2006-07-17 12:41:50 · 13 answers · asked by Tiff 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If she likes him, support her. Find the good in him, or at least try, for your moms sake! :-)
2006-07-17 12:44:47 · answer #1 · answered by wondering in michigan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the bottom line is you don't have to like your mom's boyfriend. What you do need to do is be respectful to both your mom and her boyfriend.
Have you spent any time getting to know him or do you just not like the idea of her dating someone? Is this a new person or the first person she has dated? Sometimes it is really hard when a parent dates for the first time or begins dating someone new.
I hate to say this but you wouldn't like it if she tried to tell you who to like or date and I don't think she will like you telling her.
Now, the other side is: Has he ever done anything that scared you? If so, you need to talk to your mom about it. If you already have tried, or you know she won't listen, you need to find someone else who will listen, maybe a grandparent or another relative. What about your dad? Is he around? Is he someone you can talk to about this without causing a huge problem? If your mom's boyfriend has done something really bad, you need to find someone to tell. Maybe a teacher, someone at church?
Good luck. I hope things work out for you.
2006-07-17 13:10:24 · answer #2 · answered by wolfmusic 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not a damn thing. Not knowing your age there really isnt much you can do. Hes your Moms problem and believe me adults can have lifes and relationships without their kids approval. Just stay out of way and when you cant just say hi and leave it at that. If he gets to talking to you, treat him like an adult and talk to him as there is nothing to be gained by causing trouble with your mom and you, and nothing to be gained by playing little kids games, because sooner or later you will leave home and start a new life and your mom will be stuck with him. good luck
2006-07-17 12:59:33 · answer #3 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wish I knew your age. If you are still living at home this can be a problem and I sympatize with you. Have you got to know him very well, you may just need to give him a chance, some time. Is there a specific reason you don't like him, something he has done or said? If so, you need to talk to your mom about it. I am sure her love and duty to you takes priority.
If you are on your own, then you need to let mom live her life without interference, unless, again, he has said or done something that mom needs to know about.
Best of luck to you.
2006-07-17 12:48:13 · answer #4 · answered by Mandalawind 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell your mom your reasons for not liking him. Whether you like it or not, he is your mom's boyfriend, and he obviously makes her happy. You want your mom to have somebody when all of the kids move out right? Just think about her best interest.
2006-07-17 12:44:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no easy answer to your question. Your mum after all is an adult and entitle to have some one in her life. Some times the man may not be the right choice and create a lot of stress for you.
Once this guy don't try and make a pass at you when your mum is not there. There might not be much a prudent person can do.
2006-07-17 12:57:02 · answer #6 · answered by Premio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just support your mom and be nice because she needs a life too. You dont have to be in his face but you do have to have respect for him and your mom.
2006-07-17 12:46:46 · answer #7 · answered by jasmine l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it be nice to know why you dont like him...
is he mean to you? treats you like crap? looks at you in a sexual manner? makes you uncomfortable in any other way?
if so, then you need to sit down and talk to your mom about him. and tell her what it is that he does that you dont like...
but, if you are just jealous of him, or dont like him because he is with your mom... then you really need to grow up and respect her decisions... as children we tend to forget that our parents are people too... and that they also have needs. we tend to get selfish and jealous if their attention is directed elsewhere...
take it from me... i was a little selfish biatch... my mother spent all her life alone, because my siblings and i were mean to men who would try to approach her... and for our "sake" she didnt marry or have any boyfriends... well, she was alone all her life... and she died 6 months ago... with no "LOVE" by her side... except us... her selfish children. i am sure she adjusted and was happy in a way, but still... i am in love right now, and i would be terribly heartbroken if i had to decide to leave my husband just because my kids didnt like him, and for selfish reasons... what a lonely life to live... just because your children are selfish and dont want to share you with the world.
your mom has a right to live and enjoy her life... dont make the same mistakes i did, because you will live to regret them.
2006-07-17 13:09:55 · answer #8 · answered by LiLiTh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go out with the dude with out your mom and then ask him if he wants to take you to a hotel?
He will say YES.
2006-07-17 12:46:58 · answer #9 · answered by PR 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her know how you feel and it is a real hard position to be in not only in your shoes but in your moms shoes to. Be honest with her about the way you feel and why you feel that way.
2006-07-17 12:46:20 · answer #10 · answered by 4X4 Woman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋