Ever since the beginning of my childhood, I've always felt sort of isolated and different from my peers (possibly because I moved to America at the age of 7)
Whether I am at school or at a relative's house, I am always nervous about what people think of me...
I am always searching for hints of their emotions too...when they seem to like me, I feel happier...when they seem to ignore me I sulk and worry
Thanks to those who bother to listen to me, but I'd like for advise other than pyshotherapy ^_^;
P.S. I am a rediculously shy person @_@ how I wish I was more brave! :(
2006-07-17 14:33:47 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
me and you alike
2006-07-17 14:36:59 · answer #1 · answered by shimmy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was like you when I was young.my parents moved me all the
time. I went to three high schools. Some of us shy ones become what is called late bloomers. I am not confident and able to speak in front of large groups of people. People who know me now would never guess I was shy. thus, there is hope for you.
If you do'nt like pschotherapy- you can analize your own self. What makes you like this. What can you do to change.
First of all I would say that you are too far intunned to other people. You spend so much time on wondering what they are thinking. You need to get to the place where you don't care what they think. You can only control how you are and have nothing vested in their thoughts., /things that you hage dearly on to are nothing to them. YOu need to get your own personal self on that level. Other people see us as if a veil over us they really do'nt look at us that closely. So don't worry about them focusing on you all that much.
Another thing is that we teach people how to treat us. If you wilt into the background, they will always expect you to do so.
Find something in common to talk about. be active in school and meet friends that way. Sometimes girls love guys with accents.
Check out the girls. Study how a group gets along. What they think is funny etc.
Remember someday you will pass them by. Later bloomers rock!
2006-07-17 14:54:16 · answer #2 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be JUST like you! I will just tell you what helped me. One thing is realizing that people are NOT really looking at you and judging you, they all have different things going on in their heads about their own lives. They be even be dealing with some of the same things that you are, but you wouldn't be able to tell. A major thing that helped me have confidence is, and I'm not kidding...prayer. Asking God to ease your worries and just let you relax and enjoy what is going on around you. For me, just knowing that God loves me and is in control, helps alot. Also, I've learned that people may not always like me, and that should not bother me. If I am looking for positive responses from people, well all that will happen is that I'll have disappointment over and over all day long, because these people are all caught up in their own stuff anyways. Alot of people feel like you do, your not alone, maybe some of these things I said will help. I'm going to pray for you right now that you can trust God to help you with this and can enjoy just being who God has made you and not worry about what people think. You'll be ok, it's good that you are addressing this issue, because you don't have to feel this way anymore. God bless.
2006-07-17 14:44:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its like this.
Everyone feels best when they get approval and respect and attention from others. Sometimes because of being crazy, black, female , young, disabled, old, whatever, you don't get any respect, etc. Then all you have is what is inside yourself. If its really strong you can get by anyway. Self respect is the most important after all.
2006-07-17 14:39:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well its sort of courageous that you have identified the matter
others would have been to scared and ignored it
maybe join groups that share the same interests
like book clubs
sports
anything will do
just don't hold back
no one will know you if you don't let them
2006-07-17 14:37:40 · answer #5 · answered by kk292 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't think too much about what others think of you, just be yourself.
if they like you? great.. if not who cares just don't like em back haha they are just people
2006-07-17 14:38:32 · answer #6 · answered by ebseller25 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋