hi am 42 yrs. old and i have been with this man for 7yrs. but i have gotten tired he want work and he watch tv all day and ne cheat on me i have made up my mind to leave and move to a different state i told him i was leaving 5 mos. ago and he never tried to do better for his self now he is telling me he will be homeless living in his car i have took care of him for 3yrs. and i don't care to do it anymore should i care that he will be homeless. he will be 60 yrs. old this year and he can't take care of his self and am tired he's not trying to find anywhere to live and he can't go with me
2006-07-17 11:10:07 · 16 answers · asked by beautyofcolor2 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It is not wrong for you to leave him it is wrong for you to stay with him.
It sounds like you stayed 7 years too long.
Time for you to totally cut loose from him and move on. Start your life fresh. No need for you to even check in with him. He has made his choices in life. It isn't up to you to find a place for him to live. Hopefully the local shelter or his family will take care of him.
Next, when you start over again make sure you don't let another man in your life who will be depenent on you. Many of us women tend to repeat our behavoir. Make a list of things you need in a man and things that would be red flags to avoid. It is better to not have a man in your life than to go through this sort of thing before.
Remember time to totally cut the cord with this man. Don't let him make you feel quilty. It is up to him to turn his life around. You have given him way more than you should of.
Start fresh. And take good care of yourself!
2006-07-17 11:28:10 · answer #1 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are 42, he is 60, quite a difference, has it occured to you he might not be feeling alright???? You talk about him, as if it was one sacrifice after another for 7 years??? ..... I broke up after 14 years with my partner, who had slagged me down in public, and tried to make me a laughing stock in the street where we lived. It only worked with people who drank as much as he did. You know, really addicted. I broke up with him in 2003 because it was obvious, that he suffered from Korsakov syndrom as many heavy drinkers do, only to take him back in because we found out he had cancer in his throat.... I had suspected for months already, but he would not want to go see a doctor... He was in denyal, One of the conditions I took him back was going to see the doctor... after that I had a hospitalbed putin the living room, and I nursed him 8 months ,was in the radiation room with him every step of the way. untill he very unexpectedly was taken to hospital where he died at 4 in the morning in his sleep.
I'm not sure if I should take you serious, How can he want work, sit on the sofa watching tv and cheat on you at the same time???
You are not using any interpunction, which is a bit awkward and actually points at you for not being not quite sincere in the matter....He doesn't do better for him self??? Looks like his self .can do a lot better, than you can for you, since you said you were leaving. 5 mos = months ago.... Another point, it does not look good, to simply rattle on in two long sentences. Don't you have to breath in between..... I'm Dutch but I'm glad I wasn't your English teacher, you would have flunked my class for sure.
2006-07-17 12:05:30 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Alma of Avalon Grailguard 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep on with your guns and go away him hun. Any guy who inflicts emotional abuse on you, and then tries forcing you to stay, isn't a guy. Your 2yr old son will %. up on your arguing and could study this kind of behaviour - it style of appears like getting your little boy faraway from his dad may be extra proper for all of you. keep in mind that you're marriage is going backwards, go away, and be conscious the way you experience once you've been faraway from him. Do it for the sake of your son - that is under no circumstances good to stay mutually for the children.
2016-10-14 21:53:23 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not wrong to leave. It was wrong to stay. Especially when you told him you were leaving 5 months ago. You should have walked then. I'm not one for gold-digging, but a wonderful rule of thumb is to find a man that makes equal to or greater than what you make so you don't wind up with the kind of sponge you got stuck with.
2006-07-17 11:14:00 · answer #4 · answered by SuperJenn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say go ahead and leave his sorry butt because I can guarantee you that if he manipulated you to pay his bills and take care of him for 7 years then he will most likely prey on someone else and they will be in your shoes the minute that you are gone. Girl, go live your life and don't think twice about his sorry butt, because he is only in this situation because he chooses to be, so don't stop living so that someone else can live off of you, while you're living in hell. Good luck!
2006-07-17 11:15:25 · answer #5 · answered by rodaerc06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you took care of him for three years what he got he would have been out the door long before now he can sit his lazy *** up each day and watch tv you paid for electricity and eat your food you provide and hasnt bother to look for a job girl are you nuts dont stoop to taking care of no man he can clean parking lots stores rest room something yard who cares he needs to be left at the curb with the trash you are leaving behind kick him the hell out i get so angry when womens sit up and say they are supporting lazy *** mens with health and strenght he can support him self hes is not your responsible
2006-07-17 11:26:57 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is set in his ways and there is nothing you can do to help him.
Ask yourself if you deserve this? You need to take care of you and your kids if you have them. There are shelters and places like the YMCA that care for folk like this.
Hope everything turns out well.
Cat
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2006-07-17 11:32:59 · answer #7 · answered by CatLambe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave make yourself happy. Sounds like he is using you and trying to make you feel guilty if you leave but don't. He had a choice and did nothing about it.
2006-07-17 11:15:10 · answer #8 · answered by Widowed dad in michigan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no way hun you need to take care of you and let him take care of himself..anybody no matter what age,race,religion,etc can get a job..stop feeling sorry for him and be like the mother bird and throw him out of the nest so he can fly and take care of yourself...
2006-07-17 11:15:11 · answer #9 · answered by wildflower776usa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it is not wrong 2 leave him! if he's lazy mad is going to depend on you for everything....please not to sound rude but hey, if he's being a leech....leave him drop him.. you can probably do much better!
2006-07-17 11:13:21 · answer #10 · answered by sorahya f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋