well, im a male, 21yo, 6'0, not bad looking.
The thing is that I've had sex twice, when i was 18.(one night stands)
The reasons i dont have sex anymore is that im afraid that ill get some STD and bc i dont want to have sex with ugly ppl.
am i wasting my time? i mean as u know a man's "libido" doesnt get better as he ages, he'll probably end up with erectile dysfunction.
Also, i think i can have sex(and be worry-free) if ppl can show me that they dont have any stds(on paper from the clinic).
sometimes i think that im wasting my youth, and that later in life ill regret it.
am i being paranoid? should i be more "open"?
if u have anymore questions just email me
2006-07-17 12:06:39 · 11 answers · asked by RobS 1 in Social Science ➔ Other - Social Science
I DIDNT FEEL GOOD WHEN I HAD SEX THOSE 2 TIMES. SO I GUESS I NEED SOME KIND OF CONNECTION.
2006-07-17 12:12:01 · update #1
Wait for the right person...
Two many diseases out there. Its best to be selective.
You arent missing a thing...and by the way.. the prettiest girl can be the deadliest girl so looks shouldnt be a huge factor in selecting a sex partner.
The safest sex is no sex so if you're gonna have it make sure you use latex condoms with spermicide never lambskin condoms.
If you are picky about sex then more power to you.. its not a good look when a person is quick to hop in the sack with anyone.
2006-07-17 12:09:59 · answer #1 · answered by PG 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The threat of disease is a real one. I've known quite a few people that have contracted STD's it didn't kill them but they definitely have to live with it for the rest of their lives. One friend got gentital herpes
AIDS and other std's can take up to 6 months to show active so what someone has on paper doesn't really matter. It's scary to think that sex is literally deadly.
I waited. I had sex for the first time on my wedding night when I was 24 and I was concered just as you were about the whole libido thing. But I asked friends that had been married, 10, 20 even 50 years and they all said that the sex just keeps getting better. You have one person, you grow in intimacy with, know them how to please them and you love them completely and they you and there is no fear of disease or rejection or anythign like that.
If you are concerned about having great sex, find a woman that you truly and faithfully love and who loves you back and you'll have the most mind blowing sex in the world. I paralized my wife the other night. I though it was so good that it gave her a stroke LOL.
I'm telling you man it's awesome, but it's not so fun when you're waiting but it's worth it.
Don't listen to everyone else telling you to just jump in the sack, they're just trying to fill something thats lacking in their lives and hearts. Trust me on this. Sex+love+commitment=many broken beds. It's awesome when you don't even have to think about wearing a condom...THOSE THINGS SUCK
2006-07-17 12:27:27 · answer #2 · answered by Levi I 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, don't worry about the libido. I'm 36 and still going! That's 15 years away from 21, and you can do a lot in 15 years! Second, only you can judge whether or not you're being paranoid. You may need to loosen up a little, but don't skimp on the protection! You don't want to reach my age and feel encumbered by an STD. Live, love, laugh, have fun!
2006-07-17 12:14:29 · answer #3 · answered by Speedo Inspector 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was younger I passed on sex several times. I thought I had "wasted" my chances several times, but the truth was, I just wasn't comfortable enough with the people.
Now I am married, have lots of sex (5 times yesterday) and I am 29 (married for 6 years) and I don't regret ever turning down casual sex.
There is plenty of time left for a 21 year old to have lots of great sex, but one night stands won't make you feel better about yourself.
2006-07-17 12:18:07 · answer #4 · answered by Jimee77 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are wasting your opportunities, wisdom wise... i'm sure you have at least ten more important things to do besides have sex. You want to be with someone "clean" - take a lot of time to get to know someone very, very well, then get to know her family then show your support by getting tested with her. You want to keep your libido while you wait - Join a sports team, drink lots of water and eat fresh food, it'll last your whole life...you could always ask a doctor.
2006-07-17 12:16:57 · answer #5 · answered by TarasBoutiqueAtEtsy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should wait for the right person so then you can make sure that person doesn't have and STD's. Its much more safer than one night stands. Your on a more personal level.
2006-07-17 12:15:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-01 19:30:39 · answer #7 · answered by duenwald 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Random sex is never a good idea...why don't you try love?
2006-07-17 12:09:50 · answer #8 · answered by Flutter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
become a hoe just wear a rubber
2006-07-17 12:11:07 · answer #9 · answered by BrianKSE2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just have sex
2006-07-17 12:10:13 · answer #10 · answered by Lindsey♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋