So it's just before my bedtime. I'm in the bedroom, in bed, watching the news. In comes the wife, and without a single word gets in bed, turns off the TV , and starts reading. So I ask her if she is going to turn the light out. She says she wants to read for a while. I ask her if I can turn on the TV, and she says she can't read when the TV is on.
I can't sleep because the light is on, and staring at the ceiling is pretty boring, so I had to get out of bed and go into the other room until she decided it was time to go to sleep.
She does this and other things like this a lot.
Is it me, or is my wife pretty selfish?
2006-07-17 10:15:15 · 49 answers · asked by tspbrady 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get a set of headphones for the TV. When she can't hear the TV, see what she comes up with next. Retaliate by leaving the toilet seat up. Leave the cap off the toothpase, put the roll of toilet paper in backwards, ask her to wear that dress again.(you know the one she claims makes her look fat)...this can be fun.
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2006-07-17 15:13:16 · answer #1 · answered by mt_hopper 3 · 6⤊ 1⤋
That's pretty disrespectful. I'd not deal with such behavior.
My wife also enjoys reading before bed. I also enjoy watching a bit of television before I go to sleep.
She goes to bed before I do so she can have her reading time before I come in from the TV room to go to bed. This way we don't disturb each other.
Offer an alternative plan (like mine) before you jump into an argument with her. If she doesn't think she's doing anything wrong, she'll be very defensive if you just jump on her about it. Before saying anything, think how you both could have what you want and not disturb each other. Then, tell her you've been thinking about something that could make bedtime more pleasant for both of you, and share your suggestion. Odds are you'll have success without any argument from her.
Keep an eye on this one, though. It appears she wears the pants! Respect needs to go both ways, and should be earned not expected. Earn her respect, and she'll be more considerate of you.
Good Luck. She sounds like a handful. I bet she shops a lot too.
2006-07-17 10:23:28 · answer #2 · answered by wrdsmth495 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you have a wife who is pretty selfish. I don't see why she cannot read while the TV is on. Why don't you try one of those gadgets that comes with a cordless head phone? Plug the transmitter into the audio jack of the TV. Turn the main volume to the minimum. Only you can hear the sound from the TV on the head phone. You have a win win situation here.
2006-07-17 11:01:47 · answer #3 · answered by Lost Sheep 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing by not fighting back and calmly walking out of the room. But what she did is not right. maybe because you do not talk to her seriously about this and other issues she is using it so often and does not pay attention. So you should ask her why is she doing that and let her know that it is not right. You should have equal rights. If she disagrees, then you tell her, politely, if she does it again, that it is her turn to go to other room and read as you did it before. See what she tells you. If she walks out, you are fine. But if hse start arguing, do not get into the fight, but Rather calm her down and try to talk again. Woman have a lot of stress and more things in their minds as we (men) have. So talking is the best way. I sometimes get upset and angry, but it does not help, even make situation worse. Don't let that happened. Work it out, it'll be fine!
2006-07-17 10:24:01 · answer #4 · answered by Belarus94 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife is being petty. You should confront her the next time she does this sort of thing. Tell her you were there first, and if she wants to lay in bed and read she'll need to do so with earplugs in. She needs to stop being so self-centered and self-absorbed and realize her life doesn't stop with her, but includes you too.
Has this been going on for long, or just start recently? There may be some other dynamic at work here, that this is just an indicator of. You guys may need some marriage counseling to help straighten things out, before the resentment she's creating in you (yes, it is obvious) escalates.
2006-07-17 10:18:53 · answer #5 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a woman answering your question, okay? Well, yes it seems selfish of her, is she trying to make you mad? You need to talk to her about this, if you just put if off, you'll just be getting mad everytime this happens. Maybe she could set aside her own space for reading. Or you could both make the bedroom what it is. Only for sleeping. Have her read somewhere else and you watch t.v. somewhere else. then in the bedroom, no t.v. or books. Marriage is all about compromise. try that with her, and if she doesn't care, then yeah, she's selfish.
2006-07-17 10:24:15 · answer #6 · answered by amsing 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say your wife is the selfish one. But, thats only my opinion and you know what they say about those and how they smell. As a compromise, why don't you get a small night lamp for her side of the bed that isn't bright enough to keep you awake? Or, you can try getting headphones so that only you can hear the TV.
2006-07-17 10:19:01 · answer #7 · answered by wanda s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW that's kind of F'ed up.... My husband HAS to have the tv on to fall asleep and I can not fall asleep unless it is pitch black and not a sound -- so I usually turn it on real low or I wait til he starts snoring and I turn it off (all he ever watches is news, so sometimes it does bore me to sleep and luckily for me - hes becoming an old man so he falls asleep rather quickly.
As for your wife, she does sound very selfish -- isn't there some kind of compromise you could figure out?
2006-07-17 10:22:52 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that werid... Becasue I am deaf and my wife is hearing.. I turn off the sound and watch close caption and she read we are fine in same bed no plm.....
you should set up close caption and see and If she still said can't read if no sound on t.v. or something then something is wrong... you let her read and she should let you watch t.v. in your room... Let me know if that work? It take time to get used to close caption and when my wife was my girlfriend and she said Honey can you turn off the close caption I said sure.. and then I didn't understand I asked her what they said??? did they say this??? then finally she gave up put the close caption on and then she has hard time listen and read the same time. I told her welcome to my deaf world... and later now she got used to it and we have no plm since 9 years now. we have two t.v. have close caption 24/7 and kids t.v. close caption even if they are 3 and 2 years old they will soon pick up fast. before pre school start.
2006-07-17 11:07:00 · answer #9 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just have taken the remote back, and turned the tv back on. She should know her place as the woman in the relationship, and you should just have either done that or turned the light off. Don't put up with that one.
2006-07-17 10:19:45 · answer #10 · answered by Pirate_Wench 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋