Obviously she is never going to know what you did three thousand miles away, is it a risk worth taking? All the other guys are doing it? LOL
2006-07-17 12:31:01 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
For the record - I am not going on a guy holiday, I'm not married and I personally do not cheat - This is just a hypothetical question to see what interesting answers I get - I'm not the asshole all these people think I am - So there...
2006-07-17 12:57:54 · update #1
My husband stays out of town with his work four days a week. Different places each time. Of course he could cheat anytime he wants to. I'd probably never know it. BUT...If I EVER find out or if he EVER brings home any disease, he'll be packing his nuts in his suitcase for his next trip(if he does not bleed to death before he gets packed). Not kidding, either.
We have an understanding that if he ever decides he wants something else, he had better give me the call asking for a divorce BEFORE he follows through on his urges. We've been married 18 years and I think that I deserve that much respect. I totally understand that sometimes marriages don't work out, but there are right and wrong ways to handle things.
Anyone can cheat. You don't have to go 3000 miles to cheat and not get caught. You can do it at work, after work, on your lunch break, while your wife is at Church on Sunday, etc. It really does not take any skill. Our married preacher ran off with the girl that runs the local the YMCA, for Heaven's sake. Anyone can do it. It's much more noble to just go home and ask for a divorce if you are that unhappy at home.
2006-07-17 12:58:33 · answer #1 · answered by JustLookinAround 3 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it.
Marriage is supposed to be forever. Even if you aren't into that, remember that deceit and loss of self respect are forever, too.
Also, remember that "she is never going to know" is a statement that's based on a lot of assumptions. Are you sure that your friends will always be your friends? That nobody you know (or that will ever know you or your wife) will find out? That you won't catch something or accidentally get the woman pregnant?
If you think so little of your marriage that cheating on your wife is something you'd seriously consider, then you need to spend some time thinking about your priorities.
2006-07-17 19:37:02 · answer #2 · answered by DAC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I'd rather my husband divorce me than cheat on me while married. I want to be respected while in this union and in the same way, I respect him.
Ask yourself how it would feel if your wife is cheating behind your back. Can you still trust her? Can you stay married to someone you cannot trust? Guys are not the only ones who can cheat, y'know.
Following what other guys are doing just because they are all doing it is a sign of weakness & immaturity and not masculinity.
2006-07-17 19:56:56 · answer #3 · answered by Hermione 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be asking us if its worth the risk you should never cheat on your spouse for any reason. When you married her you entered into a commitment. Your an a** to even think about it. I feel sorry for your wife.
2006-07-17 19:40:00 · answer #4 · answered by nynerprincess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you don't. It's a can of worms you don't want to open. Even if she would never find out...it will eat you up. The guilt will consume you. If you have to ask, you already know the answer. Instead, go out buy her some flowers and tell her how much you love her. Because your friends are doing it, doesn't make it right.
2006-07-17 19:35:30 · answer #5 · answered by sosassy70 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
UMMMMMMMMMM........let me think about this a minute ..........................NOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!! What if she does find out? Are you gonna say "Well, all the other guys were doing it." Are you still so immature that you're giving into peer pressure? Even if she doesn't find out, don't you remember your wedding vows? If you're seriously considering this, then you don't deserve to be married. What if you get the girl pregnant? What if you get an STD? If you do cheat on your wife, I hope you come down with something, and she finds out and leaves you. That would be justice!!!
2006-07-17 19:44:51 · answer #6 · answered by sean's_mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may never find out but you will never forget how you took the chance of hurting your wife like that, of throwing away everything that the two of you have built, of loosing her love, trust, and respect.
So if you think so little of what you have done thus far in your relationship with your wife then go right ahead and cheat yourself ........I mean.on her.
2006-07-17 19:48:18 · answer #7 · answered by mike53153 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if all the other guys started shooting heroin,raping kids,and robbing people would you do it as well.obviously,her finding out is going to happen,cause guys are azzholes. if i was one of your friends and you cheated on your wife ,i would tell her,and she would pay you back by having an affair with me.your friends would always hold that over you,so think about wether it is worth it before you do it.if you decide to do it then please for your own safety use a condom.
2006-07-17 19:44:32 · answer #8 · answered by curtismarsch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a wife, and you'll find my answer odd. The answer is yes. At least it's not in your back yard, there'll be no emotional backlash, and may even add a spark to your life and your marriage.
2006-07-17 19:37:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Don't do it. If all the other guys you are with are doing it, it sounds like they're not the kind of people that are healthy to be with.
And picking up an STD and having to explain it to her is TOTALLY not worth it.
2006-07-17 19:34:50 · answer #10 · answered by booktender 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋