What would you do if you had a gay child?

Question

I'd be supportive if I had a child who came out to me as gay. I don't believe homosexuality is wrong, but obveously, there are many close minded people who do.

So what would you do?

Answer 1

I would stick to the same thing I probably would have told them if they were 3 years old "you're my son/daughter and I love you. You can grow up to be anything you want to be." When I came out to my mother first as a lesbian, and then told her I was getting a sex change to a male, she WAS concerned, no doubt, but she said "you're still my daughter and I love you, that will never change, because you're always going to be my daughter, even though I'm gaining a son now, and I'm always going to be your mom. I'd rather have a gay daughter and a transsexual son than no child at all" My mom said this when she was 62 years old to me. My mom has now passed, but I thank her for the widsom she instilled in me and the open mindedness and non judgemental attitude she instilled in me as well.

Answer 2

As you would do, I would love them, make sure they are raised to love people, to be happy and to be the best that they can be, no matter who they are or what they do. Shouldn't all parents want that for their children? If a parent can just throw their children away because they are gay, what else would they throw them away for? Because they did not win the game at little league?

And a question for mustanglady...aren't you committing a sin by judging other people? Do you think that God would throw you away because of that. Or because you gossiped about the neighbor, or because you worked on the Sabbath, or dressed as a man? Of course you will not answer that or even think that He would do that....after all you are a good christian (when it fits your agenda).

And a question for bnaughty - you would kill you child because they would not have children and that is the worst thing about it.....Would you also kill them if they were str8 and could not have children? Is your only purpose in life to have children?

I find mustanglady and bnaughty very sad people....My mother doesn't like the fact that I am gay....but would she kill me? NO WAY, she would die herself before she would hurt one of her children or allow anyone else to. My mother is 74

Answer 3

Most of the ppl responding to this would prefer to either loose their child or never know their child. Loving parents, eh? Not.

Loving and accepting your children for who they are is the second best gift you can give God. It's second only because you have to first love and accept yourself in order to do it.

And for the guy who thinks he "was reformed" from his homosexual tendancies... either you were not gay to begin with or you've chosen an empty life to lead. Remember this answer 20 years from now when you ask yourself where it all went wrong.

Answer 4

No difference between a homosexual and adulterer chris?
That's plain b**l
how would you know the difference anyway...
I'm sure you know what adulterers do.
BUt for homosexuality? DO YOU?

anyway... just a feedback. no need to fight.

Answering to the question..
Id give my gay son 200% support...
it's not about sexuality. In life.. it's gonna be how you live it and how fullfilled and succesful you are as a person and how great are the wonders you've brought to many people just by being you and doing what you love to do in life -- may it be music, business, charity or whatever.

To gay parents.. .I salute.
To gay children... I salute.
To clsoe minded peepz.. I pity.

Answer 5

People who can not love their children unconditionally should use condoms because life is just to full of surprises to in-trust a child's life to their kind.
For those poor brainwashed dupes who think their cured. I hope you survive your depression when you find out how you've been used. All they did was turn you into homophobes.
Tammi Dee

Answer 6

I'd treat them as I would if they came to me as a person who wants to have promiscuous sex with random women. With support of their problem and help to let them remove those thoughts and tendancies. Because, in all honesty, there is no difference beyween a homosexual and an adulterer.

Answer 7

"its not natural."

"I believe this can be broken and changed."

"I would ask myself, what's wrong with me?"

"i would kill him!"

These are all quotes from posts that precede mine. Do you people not realize how insane this sounds? We live in the twenty-first century. Being gay is no more a choice than being asian or blonde or straight.

I am so disheartened to see the hatred and misunderstanding that seems to go hand in hand with being faithful.

Answer 8

I would love them the same either way, It's my child, i can love you and not love the choices you make, but still love. Parents putting conditions on their love is the most disgusting thing i could ever think of. and to all of the peole who do, karmas a female dog, and she gonna bite yo ***!

Answer 9

I would want my child to be true to herself, love whoever she falls in love with, be a good person, and be happy, so I would support her. I'm very open-minded anyway. Different is not bad, just different.

PFLAG (parents for lesbians and gays... and bi kids too)
http://www.pflag.org/Vision__Mission_and_Strategic_Goals.mission.0.html

Answer 10

moot point for me as I'm gay i won't have kids but my mom was just incredible. she never cared, bought me barbies, taught me to sew, paint , write poetry. and God help anyone who said or did anything to harm me she was a lioness. I'm one of the luckiest people ever to have had her in my life. she passed when i was almost 9, but by then she'd instilled such a sense of self-worth and power that i' never felt the need to apologize for being who i am. if you have a gay child just love them accept them nurture them just like any child, and encourage that incredible strength they'll need to just be who they are.