get frustrated with doing good? Let me explain. My husband and I do not have a lot of problems that really require outside help. We have a lot of friends though, and it seems as though at least one of our friends is having a catostrophic problem all the time. We always do what we can to help and we have given out money, food and allowed numerous people to crash out at our house. We've taken care of kids and given rides and the list goes on and on. And the thing is, I really don't mind because I figure that God put us and them together for a reason. But, sometimes I get frustrated and I don't even want to answer the phone. Is this wrong? Is it normal?
2006-07-17 12:30:00 · 11 answers · asked by proudmatriarch 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Yes! It is normal to feel overwhelmed as a human being! You are just flesh and bone and you are going to get those feelings whether you're a Christian or not. Yes, God puts people in our path so that we can help them. He also puts people in our path so that we can learn Bible principles like patience. When you pray, bring it to God in prayer. None of us are "perfect and If you try to be you will feel disappointed all the time. Relax, let go and LET GOD!
2006-07-17 12:39:45 · answer #1 · answered by KIT-KAT 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
stop punishing yourself, you're human with normal emotions that can get drained by constantly giving to others. your marriage is important and you are important...take some time for yourself and your husband instead of constantly giving to others. God does not expect you to be responsible for solving other people's problems because you're not !! don't feel guilty either...you have been a good friend and there's only so much you can do. And God didn't put you with them, you make a choice...recognize when you've done enough...and be careful of always stepping in to save the day as it can prevent people from learning to be independent and standing on their own two feet...all the best and stay strong ! :-)
2006-07-17 19:50:26 · answer #2 · answered by neola 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it is not normal, you see, whenever someone chooses to help other people they also have to consider their own wellbeing and let people live their own lives, you have to say no sometimes, maybe assign some time to take a rest from that, a couple months, or maybe just a couple weeks, maybe a whole year, so that you can continue helping with all your heart after, dedicate some time for yourselves
it doesnt matter how pressing the situation is for the other people, you MUST have some time to ponder and live your life, you cant just live your lives throught other people
first and foremost look for your own happiness, so that you can really help others
2006-07-17 19:42:35 · answer #3 · answered by yupi666 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No that's normal!!! It's good that you're helping people out and that is the Godly way but you do sometimes need to take time out for yourself. Because this does seem like that can be very overwhelming after awhile. And sometimes don't answer the phone and later when your ready to talk just simply explain that you need some R&R. If their your true friends and appriciate what you have done for them they will understand!!!
2006-07-17 19:36:12 · answer #4 · answered by CPSweetie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong or nor abnormal. I'm a associate minster's wife. So Imagine the calls that we get every day. Frustration really comes when you have to share ur Husband with people who seem to be always in a "catastrophic problem." God ask us to try and test those spirits or to have spiritual discernment so that we won't burn out. I pray and ask God for a rest period or a season of rest for my family and especially for my Husband. It's nothing wrong in saying "NO" in a loving godly way and help them to look to other sources.
Shalom
2006-07-18 03:25:21 · answer #5 · answered by Pashur 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think there's anything wrong because you're only human you know and you're doing all you can to help your friends. Helping others shouldnt get to the point where you, yourself become unhappy and sometimes you just need to have faith in God and let him take care of things and watch his own sheep. I hope everything works out for ya! The best thing to do is pray to God for strength and he will provide for you in the end :) take care and Godbless.
2006-07-17 19:43:03 · answer #6 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heck yes that's normal!
You're only human. Sometimes God puts someone in your life as a challange, but all too often Satan puts freeloaders in your life as clubs to beat you down with. God put Adam and Eve in the Garden to hedge and protect it, not to start a snake sanctuary. Pray for discernment, and demand that those who put upon you be accountable. You have each other and your future to think of ahead of saving the world. You and your hubby sound like the kind of folks others can look to as examples of folks they should try to emulate, don't let the world tear y'all down to the point that you become laughing stocks.
2006-07-17 19:42:09 · answer #7 · answered by rumplesnitz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made a vow to God when you got married so you owe your marriage and family as much time and effort as you do everyone elses problems. Sometimes if you dont have time to help someone or just dont feel like it then pray for them...sometimes that's better anyway.
2006-07-17 19:35:54 · answer #8 · answered by Polly W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bible says "love your neighbor as yourself" Would you get frestraited if you needed help and it was given numorus times. Pray and give your life to God. If you help them they will help you. God loves you and your friends and it sounds like your doing a good job. Keep up the good work
2006-07-17 19:38:55 · answer #9 · answered by c1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's remove the word "christian" from your question and replace it with "human being". Now your question reads, "If you are a human being it is OK to...?"
Is it OK to have feelings? Is it OK to feel that others take advantage of you? Is it OK to feel that the weight of the world is on your shoulders? Is it OK to feel anger, frustration, etc.?
You are askiing if it's OK to be human with human feelings. Assuming you really are a human being, why wouldn't it be OK?
2006-07-17 19:42:48 · answer #10 · answered by Angry C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋