can get some help so you can put this behind you. I have had bad things happen to me too in my past, and until I talked about them, they just ate away at my soul. I'm praying for you, and God loves you very much and will help to ease your pain if you ask him to help. Trust in the Lord to help to heal you and trust a professional to help give you tools to get through this. You will be ok, don't be afraid.
2006-07-17 14:57:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yea somethings happened to me that were bad. And I hid them. I shut them out, and I don't think about them. Does it impact your self esteem. I would suppose that a councilor would tell you that it can have significant impact on your life.
But I never told people around me. I've lived with it for over 12 years. I've been to jail, Ive done drugs, I've had promiscuous sex, and two children out of wedlock and I'm single. Maybe its just how my life turned out or maybe its cuz something inside me is f**ked up. How can somebody diagnose a secret?
You should seek some help if something real bad has happened to you. By not telling anyone gives that person the chance to keep doing it to other people.
2006-07-17 21:53:43 · answer #2 · answered by deddboyzkitten2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh unquestionably, ive done things as a youth and had things done to me that i would never tell anyone, some because i'm ashamed at the way i acted, some because they bring back bad memories... i guess you will find many people who will say if you talk about these things it will release you from the "demons" and i agree but i still aint talking .. ive learned to live with my past and become a better person..does it effect me today .. well just look at my face.. you think that comes from a great feeling of self esteem?
2006-07-17 21:52:39 · answer #3 · answered by ong jon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could affect a lot of things in your life. It's unfortunate when children are shamed into keeping secrets that hurt them so much. Please go see a therapist. It's a wonderful way to find someone to talk to who won't judge you and can help you work through the pain so that it doesn't have so much power over your life.
2006-07-17 21:59:18 · answer #4 · answered by Nic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes something like rape, abuse, neglect can leave a very lasting impression on a young person's life and made them feel bad about themselves.
I can only suggest these sites for help:
Women against organized rape
www.woar.org
Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network
www.rainn.org
You can always check your local area for conseling centers, or see about local churches...some pastors are real good at counselling and know how to keep things confidental.
Hope this helps.:)
2006-07-17 22:01:16 · answer #5 · answered by thoughtsofastranger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does twelve years old count as little? because it sure affected me.....taking upon the roll of mother in the household of six children while my parents were at work....for awhile i decided i didnt want to grow up and started acting like a little kid....and now im kind of afraid..i dont know what of but whenever i look back on it, im just....i dont know....there's something wrong with me i just dont know what. hmmm well i guess i'll go on with life and not ponder on things that best be undiscovered
2006-07-17 21:50:11 · answer #6 · answered by foodluver1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sure can. I grew up in an abusive home and it really has affected my life. I have been in several bad relationships and have low self esteem. I'm also a notorious "people pleaser". Good luck to you.
2006-07-17 21:49:47 · answer #7 · answered by justme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you mean what I think you mean, then yes, sadly quite a few people have had things like that happen to them, and yes, it affects how they feel about themselves, often a lot.
2006-07-17 21:46:59 · answer #8 · answered by Roger D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course. i think a lot of people harbor deep dark secrets from their childhood that can adversely affect the way they feel about themselves. i am a living witness to this. the best thing to do is to talk to someone about this. get help and good luck.
2006-07-17 22:13:36 · answer #9 · answered by the_kid_doesnt_care 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it can not only how you feel about yourself but others as well it affects every aspect of your life . contact me if you need a friend
2006-07-17 21:58:45 · answer #10 · answered by tennesseetornado1969 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋