i'm a rodeo queen and barrel racer. he is a bullrider and is going to leave for national guard training as soon as he graduates which i this may!! i want to be able to queen untl i can no longer do so and stay with my mom for she is extremely depressed but i just can't seem to tell him why we can't get married when he ggets home other than i'll only be 18 and not ready i want to be able to party which he don't like cuz i party hard and all i party with are guys cuz thats all i hang out with help me i don't want to hurty him i really love him. he was after all my first for everything HELP
2006-07-17 11:04:06 · 10 answers · asked by rodeo_rebel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are only 18. You are young. You need to get out & see what life is all about before you commit to one person.
A person changes A LOT between the ages of 18 and about 25. Your priorities change, you outlook on life changes, your life ten years from now may not bear any resemblance to the life you are leading right now. To get married at this stage is a recipe for disaster.
Not only that, marriage is a terrible thing to do to some one you love.
2006-07-17 11:17:16 · answer #1 · answered by silly_nut 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't get married until youre 21, or you don't want to get married until you're 21? It sounds to me like you are really in love with this guy but you also love your life, and that is very important. If you get married you may not be able to queen and definetely you will not be able to party with all you guy friends. You are still very young and need to live life to it's fullest. If you do get married because you are scared of loosing him, then you might loose out on living life to it's fullest and blame it on him. You will know when you are ready to get married, Let him go and if he comes back he was always yours. God bless both of you:)
2006-07-17 11:17:40 · answer #2 · answered by ange!s26 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a difference between can't and don't want to. You don't want to and you need to tell him up front and honestly. It isn't fair for you to let him think you'll get married when he gets back when you have no intention of doing so. Don't get me wrong I am all for waiting to get married and would definitely encourage you to do that, wait as long as you want but you HAVE to tell him the truth about it, what if he was just leading you on and making promises he didn't intend to keep? How would that make you feel? The only way NOT to hurt him is to tell him, it will hurt him much more later on when he figures out you lied to him for years.
2006-07-17 11:23:07 · answer #3 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you really love someone,the question you are asking will not even matter. You sound like you are not ready for a commitment,after all you are only 18 yrs old. Be honest and tell him the truth. You are just not ready.
2006-07-17 11:30:21 · answer #4 · answered by mrsreadalot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you love him sooo much if he first of everything and now you like to party and hang out the guys.?????? You just can't live without party!!!! and you can live without him.... if you love him so much and first of everything then you need to stop party..
I did that when I first met my wife and i was drunk and i see other woman and i found out that she found out saw me and I try to tell her so sorry i was wrong and I know I was wrong and she said yeah sure... So guess what I stop party as I used like it and My wife very imporant to me and I stop and I havent touch one damn drink for 9 years for my wfie and many friend and everyone ofter me a drink i ask for soda... That how much I love my wife and she is my first and last and my everything. I change becasue I want to be with her rest my life and now it 9 years of marriage 2 beautiful kids and I am damn proud that I don't party no more.
If you can't stop then you need to move on.
2006-07-17 11:25:40 · answer #5 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you want a happy marriage you have to quit all the partying unless you party with him 21 is a long way off practice respecting each others needs you will make an excellent wife someday
2006-07-17 11:30:23 · answer #6 · answered by Kay D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are too young to make such a huge lifetime commitment to him. Tell him you love him and will write and call and see him when he can come home, but that you can't commit to marry him yet. You may be in a better spot to make that commitment when he comes home. Wait and see. If he loves you, he'll accept that.
2006-07-17 11:23:47 · answer #7 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whats marriage anyway? Whay do you need to be married?
2006-07-17 11:22:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on........live your life.......do as you please.......discover yourself.....you have the best years of your life ahead of you. Don't let a guy discourage you from any of that.
2006-07-17 12:17:44 · answer #9 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your nopt ready for commitment
2006-07-17 11:13:47 · answer #10 · answered by treatau 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋