My husband and I have going through a tough time. We have not been romantic in a while. I pursue and get shot down. I am lost at what to do. When we have conversations, they turn out bad. I suggested a marriage couselor to my husband. He accepted earlier and now he doesn't want to participate. He is very defensive when I bring up the marriage counselor subject. I have been receiving attractive invitations from male friends. Attractive meaning, good looking gentlemen who are willing to please. Attractive also because I currently do not have any romance from my hubby. I am so confused and really do not know what to do. Does this mean divorce and should I accept invitations from friends?
2006-07-17 11:54:16 · 17 answers · asked by Looking 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Men sense vulnerability in a woman even better than you sense confidence in a man. Lots of guys see you as a target.... quite frankly, as an easy lay. So, they'll offer you the appearance of what you want to get what they want.
Understand it's not love, or appreciation, or any of that. You are attractive because you are vulnerable. They weren't coming on to you like gangbusters until then, were they?
So... either fix the marriage or don't. But the men... they all have issues deeper than your husbands, and just as destructive to your self-esteem in the end.
2006-07-17 12:04:15 · answer #1 · answered by antirion 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
I would not. Have u thought about sitting down and trying to tell your husband just what it is you have shared on here? How about you seeking counseling? Sometimes if one party is unwilling the other partner may find comfort and solace in working on issues sometimes they don't even realize are there. You married him for better and for worse; right now you're in the worse so does that mean you just throw in the towel????...Obviously, you still love him or you wouldn't be pondering seeing other men. It's easier to do what's wrong rather than do what's right. However, remember there's never a right way to do the wrong thing. Don't think that adding insult to injury is going to smooth things over; you'll just create more problems and will eventually end up hurting someone else like you are hurting now. Think carefully, one small mistake make change your life--for the worse FOREVER!!!....
2006-07-17 12:05:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Husband & Friends?
2014-12-18 22:17:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear! Well, I don't want to be a party pooper, but it sounds like you're with my ex husband! He got that way because he had a girlfriend on the side.
But don't cheat! Tell your husband that you need to have open communication with him, and you feel as if he's leaving you out of something that is going on in his life. Try to get him to talk to you, or see the counselor on your own. But, don't cheat!
2006-07-17 12:05:45 · answer #4 · answered by long_ebony_locs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What man shoots down his wife when she wants to get romantic? In my opinion, only one that is getting "it" from an outside source. Don't accept those attractive invitations quite yet, my dear. Find out what is going on with your husband first, as this could reveal your next steps; a) nail him on the "outside source" and work it out, or b) get divorced and start letting these male friends fulfill your needs. Good luck.
2006-07-17 12:12:37 · answer #5 · answered by julesl68 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's going through something right now. Maybe stress from work or midlife crisis. Ask him to open-up and tell you what's wrong and tell him what's bothering you. Maybe try having a couples time together... A vacation. Cheating may be fun at first but the guilt would kill you inside.
2006-07-17 12:19:36 · answer #6 · answered by Hermione 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hold on don't do something you cant take back sit down and have a serious talk with him ask him point blank what does he want does he want to get a divorce if he says no tell him counseling is the only chose if he wants to make the marriage work everybody goes through dry spells every now and then if he shots you down again then last resort get a divorce
2006-07-17 12:03:52 · answer #7 · answered by Kay D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love each other greatly, then things will work out. but it don't look like its going to work out. A man who don't want sex?? Seems weird to me. Good luck hun.
2006-07-17 11:58:53 · answer #8 · answered by amandameibeyer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about it. If the situation doesn't get better, i will say you take the bull by the horn. It's difficult, but you deserve happiness. Time waits for no one.
2006-07-17 12:01:50 · answer #9 · answered by Mamamia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do they keep trying to make boy bands?
2017-02-02 21:36:00 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋