Why do I always mess up?

Question

I mean with everyone! I just alays have to mess something good up. Every dam time! Why do I have to go and make everyone unhappy without even trying. Why do I suck that much? I can't make anyone happy. Only angry, upset, sad,....anything but happy?

OMG....Daniel you are so right! In a way. The first mistake I make makes me feel like why get back up again just keep messing up but sometimes I don't even know it?

This kind of makes me hate myself.

Answer 1

I have the same problem with a certain aspect in my life and have thought about it. When you feel like something is going very well something in you psychologically triggers the thought that something bad will happen whether that thought comes psychologically or on the surface a "domino effect: of some sorts occurs and somewhere inside of you only "messing up" satisfies your need and in a way makes you feel better even for only a seconds because you think that that is what you truly deserve.... to mess up! Well that shouldn't be it. Next time something good happens tell yourself you deserve to be happy too and don't look for a letdown to occur.

Answer 2

hmmmm try changing your own life around you cannot make anyone else happy until you are happy yourself and obviously you are not because otherwise u would not be talking this way. Maybe try and seek a therapist to talk to that is what i had to do and i realized that i had a lot of underlying issues that i never knew were there and that was why i could not have a fullfilling relationship.

Answer 3

Make yourself happy first. The rest will come... or not. You can be focused on your self without being selfish.

And try not to characterize your own behavior as mean or spiteful or whatever unless it really is. Sometimes "mean" is what we do when we're not getting enough of what we want. It's just behavior -- mean is a label we get when we JUDGE that behavior.

Peace

Answer 4

Sweetie the reason you "seem" to make everyone unhappy because clearly you are unhappy. If you changed your attitude then I am sure others will follow suit. But ask yourself some questions: Am I truly making others unhappy? The people that I "seem" to make unhappy, are they healthy and happy individuals?

Answer 5

Well, you're right, you can't make anyone happy. That's not your job. That's their job to make themselves happy and it's yours to make yourself happy. The choice is yours. Don't beat up on yourself. If you feel you are wrong about something then change it. Not because it will make others happy or like you but because you simply know it's best for you.

Answer 6

Maybe it's their reactions to whatever you are doing is messing things up! Or are you intentionally trying to mess good things up? Ever hear of a self - fullfilling prophecy?

Answer 7

maybe you want to hurt them first before they hurt you. if thats the case fix yourself first before getting into any kind of relationship. anyways a true friend will stick by you during your hour of need

Answer 8

no sturdy element is thoroughly appropriate. you won't be able to purchase the vehicle and anticipate to easily pass the month-to-month be conscious. so.. you won't be able to have a woman and anticipate her to no longer communicate. thats what women human beings do. in case you do no longer want to hearken to our mouths, discover a mute lady. till you do, genuinely attempt listening to what she has to declare.

Answer 9

Before you say things, rethink it over in your head..make sure it wont upset anyone, and if you think it will, keep your mouth shut!

Answer 10

Stop feeling sorry for your self. Noow one is that bad. Just go say you are sorry and go on.