well i just graduated from high school, and i just would like to have my freedoom without having to ask to go somewhere. it seem like the older i got the more stict she gets. when i was younger i got to do whatever i wanted to but now i can't .
2006-07-17 13:19:26 · 13 answers · asked by mary p 1 in Travel ➔ United States ➔ Other - United States
she cant deal w/ the fact she's losing her baby girl. my daughter is 13 and i have a hard time letting go w/ her when it comes to certain things. when she grows up and moves out its gonna kill me. cause no matter how old our children are they are still our babies and we dont want to let them go ever. we always want to hold onto them for as long as we can and love and protect them.
2006-07-17 13:32:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm about twice your age and let me tell you, it will never end. You will always be her child. You need to get a place of your own. It will never get any better (only worse) until you get a place of your own. But don't move before you can afford to. If you have to come back home, you will be in an even worse position. I suggest either college, job corps or the military, unless you have some relatives you can live with until you can afford to live alone. And DON'T rent a place with so called friends. It will likely break up your friendship, and you might end up supporting them (if they lose their jobs, etc.). Even if you were not great in high school, there are grants, etc that can help you get through college financially. That's your best bet.
Good Luck.
2006-07-17 13:28:48 · answer #2 · answered by Jennyee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 2 year old daughter and I can completly understand how your mother feels. You are precious to her and all she wants to do is protect you. But saying that I also know how you feel as I'm not that much older than you (I'm 24) so i know how important freedom is.... your twenties can be a very exciting chapter of your life. I suggest taking your Mom out for coffee and without getting excited or showing aggression tell her how you feel. Explain to her that you will always inform her of what you are doing so she knows you are safe, but tell her you are mature enough to not have to ask her permission for everything you do.
Anyway all the best to you and I know how annoying your Mom must seem, but it is only beacuse she loves you and thinks she is doing the right thing for you :)
2006-07-17 14:10:47 · answer #3 · answered by Lily 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother is probably more worried about you now that you are old enough to date. On the one hand, I could say 'be happy someone cares about you', on the other hand that won't help you much.
Ask your mother when the two of you can talk. Then tell her you fully understand her concerns and that you agree that while you are living at her house, she makes the rules but that you are at an age where she needs to allow you to make your own mistakes. Tell her it is inappropriate for her to try to shelter you from the world. Ask her to take some time to think about it and then get back to you.
The word "inappropriate" should get her attention. Stay calm when you talk to her. Best of luck. Let us know how you make out.
2006-07-17 13:30:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well im 16, and living at home (which isn't unusual). But my older brothers are older and have moved out. My olderst brother has a wife and a child now, and lives in Arizona which is really far so my parents can't tell him what to do anymore, but they do advice him to make the right decisions (in work ect) over the phone when he talks about stuff.
As for my other brother he lives in another city nearby and my parents are still telling him what to do. I guess it never changes untill your married with your own kids.
2006-07-17 13:37:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because she's a good Mom & someday you'll realize & understand (like when you're a mom). It's a messed up world out there & 20 although an adult is still pretty young. Respect your Momma, you'll always be her baby girl!
2006-07-17 13:30:28 · answer #6 · answered by trippydee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move out if possible...if not sit down and talk to her..and tell her how you feel about this after all your an adult..set some rules that you both can live by ..try to come to a Happy medium if need be..good luck your mother is always going to worry about you no matter what .and shes going to want the best for you
2006-07-17 13:25:30 · answer #7 · answered by nas88car300 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents will never treat you like an adult. One option is to move out if you are living at home or just learn to appreciate mom's company.
2006-07-17 13:26:43 · answer #8 · answered by Nc Jay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im having the same problem. Maybe she is afraid to let you grow up or let you go period. She may not be sure on how to handle you going out into the real world and becoming your own person.
2006-07-17 13:26:33 · answer #9 · answered by knd25th 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well as I see it as long as you live under the roof of your parents... you live by their rules. if you don't like it and are old enough and can make enough money to get thier own place then do it.
2006-07-17 13:23:20 · answer #10 · answered by kcracer1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋