me and my bf are back together we have been going out off and on for 3 years. but he has broken my heart 13 times and every time he says that he loves me and it wont happen again and that he has changed but should i believe him this time. i mean this time is alot different but im still worried that i will get hurt again and i dont think i can go through that again. i know i shouldnt have kept going back to him but i love him i just dont know wat to do!!!!!
2006-07-17 14:39:46 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You need to move on. Do you want to have a marriage that works like this? I don't know if you're old enough to get married or if you want to marry this one. But, you need to practice healthy relationships before you get married, and this isn't one.
2006-07-17 14:48:54 · answer #1 · answered by Otis F 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
"Is my life better with him or without him?" What are you getting out of this relationship? What is it about him that you actually love?
Sounds to me like he's just a habit. It seems you are unhappy most of the time worrying about the next time he is going to break your heart, and after 13 times you can bet it will happen again. Why do you want to continue being unhappy?
It might help to get a friend to help and support you to "quit" this guy. You will find someone else.
Does the "15" in your Yahoo name refer to your age? If so, you have lots of time to date and be friends with other guys who might not break your heart.
(Your online name sends out an immature sex-only message. You should change it...unless that's the image you want).
2006-07-17 21:52:24 · answer #2 · answered by yikes_ontario 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
13 times in 3 years hun u have ur answer.staying with this guy is going 2 be heart breaking 4 u.if he truely wants 2 change try going 2 couples counceling but know that it is going 2 be a hard road no matter what.good luck
2006-07-17 21:43:25 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Geo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I'd like to ask you something when you say " " I've been going out off and on for years " do you mean he got a new girl ? but if not he he might need some space and he didn't mean to break your heart or anything I think he still loves you but give him some space but if he borke your heart and mess with other girl that means....he got some plans..and his new girl probably didn't treat him right and he might have thought " oh this girl treats me like **** now lets get back to my ex " BUT " oh she she treats me better now..oh well just forget about my ex and go back to my new one " it could be that..so all you gotta do is..let him prove him self and give hima lil bit space and more time for him to prove him self thta he wouldn't break your heart again...I've never had a gf before but I just know it...!!! so good luck ..cheer ;)
2006-07-17 21:50:55 · answer #4 · answered by thanat c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
O dear! 13 times? It's hard to undo that. I'm afraid the onus lies on you. Why don't you start by believing in yourself?
2006-07-17 22:04:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thirteen times?!?!?!? Once a cheater always a cheater. Move on and find someone else who will not hurt you. Love don't hurt that much.
2006-07-17 21:47:39 · answer #6 · answered by Desiree S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i advice you take the lead and somewhat keeping him in control this time around, to avoid more conflicts. might be a bit more strict on him until he gains back that trust.
2006-07-17 21:43:01 · answer #7 · answered by ebseller25 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
believe me, just start dating other men and you will loose your interest in him! were women, we can give more love than men (that's true) but life is too short and we only live once, don't waste it.
2006-07-17 21:46:43 · answer #8 · answered by yvet 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him, 13 is too many. you deserve much more and there is someone out there for you besides him.
2006-07-17 21:44:43 · answer #9 · answered by babelinda15 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes
2006-07-17 23:00:49 · answer #10 · answered by jerry_blain13 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋