I want to watch my wife enjoy another man. How do I get her to do it?? Should it be an aquintance, or stranger

Answer 1

Well, has she ever expressed any kind of desire like this? I would strongly suggest bringing it up to her before you run off looking for someone to jump in bed with her. If she's not into it, then there's no hope for that fantasy being fulfilled.

On the other hand, if she surprises you by saying..."Gee honey, that's kind of hot...let's go for it." Now you have a whole new problem the friend vs. stranger.

There's something to be said for friends sleeping with friends, you already know the person, and there may be someone that your wife has secretly been attracted to. However, this is where relationships explode. One partner hooks up with a friend to fulfill a fantasy and the threesome goes horribly bad. These things usually end up in tears because the "third wheel" suddenly becomes your wife's main squeeze (worst case scenario of course).

The problem with a stranger is that you don't know where that man has been. Picking up a stranger leaves you guys open for all kinds of scary diseases. Ultimately, if you want to really go for this, I would suggest approaching a friend, or better yet, find out if there's a swingers club around your area. That generally means you'll be switching partners, but you might find a couple that's game. There may be a swinger woman out there that gets off on watching her husband do another woman. Who knows? Good luck, be safe, and have fun!

Answer 2

Definitely an aquaintance. You can't expect her to feel comfortable enjoying a different man with her husband if they have just met! =) It would help if you would focus on her and make her the center of attention as well! Then you should ask yourself and her if this is a one-time deal. If not, to keep jealousy from taking over, always keep all three of you 'in the loop'. Not one person only talking to the other and leaving the third out! Or maybe she doesn't want another man maybe a girl, find out then go with that!

Answer 3

This is something we do on occasion, and we have been happily married for eight years. We started out with swinging, and still do that also, but for me the pleasure is from watching another man enjoy her. I don't listen to the naysayers, because if your relationship is strong, and it is something that you think you can both enjoy, then I would get her talking about it. Ask her if she has ever thought about it, ask her about her best sexual experience beside you. Although our marriage was great before, we are a in love with each other on a whole new level. Go to a swingers party with someone, you'll see we're mostly happily married couples looking for some sexual enhancement. Good luck, and email if you would like more advice..

Answer 4

You should not do this. You are opening your relationship to a lot of potential troubles: doubts, insecurity, inadeqacy ...

Example: What are you going to do if she really enjoys the experience and wants to do it again, but you don't? What will you do if he turns out to be a better lover than you? Or, if she decides that your you-know-what isn't big enough?

Is really worth it to risk your marriage for what's is really just a whim?

You might try making a fantasy out of it. Some day when she's at home alone, show up dressed as a cop or a repairman and take her every which way you know how.

It's not worth the risk to do this for real.

Answer 5

First. I think you should respect your marriage more. Second can you deal with your wife being with someone else? She might enjoy him more than you. His technique may be a lot better than yours. She may actually have an orgasm. This will open up a bad can of worms. If she is bored with you, you can just ask her and she may say yes. The thought of being with someone new and finding out what turns HIM on may entice her. It should definitely be a stranger, if its someone you know, she may be knocking him off while you are at work. Just use protection.

Answer 6

Do her a favor and get out of the marriage NOW! Whoever she is, she deserves better than you, and once she gets her head clear, I'm sure she will find him. You can then, from a distance, watch her "enjoy" being married to someone who treats her with dignity and respect and has some idea of what marriage is supposed to be. Sheesh...

Answer 7

You know you should of though about that before you are married.... I think that is disrespect what you did your wife and you are married to one person for long time... You should of though about that twice. but you didin't and it all about you not your wife. You need to divorce her and find other woman that will willing to do that.... but you didn't now you do ??? make no sense and I think that very disrespect what you did to your wife right now thinking like that. and I think that you need show respect for your wife period I don't care how you feel or what you want. I would want to sleep with your wife and making sure that she come and live with and I will treat her a true Husband for one person to be with her not let anyone share only me.

You just dumb A$$ that don't know what you doing... all you want you want ... no respect for your wife.

Answer 8

I can't even believe you're entertaining this idea in the first place. If you are truly serious, then I must ask you this: Why did you marry in the first place!?!
How do you "get her to do it"? What kind of ape-like thinking is this anyway?
Acquaintance or stranger? Neither. Take the idea out of your head (where your brain is supposed to be), use it for toilet paper next time you're in the john, flush it down, and forget about it.
For crying out loud.

Answer 9

Better watch what you ask for as it may turn out to be something your wife will enjoy and leave you behind for the other guy.

Answer 10

O.k first thing is first. ask her. tell her that this has bee your fantasy for a while, and would she be willing to help fulfill your fantasty.Who know she may just say yes. and if she does say yes always go with a stranger. what if she doesnt like it, at least then she wouldnt have to be embarresed next time she sees him. good luck hun.