I have a big crush on this girl at my school she is 17 and i'm 16. For some reason she is stucked on to my head like i can't stop thinking about her. I remember that she told me that she wanted to take me out on Thursday and Saturday out to the movies to see The Scanner Darkly. Anyways she was asking me about this question about sex. She asked me if i love her, i said yes, she asked me if i can go to her house to have sex in her bedroom.
My question is that should i have sexual intercourse with her or should i wait untill marriage? Also please give me some advice about sex. Cause its my first time. If i want to have sex with her please give me some advice. If you say wait until marriage please tell me why?
2006-07-17 09:57:36 · 17 answers · asked by x_men_fan 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
First off, congratulations on posing the question ... most guys would just run off and do it - at least your giving it some thought ... First crushes can be brutal - but, Honey, you're going to be "in love" at least a dozen more times in life : )
Sounds to me like this girl just wants to use you for her own experience. Yes, some girls can be like the guys and be only after one thing. She knows you like her and will probably do it for that reason. So, to save your heart and possibly your sanity -- don't to it. Trust me, once you do, you'll start thinking you two are a couple or something and she is just going to move on to the next guy ... girls and women can be catty. If you think she's in your head a lot now ... after sex, you'll want a head-transplant! You seem like a sensable guy ... You've got tons of years ahead of you for this kind of stuff ... you're 16 --- sex will always be available -- there's no rush ... Don't do it ...
2006-07-17 10:15:14 · answer #1 · answered by tinthelbc 2 · 8⤊ 1⤋
I'm not going to tell you to wait until marriage. But you've got a crush on her, and that's not enough reason to have sex. Also I can't tell if you're in an actual relationship with her or if you've been on like one date. Wait until you get into a strong, loving relationship where you can talk to each other about anything and everything, including all the semi-embarassing things that have to do with sex. I'm really kind of wondering what she wants out of all this, if it's a relationship or purely sex. Don't do it now; if the two of you stay together and develop this relationship, then the time will come when you can consider sex.
2006-07-17 17:08:44 · answer #2 · answered by staubfinger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you say you have a crush on her and then you say you love her. Which is it? Because there is a HUGE difference between a crush and love. And sorry to say, but at 16 you cannot know what real love is. There is a lot of responsibility that comes with having sex with someone and it doesn't sound to me like you are ready for it. Don't have sex with her just because she wants you to either. Wait until you're older and more mature and more prepared to deal with the consequences that can come with having sex.
2006-07-17 17:03:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should wait untill you get married because im only 14 and i just found out i was pregnant.It's the most devastating news i've ever heard from a doctor.Now i regreat even losing my virginity and i can't figure out a way to tell my parents so do the right thing and wait i sure wish i did.But if you do decide to have sex with this girl make sure you use protection becaues im sure you don't want to have to tell your parents that you got a girl pregnant do you? Well just think about it.
Bye
2006-07-17 17:12:27 · answer #4 · answered by Emily M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first off congrets on you being 16 and still a virgin. What you need to think about is that this girl want to have sex with you just like that, and you are not even her boyfriend, image how many other guys she might have slept with just like that. But if yu do decide to have sex with this girl then wear protection.
2006-07-17 17:50:30 · answer #5 · answered by Butterfly Beauty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont let anybody pressure you into having sex! She may be one of those girls who after its over, starts dissing you. Definitely wait for marriage....sex is so over rated when your young. everybody makes you feel like youre really missing out on something when you arent...there's so much more to be doing at your age instead of having sex. Play a sport or something. Leave the fass girl(s) alone, they'll only get you into trouble. You dont want any babies do you?
2006-07-17 17:04:47 · answer #6 · answered by bib 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I cant tell you if you should because thats you're choice and its you're life. IF you really do love her and wanna be with her forever. Then yeah but you might wanna use a condom EVEN IF SHE SAYS she is on the pill because i have some friends who g/fs said they were on the pill but they werent but I mean if you dont wanna chance the family then dont but if you dont mind then go ahead and have fun. I cant give you any advice on how because thats hard to tell lol. I mean just stick it in then out in then out. unless you're talking about positions.
2006-07-17 17:06:07 · answer #7 · answered by redwings_fan21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your sixteen. You can go to her house. Try hard to get if she wants sex. If you want it go for it. Trust me if you are in her room and she wants it you will WANT it. But if you think she is going to diminish your reputation at school or tell your parents don't do it. Also think about responsibilities if you get her pregnant.
Oh and I give you credit on asking this. Most guys don't ask they just do.
2006-07-17 17:33:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you feel that you are mature enough to handle extreme consequences (such as pregnancy or an STD) then go for it. I'm not saying these things WILL happen, but you should think about all possible outcomes before taking such a huge step. But i think everyone has to decide for themselves if they are ready or not. and do you really love this girl? or just lust after her?
2006-07-17 20:27:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having sex is alot of responsibility if she is pressuring you and you feel nervous don't do it. When your still in school its a bad idea because if she gets pregnant you will have to help with the baby supporting it.
2006-07-17 17:04:25 · answer #10 · answered by AmandaG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋