2006-07-17 12:35:50 · 29 answers · asked by Newlywed 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What is the problem? Can't really answer your question without more information. The only advice I can give you at this point is "You can't fix it"
2006-07-17 12:38:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not knowing what the problem is exactly, you have to ask yourself and answer truthfully;1. Do you really love him? 2. Is your marriage what you want and is it worth saving? 3.Can this problem be resolved with some kind of outside help? If you figure that the problem is too large to be resolved in any way, then the time has come to seriously think about your future and where you want to go with this relationship. Sometimes its better to just cut yor lossesnow and move on to a better life. Its all up to you
2006-07-17 19:50:21 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem in a marriage has to be taken care of. If it isn't it will fester into this ugly sore that will never go away. If the problem is him and it's something he has to quit (like alcohol or drugs) then he needs help. Your question is very vague so it's hard to answer. Marriage is a team so help him get help or get out of the marriage if you are in harm's way.
2006-07-17 19:39:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be supportive . I was "this" person having problems and causing more problems in my marriage. I was to the point that I could not help myself and looking back I needed my husband to step in and help me out. He choose to shut down and after getting totally fed up with me (couple of years) asked for a divorce. This was devastating to me after 21 years of marriage and 4 children. Well, this action did straighten me out. I lost everything that meant to me but at the same time realize what a great thing I screwed up. I wish he would of "helped me out more" before it came to this.Life lessons are tough sometimes. Good luck.
2006-07-17 19:43:12 · answer #4 · answered by DG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is the problem? Is he cheating on you? If so you have two options, forgive him and deal with it, or divorce him.
Now if it is drinking or abuse then I would suggest seperation and require the person in question to get help and once it is seen there is a change for the good let that person back into your life., and work with him.
The same way with gambling and other problems.
You don't just sit and mope and let things get to far gone. If yu do that you compound the problem..........
2006-07-17 19:42:52 · answer #5 · answered by sandra_k19 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice is to let them know how that it's a problem, that the reason you brought it up is that it's affecting you, and try to calmly let them know that it upsets you. Be ready to identify what you think are consequences if the behavior goes on uninterrupted, and offer a solution if there is one.
If you love them so much that you're willing to "ride it out" with them, let them know. If the problem is likely to end the relationship, let them know that also, but let them know that it's up to them, and that you won't wait forever for their answer, that they need to let you know what they are going to do about it, then they need to do what they say they're going to do.
Be ready for your life to change. Problems like this can affect the level of trust in a relationship, and it takes a really strong love to overcome them, and even then not without resentment.
Good luck, and remember -- you're important, too... look after yourself.
Peace
2006-07-17 19:41:15 · answer #6 · answered by Don M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without knowing what your specific problem is it's hard to say what one would recommend to help you. Don't hesitate to seek the help of professionals if you want to help your marriage overcome this "problem". You will do whatever it is you need to do if you want to stay with your spouse. Sometimes the problem may be so big, even though you love your spouse, you may need to leave to protect yourself or your own future.
2006-07-17 19:39:42 · answer #7 · answered by viclyn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it depends on the problem itself. Your question lends itself to the question whether the problem can be resolved. If it can then certainly find a way to resolve it be it counselling or otherwise. If you have assessed the situattion and you don't see any possible way that this problem can be resolved then ending it might just be the only other option.
2006-07-17 19:45:50 · answer #8 · answered by Ash 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Open up, tell him your feelings, compromise & accept him for what he is. You'll soon realize those big problems are just a speck comparing to what comes next in your marriage.
2006-07-17 19:41:20 · answer #9 · answered by Hermione 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the problems you are having...communication is the key to any marriage.
2006-07-17 19:48:35 · answer #10 · answered by Chi_Indy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋