my boyfriend and i were together for almost a year and a half, and i was focusing on school and my career, and he wanted to go back to his hometown, so i tranfered diffrent colleges. Then he broke up with me for no reason, and was seeing someone eles without telling me (while he was with me) and they have only been toegther for not even 2 months and there getting engaged already. His family is quite upset with him, im very close with the family, but in his past he did the same thing to someone else before. its like hes repeating his life again, I care and love him with all my heart, and im trying to move on, but the fact is we were gonna get married and have kids someday, it just hurts me that he would leave for no reason while im focusing on my career and marrys someone he dosent know! Do you think that relationship with that girl will last? He bacially broke up with me 3 times already. Please anyone who has any questions that would be appreated. Thankyou.
2006-07-17 13:38:37 · 18 answers · asked by confussed 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It sounds as if he is emotionally immature and unstable. I know it hurts, but you are better off without him.
2006-07-17 13:41:21 · answer #1 · answered by wellbeing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no telling if his relationship with the girl will last--time will tell. As far as you and your feelings are concerned: I would say that even though the family is upset and seem to like you, it is HIS decision because it is his life. No one can tell another what is good for them, we all have to find that out one way or another.
You have been focusing on getting a career and going through with college and I would try to transfer to a college not nearby and focus more on my education. The right guy will come along. The fact that your focus on school/career could have contributet to him leaving you is something I do not believe. I rather would think that he would have done so anyway, but that you focused so much on it gave him a good excuse....Good Luck
2006-07-17 13:47:21 · answer #2 · answered by MARIANNE G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I think that they will plan the wedding and something will happen that the wedding will be called off. It sounds as if he has been seeing this girl longer than u think and I think u should move on with ur life b/c he will just break ur heart again if u 2 get back together. He sounds like he likes the fun but once he gets to know u and has to deal with reality that everything isnt just fun and has to deal with the hard stuff that comes in a relationship he cant deal so he moves on to a new relationship that is new and fun. He doesnt know this girl really that is what is so fun about it they are still putting on fronts in front of each other.u know what i mean the normals like farting, etc. money promblems,etc.
2006-07-17 13:47:25 · answer #3 · answered by Tina d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm wondering why you went out with him knowing he did that before and why did you go back with him when he broke up with you 3 times.....from what i read it seems that he treats you like dirt....do you like been treated that way....I hope not....first what i would recommend is that you take some time off from having boyfriends.....take some alone time and think about what you really want.....I personally think you don't know what you want....if you let someone treat you that way, respect is out the door and if respect is out how can love be involved....you don't deserve to be treated bad....love and respect your self first....then if you want look for someone you can share your life with....imagine if you guys would have got married and you found out about it late....some of these life experience's teaches us to look before crossing....at this point it doesn't matter what happen to him or his new victim....he sounds like he likes to play with peoples feelings then splat....he crushes them. Please don't live your life like this....with many man in the world you will find someone that can love and respect you, treat you the way you need to be treated with the account of you doing the same....well i do wish you the best.....write if you need more advice....take good care of your self first!
2006-07-17 13:56:52 · answer #4 · answered by TUCK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry that you are hurt. Life is full of unexpected twists and turns. Some of them we like some of them we don't. But no matter what life throws you just remember "THIS TO SHALL PASS" I am quoting my 90 year old grandmother who is sharp as a tack and has not had an easy life by any means. Everytime I come to her crying, which is quite frequently, she tells me THIS TO SHALL PASS. Even though you dont want to hear it it's true. Life is going to work out the way it is supposed to no matter how much you want it to go one way we dont have a choice. I am sorry that you are hurting. I speak from experience
2006-07-17 13:44:40 · answer #5 · answered by what do you think? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me that you should just forget about him and move on. You focusing on your career and becoming what you want is more important than worrying about someone you're not in a relationship with anymore. You can still concern for him but I think he is out of your grasp now.
2006-07-17 13:46:28 · answer #6 · answered by jjc92787 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should quit thinking about what he's done and move on with your life without him. Why would you even want him back if he's already broken up with you three times? He's engaged now, so wish him well and find someone else.
2006-07-17 13:41:44 · answer #7 · answered by pamela_d_99 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People always say just move on, but it takes a toll on your emotions( what did she do that I didn't, why would he give up on something I thought was beautiful). The truth is that its going to take time to get him out of your system and I don't suggest dating right away because youre vulnerable. Focus on school, but start going to gym EVERYDAY, or boxing, or doing something that involves constant concentration and doesn't allow you to reminisce . He's so shallow to do this to you, and trust me, he has known her longer than a couple months.Try to make his life miserable, in a legal way
2006-07-17 13:50:51 · answer #8 · answered by dcbossygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What he did to you he will probably do to her single or married. Sounds to me like he did you a big favor. There are other better quality men out there. I know you still care or you would not have written. Think of this. You love your partents but you do not have to be with them all the time. You can still love somone and not be with them. Eventually the pain witll get easier to deal with. Go about your business and do what is good for you and before you know it you probably will meet somone worthy of you.
2006-07-17 13:47:17 · answer #9 · answered by amaineac 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are wasting your time on a loser. You deserve better. He broke up with you already and you took him back. He learned then and there he could treat you like a door mat and your love would forgive him.
Heard of the expression, Forgive and Forget? Well. you forgave him, now forget him and find someone who will treat you better.
Even his family wants better for you, so go find it. and quit submitting to a man who won't bend for you.
2006-07-17 13:44:04 · answer #10 · answered by Carol H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby, If he done this before several time and continue to do this. Let it go. I know that it isn't easy for you to so this, but u have to have some kind of dignity for yourself. Let it go and be the person that you are.POSITIVE, MOTIVATED, CAREER WOMAN. He will get his at the end and it may just be to late. And for future reference, don't just jump up and move without doing your research if you get what I mean.....................
2006-07-17 13:58:54 · answer #11 · answered by Precious lady 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋