what do i do...anyone help??

Question

I am scared to leave my apartment. I am a single girl living alone in a kind of bad neighborhood. Yesterday 3 black guys and a white guy all decided that hitting on me was a good i dea...the white guy is my neighbor, so i had to be nice, hes my neighbor, i dont want any problems. But ever since yesterday him and his black friends have been walking into my apartment building knowcking on my door, waiting for my car to be home to ring my buzzer. I am just wondering what i should do.....It is a little scary

they have also been sitting on my car and being very rude.

i live in WI and i have a lease, ive already moved once because of last roomate....

Answer 1

not sure now to help you on this one-they are pushing the line here and it is making you nervous-do think people should be more aware of boundaries and this is one you are going to have to tell them-dont do it looking for a fight just say that you dont appreciate the attention like this-but do appreciate the thought-sometimes need a little privacy and if you want company will ask-if thay can take a hint all is settled and no hard feelings--holler back anytime if this doesnt work are other options but always best to try to talk first-old hippie here-stay safe

Answer 2

Well, if you call the Police, you'll most likely start more trouble because they'll just take offense to it.

You're obviously an attractive girl and live alone. This is not a good situation to be in. Move. You need to move to a nicer area that isn't plagued by potential horndog rapists.

Seriously, you need to move. Stay with a friend until you find another place if you have to, but I really think the best idea would be to leave immediately before things really get bad.

PS Do NOT call the police like these people are telling you to do on here. All you're going to do is piss them off and they'll want to get even. I've seen it happen. A restraining order is just a piece of paper. All they have to do is violate it one time and you're either raped or dead.

Don't bring the cops into this. Just LEAVE. Who cares about your lease. Everyone breaks leases. Your life and well-being are a little more important than some silly lease.

Get out.

Answer 3

Yeeargh. How much time do you have left on that lease? First of all, I would discuss the issue with your landlord. That way if (God forbid) anything should happen to you, at least you have one witness who knows who he is, and where he lives. Also, there may be an option to move you into a different unit and a different parking space, so he'll think you moved. You may wish to talk to the police; if you do, they will ask what course of action you wish to take, so it is best to consider that now. If they just issue him a warning, he may become even more of a jerk. Really, at this time, you may just file a report. Then, keep other people close to you, like friends, family, or co-workers, until you finally move out of that crummy neighborhood (which is probably the best course of action). Independence is great, but if you can't enjoy it, you are better off sharing an apartment in a better neighborhood.

Answer 4

That's tough. You want to be anonymous with your actions because they could easily go from rude to scary. You could try talking to the guys, although they are coming on strong, maybe they don't understand that they are scaring you, although they might also not care. Try talking to the apartments and see if there is anything they can do. At least they can have security around your area more often, and maybe if it comes to it and you can find another apartment, they will let you out of the lease. In the meantime, try to have someone go home with you as often as possible, safety in numbers. Or come up with as many excuses you can for why you have to be left alone, although you're probably doing that now. Keep pepper spray in your purse too. I hope this helps, I always had roommates so I never had this problem, but I can definitely sympathize.

Answer 5

personally i think u should just move out, but in some situations like not having enough money or having to find somewhere else to live could be some problems. So really i would call the cops and report it and maybe they will have some cop patrol the neighborhood at the times that you think you are in danger. would you rather have a neighbor who is mad at you because you told him to leave you alone or a neighbor who is a little too nice and kinda puts himself on you. but if you do this make sure someone is with you so that nothing could happen to you. just be careful, if i couldn't help i am sorry but i tried.

Answer 6

You have problems,I would ask the police for advice.

Is there a gym or Karate studio in your neighborhood?
It would help if you are seen with cops or some large guy friends.
Consider asking the cops to drive by often,I'll bet some of those guys have warrants and do not want to talk to cops.
Bugging you is one thing knocking on your door is going too far I am sure.
Ask the police for advice.
Any of your girl friends have bikers for boyfriends?
They think it's funny cause you are alone,the fun stops when the cops are around or they stand a chance of having their teeth knocked out.
You have to use some judgment,or they will mess with your car and make life rotten for you.
Consider moving,somehow keep your new address a secret.
E-mail me with what city you are in.

Answer 7

The Police and a restraining order are good ideas and they may work. But the truth is, if they don't you may have to move to protect yourself from these louts. People like this often care nothing about legal restraints--they are a law unto themselves.
Try the Police and see if that stops their harassment. If it doesn't then start looking for an apartment somewhere else that's in your price range.
Remember, no matter how much you like the apartment you are in, your safety comes first.

Answer 8

Well, one of the things that have helped me in situations like this is being firm with my boundaries.

People will push you as far as you will let them.

There is a way to be firm with people with out being confrontational, though.

These boys sound like they are trying to get a rise out of you. I'm assuming that you are cute if 4 guys hit on you. They want your attention and are going about it in an immature way.

Definitely don't let them know you are scared. Practice in the mirror and see if you can come up with a look that says your boring me and I'm not impressed.

Look them directly in the eyes, without smiling and shoot them your look.

Answer any questions briskly, coldly and confidently. If they comment on your attitude, tell them it's hard not to have an attitude when people are disrespectful to you.

Being a petite, white female (any race of female, actually) can be scary sometimes. Don't try to handle this if you think you might be in danger.

The bottom line is, if you feel someone is capable of harming you, don't hesitate to tell people that can help like your apartment manager and/or the police.

You have the right to feel safe!

Answer 9

tel the neighbor about feeling uncomfortable with the situation. Next, Report them for loitering. If this doesn't work, a restraining order on you neighbor may be in order. This also alerts the Police to the fact you have an on-going problem.

Answer 10

Sweetie, you've got problems and it's time to quit the niceties with your neighbor. Tell him outright that the current situation bothers you and you're really not interested in new "friendships." Then, call the police and report them as stalkers. From there, they could give you more specific tips. Carry some self-defense aides with you as well, such as pepper spray, a cell phone, and even your car keys dangling (they make sharp weapons if you swing them hard).