WELL EVERYONE IS SAD IN MY FAMILY HELP ME...........
even though my grandfather is over 100 years old.....
Died in malaysia
2006-07-17 14:24:49 · 12 answers · asked by Kid... 2 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Other - Arts & Humanities
Oh yeh when u read my name___it tells you something Im not an adult!......
READ MY PROFILE.....I DON"T CREY THAT EASILY
2006-07-17 14:37:26 · update #1
im 13 i don't cry that easily
2006-07-17 14:38:09 · update #2
It is hard for men to cry and it can be hard to see men cry because of cultural expectations.
But your family and especially your father have suffered a huge loss - sadness is a natural response to that and crying can be theraputic.
I would ENCOURAGE him to cry and let his feelings out. I would also encourage him to keep some attention on the good things in his life and to look after himself (drink a lot of water, not a lot of alcohol, eat healthful food, talk to friends or take a hike).
Does his sadness seem to be a problem for him, or is it that makes you uncomfortable? I know it made me very uncomfortable to see my father (visibly) sad for the first time in his life when his mother died. Doesn't mean he shouldn't have been. But maybe it means I should have seen more men express a wider range of emotions so I wasn't so unsettled by it.
Good luck,
David
2006-07-17 14:35:15 · answer #1 · answered by David in Kenai 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gently pat him on the back and tell him everything is going to be
all right. That the family is with him and that you love him.
Let him know that you understand the sorrow of the situation .
When he wants to talk more be there for him.
Later, when he is past this stage , and he is still very sad , remind
him that your grandfather was a wonderful man that lived a very
long wonderful life. Most others do not live to be or see 100 years.
My sympathy to you and your family.
2006-07-17 14:35:59 · answer #2 · answered by nemesis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really can't calm him down. Only time can do that. It doesn't matter how old he was or how far away, he was still his Dad. Think how sad you would be if your Dad died; it is the same. He loved his father, and will miss just knowing he is there, even if halfway around the world. He might be doubly sad if, since he is here, he can't get the closure of going to the funeral.
Comfort him, & give him time. He will smile again, and laugh again. It just might take some time.
2006-07-17 14:30:50 · answer #3 · answered by Bartmooby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Death of a family member is sad thing. Give your dad a time to grieve for a while. Spend more time with him and talk to him. If you have siblings, ask them to talk to your dad too. Ask him to do something interesting that would take his thoughts away from the death of his father. Or you could get him a good book to read. In that way, he wouldn't be thinking too much. Hope this could help.Tatah for now ;)
2006-07-17 14:34:58 · answer #4 · answered by acidburn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with being sad and grieving, and better to let it happen naturally then try to keep it in and turn it into an unresolved issue never having dealt with the grief. Time will naturally ease the pain after a bit.
2006-07-17 14:29:46 · answer #5 · answered by Indigo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't, nor should you.
When someone you love dies, crying is a very normal response. In some cultures it tends to be loud wailing (I have no idea about Malaysian, though), in others, people go off to be alone to grieve.
He'll be fine in time. Just tell him how much you love him, and how sad you would be if it had been he who died.
2006-07-17 14:35:05 · answer #6 · answered by LazlaHollyfeld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do is be supportive, and allow your father the time to grieve. No matter how old your grandfather was, he still was someone who your father loved (the same way as you love your father). It may be hard to see your father, who you consider to be strong, show his grief, but you need to respect him and just be there for him.
My sympathy to your family for your loss.
2006-07-17 14:58:12 · answer #7 · answered by fire4511 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dad has to experience his grief his way. The loss of a loved one is so difficult, and we all deal with it in our own unique way. Let your dad know that you love him and that he is not alone at this point. I am so sorry about the loss of your grandfather.
2006-07-17 14:40:02 · answer #8 · answered by Josie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get off of the computer and just sit with them...quietly. Just listen and be there. If someone comes over to you, look at them if they talk and it doesn't hurt to be loving. Hug them, touch them on the shoulder, back, etc.
Just be there.
2006-07-17 14:31:13 · answer #9 · answered by ZIAGACITY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make your dad happy by getting one of your grandfathers pictures and making him something with it and tell him you love him and make sure he understands you. Don't be afraid to cry along side your dad
2006-07-17 14:29:55 · answer #10 · answered by Double D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋