why are men so hard to understand?

Answer 1

We're not. In fact, we're quite simple to understand compared to you lovely ladies.

1) Love me and say so.
2) Respect me and say so.
3) Be a good mother to my children.
4) Desire me and say so.
5) Feed me.

That's it.

Answer 2

Men are not hard to understand, when the communication lines are clear, they are hard to understand when we fail to understand that we really do not know the man. And know him to the point of being able to finish his sentences.

Answer 3

Men and women can't understand eachother and they get mad about it when they should be like you and ask why? I recommend these three books: Men are like Clams and Women are like Crowbars, Why Men don't listen and women can't read maps, and Men are from Mars Women are from Venus.

I've made my man read all three and he's practically perfect! We can relate to eachother now that we know that we ARE different by nature.

Answer 4

Men are very easy to understand. There are three general rules.

First: Behavior follows values. Always. You can never change behavior, because he will always seek out what he values. Nagging doesn't make him value a clean house... he only behaves because he values not being nagged. To keep the behavior changed, you have to keep nagging... constantly. The only thing you can do is help change his perspective so that his values change. Then the behavior change is automatic. He seeks what he values. Adding rewards or punishments for "behavior" is very short term and must be constantly repeated. Understand what he values and you will understand, very clearly, his behavior. I will give you one clue. Above all else, men value self-esteem; which leads to rule #2.

Second: On a very fundamental level, men get their sense of self esteem from two places, and only two. Everthing else is an attempt to compensate for these two areas. They are career (which signifies success in the struggle for survival) and sex (which signifies success in the struggle for procreation). A man will strive for success in these two areas constantly. Always. The only exception is when he has been beaten and defeated often enough that the fear of failure is so great he stops trying. He will defend what self esteem he has left by refusing to be in a position to fail again. If he cannot accept his weakness, he will blame others for his failure. If you want to hurt a man, demean his job or his performance. If you want to help a man, let him know how valued his performance in these two areas is.
Third: Men lie because women punish us for telling the truth, and we learn quickly. Our core values are different than yours. When they don't match, you see us as less than you because you see our values as less than yours. So... unless we are very strong we pretend. We lie. The Japanese say every man has three hearts; one he shows to the world, one he shows to his closest friends and family and a third he keeps only to himself, and guards closely. The only time you will ever see it is when he loses control; through grief, anger or the stress of assault. When that happens, he will show you who he truly is... what he's truly made of. When a man shows you who he truly is, even once, believe him.
Enough?

Answer 5

Men don't think like we do......Their thoughts are deeper in some areas and only surface thought in others. We are the same except our suface thoughts are centered on the things that are deep thoughts for men and our deep thought are in the same area as a man's surface thoughts.

Men don't have it easy understanding certain feelings they have either. If they are depressed they become angry and moody. Even if they know they are depressed they will never let us know. They will just say they are angry.

Answer 6

Men really are not hard to understand at all, all you have to do is listen to us ( meaning; listen to the words ). Most men say just what they want and need. Women make our lives's complicated. Don't rearrange what we say . Listen to the words. Believe me, you'll understand if you do !!!

Answer 7

I think a lot of us guys are afraid to really open up completely to a woman. Every guy has his own unique hang ups, and most of us have a hard time really expressing them to women.

Answer 8

Men are easy to understand....just look at us and you can figure us out....example....we go to the fridge (we want a beer)...We sit down in front of the TV (we want to watch sports)....and the last example I'll give you is...We look at you (we want sex)....pretty simple now isn't it.....lol



Or did i just make this up.....

Answer 9

Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus ---it works both ways!

Answer 10

women are more mature than men and that makes them sooooo hard to understand....and soooooooo hard to handle