Imma a guy, and there is this guy I like alot and I want to get him out of my head because I know I can never be with him. He is really sexy and sweet. I think about him constantly but the problem is that I have a girlfriend and we have been going out for 6 months, what do I do. I did'nt ask for this, but it is killing me.
2006-07-17 13:50:53 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Another common sense question ... hmmm!
Are you living a lie? You know better than anyone else. Stop wasting everyone's time as well as your own.
2006-07-17 15:26:13 · answer #1 · answered by Active Denial System™ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As much as you may want him, there is (sadly) no way you can make him like you. If you are only in the relationship with your girl because you feel obligated to be, you need to rethink your direction. Are you attracted to other guys, or is it just something about this one? If it's a one guy thing, you may not want to face all the negative things that accompany same-sex relationships, as even "straight" people have same-sex crushes every now and then. If you are bi and you can see yourself with this guy - and you know he feels the same way about you - that is the only justification for dissolving the relationship in this scenario. Again, however, if you don't feel much for the girl, why keep wasting your time with her?
I know how hard it can be. You've just gotta keep reminding yourself that you can happy if you want.
Have a pleasant day, and best of luck.
2006-07-17 21:05:27 · answer #2 · answered by oldwhatshername 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your girlfriend and see what she thinks on the matter. then talk to the guy and see what he has to say. but before you talk to either of them make sure you do some long hard thinking about what you want. do you want to be with her or do you want to be with him. once you have thought about the matter try and be prepared for anything. she can be cool with what you are feeling and suggest that you test the water see what he thinks and see if he would be interested in you. or she may flip and not want to talk to or see you again. the same goes for him. he may be interested in you as well and may want to hang out with you and take things from there or he may find the thought even repulsive and not want to talk to you again. these are all possibilities. like i said before you do anything make sure you do some major thinking on the matter so you don't make a larger mistake than you are ready for.
2006-07-19 15:40:34 · answer #3 · answered by babybro35 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya know no one asks to be gay they just are inside you need to soul search do i like women do i like men or both if it is both you should tell your girlfriend for future reference she will understand or she won't you have many things in life that are beautiful such as this guy you are attracted to i found out about me because of my dreams they centered around women so yes i am a lesbian and don't say you can never be with him you are bound to no one till you say i do and you should be head over heels in love with this girl to say forever the fact that this cute guy entered the picture maybe a chance for you to be honest with yourself i will pleed with you not to spend your life hiding your true self it was miserable for me and i am happier now that i am myself completely and u will be to don't be afraid to do the right thing for yourself first because thats what is important you should have every chance at happines all the best
charity
2006-07-17 21:35:06 · answer #4 · answered by lady heather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if it's killing you, it would be better to dump the girl and go for the sweet, sexy guy. I'm sure you would be happier.
2006-07-17 21:58:49 · answer #5 · answered by Cymalon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do the right thing by the girl and yourself. Let her go and find someone that really wants to be with her and set yourself free so that you can be with who you really want to be with. There's not point letting fear hold you down. Why can't you be with this guy? I can understand why your confused.
2006-07-17 22:40:23 · answer #6 · answered by vinyl_mad 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to be with the girl, then break up. Don't be held back simply because you have been going out with her for a while.
2006-07-17 20:53:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
eventually you'll have to tell your girl how you feel about guys. You'll only get him out of your head when you find someone else
2006-07-17 23:59:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try occupying your mind with something besides that guy. think of your gf constantly, it'll help a lot
2006-07-17 21:46:07 · answer #9 · answered by mcstennis09 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay with the girl.
2006-07-17 20:52:30 · answer #10 · answered by Luekas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋